Any Ideas???

Becs82

any ideas how to move on from someone that you KNOW is no good for you, has no respect for you (cos their behaviour towards u is shockin) and will never love you the way you deserve, but who u seem to love, and cant get out of your head despite yourself?

Vanbis

Becs82 wrote: »

any ideas how to move on from someone that you KNOW is no good for you, has no respect for you (cos their behaviour towards u is shockin) and will never love you the way you deserve, but who u seem to love, and cant get out of your head despite yourself?

First of all you need to make a clean break and avoid all contact for good. If they have or show you no respect then you are wasting you're time and need to move on. Once you break contact and move on and start to get on with you're life wheather that is working or going to college each day will get easier, it may take weeks, months but in time you will soon forget and if not at least it will be easier.

LolaLuv

Vanbis wrote: »

First of all you need to make a clean break and avoid all contact for good. If they have or show you no respect then you are wasting you're time and need to move on. Once you break contact and move on and start to get on with you're life wheather that is working or going to college each day will get easier, it may take weeks, months but in time you will soon forget and if not at least it will be easier.

This is good. Also, surround yourself with people who love you and want the best for you. Chances are they'll recognize that the person you're trying to get away from is no good for you and will do everything they can to prevent you from going back. You need to be around people who love you in times like these. It reminds you that you are capable of better.

chops1990

Personally, and speaking for all men, I dont know why women do this to theirselves. Easy explanation, LEAVE HIM

LolaLuv

chops1990 wrote: »

Personally, and speaking for all men, I dont know why women do this to theirselves. Easy explanation, LEAVE HIM

To be fair, the OP never identified as a woman. It could be a man. Incredible as it may sound, there are men who put themselves into these situations, I think just as many men as women do it to themselves.

Firetrap

It's easier said than done. The heart has a funny way of clouding the head.

Breaking all contact is good. Another thing I'd suggest is to delete their number off your phone. I don't know if you can bar a number from your phone but if it is possible, do that.

lolli

i went through this myself and i always kept drifting back to him everytime i came out of a relationship. I had to stop contacting him. Its best just to break contact and ignore him if he contacts you.

Its hard, i know it is but you have to have some self respect, if he cant respect you then its best to stay away from that person and try meet someone who deserves your love.

galaxyminstrels

Been there OP. Keep repeating to yourself that you can do so much better. Delete his number. Don't keep in contact as your hopes will be up about reconciliation. Just tell him you deserve better and your going to find it.
I know easier said then done but it does sink in. Two weeks ago i finished with a guy i had been meeting on and off for 9 mths. Best thing i ever did, now realising i can do better and im so happy without worrying about when he will call or text. Just go out have fun with your friends.
Good luck

Queencake

Step 1: Break all contact. NEVER speak to him again. You owe him nothing. If you run into him in the pub or whatever stay clear.

Step 2: If you find yourself thinking about him distract yourself. Go for a walk, ring a friend, paint your nails anything.

Step 3: Go out and have fun. Focus on enjoying yourself and being a good friend. You'll get over him

Step 4: You'll find a nice guy and you'll be really over the loser.

I've been there. It feels like you'll never get over it. But you do. He will cross your mind from time to time. But the thought won't linger as it does now. You'll get distracted by something shiney or something

It's hard now but every week it'll get better. You've a load of good times ahead.

Wibbs

Try to think of it this way. What you're feeling is not romantic love. If it was it would be returned. Yes it feels the same, but it's not. What you're feeling is a one sided thing that reflects your feelings for someone. It reflects your worry you may never find this again. It reflects your insecurity too. All these are powerful but they can be forgotten and replaced in time with your own sense of emotional balance. When you get to that point you open yourself up so much more than you can imagine and a good man is much more likely to find you and give you the love back that you deserve. Keep that though in your mind everytime you feel weak. It'll pass. It's not "real" and it's just the pain of you growing.