Should I Feel So Guilty?

Wasy

I'm 28 and last weekend i was with an 18 year old girl who is repeating the leaving. I am feeling very guilty even more so because my cousins are in her class. I don't think anyone knows but with Christmas coming i know i could go off with her again, should i be feeling so guilty?

biko

2 consenting adults - no need to feel guilty.
Just don't do it again if it makes things worse.

Is it the age difference?

Karen_*

Well if you're feeling guilty then it obviously goes against your own boundaries. i don't you've done anything wrong though.

challengemaster

You're both adults, and she's not a minor. It's entirely your own decision.

Frogdog

No way! Nothing wrong with it whatsoever. Everything's legal. I presume she didn't mind and she knew what she was doing. Girls are very mature at 18, more mature than us men in our 20s.

You might get a bit of stick from your friends though, but they're probably jealous!

MagicMarker

So long as she was hot you have nothing to feel guilty about:)

All legal and above board.

DapperGent

Objectively speaking I'd say you have nothing to feel guilty about, personally though if I was in the same situation I'd be feeling bad about it and be wondering why I was. There is just something a little icky there.

I'd still probably hit it again though.

LolaLuv

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but it might not be a good thing, either. When I was 18 I got involved with a 26-year-old. It was bad because I was still quite naive and found myself easily attached, whereas he was a bit more jaded. As long as you do your best to keep in mind that she might be more emotionally vulnerable than you are, and do your best not to step on that, things should be fine.

shellyboo

When dating someone considerably younger than you, the Campsite Rule applies: anything goes as long as you leave the person in better shape than you found them.

LolaLuv

shellyboo wrote: »

When dating someone considerably younger than you, the Campsite Rule applies: anything goes as long as you leave the person in better shape than you found them.

I had never heard of that before. What a beautiful life philosophy. Thank you!

tbh

legally, no you've done nothing wrong. Morally - that depends? Did you deliberately get her hammered in order to be with her? Did you put any pressure on her? Did you lead her away from her friends so that you could be with her? If the answer to those questions is no, then you have to look at it this way - she's old enough to drink and vote - if the government think she's old enough to make her own mind up about things, then why should it be any different for you.

Highsider

Legally it's all good.

Anti

Wasy wrote: »

I'm 28 and last weekend i was with an 18 year old girl who is repeating the leaving. I am feeling very guilty even more so because my cousins are in her class. I don't think anyone knows but with Christmas coming i know i could go off with her again, should i be feeling so guilty?

Your an adult, and so is she... Barely. Its all game brother. Fell no remourse for this.

SpookyDoll

No way, she's legal, you're legal. No problem.

Tigger

you broke the half plus seven rule

shame

MizzLolly

Don't be worrying OP, she's an adult.

LegacyUser

Tigger wrote: »

you broke the half plus seven rule

shame

Shame on you moralising on others who have done nothing wrong.

Hope you both enjoyed it OP.

Wasy

She was'nt drunk, if anything she made the running, i was fairly drunk, i'll just have to cut down on the drink so i'll have more willpower because she's a good looking girl, i just feel she is too young.

shellyboo

Wasy wrote: »

She was'nt drunk, if anything she made the running, i was fairly drunk, i'll just have to cut down on the drink so i'll have more willpower because she's a good looking girl, i just feel she is too young.

Well if that's how you feel, then don't see her again. Stay away from her and don't be blaming the drink for your actions - no matter how drunk you are, you still have a choice

Drummerboy08

Whats the difference between this situation here, and say my parents. The oul lad is 50 and the mother is 41.....

I'm happy for ya!