Feel down after one night stand

LegacyUser

So I just had a one night stand, sex was good but I can't help but feel like crap watching the guy leave. I more or less shoved him out the door this morning too. I knew what I was getting into so why do I feel like this? Not particularly pushed about the guy either? I haven't had too many one nighters and would like to overcome this feeling.. Anyone else go through this?

cantdecide

sundayblues wrote: »

So I just had a one night stand, sex was good but I can't help but feel like crap watching the guy leave. I more or less shoved him out the door this morning too. I knew what I was getting into so why do I feel like this? Not particularly pushed about the guy either? I haven't had too many one nighters and would like to overcome this feeling.. Anyone else go through this?

Do you feel like you've let yourself down? Are you disappointed you haven't found something more meaningful? Would you feel more positive about it if the sex was great??

Auldloon

Personally no not really i enjoyed most one nighters and rarely felt regret. Always found it easier to be the one who was leaving in the morning rather than the one being left if that makes sense.
Its natural enough to feel a bit empty when suddenly your rattling around the house alone and the memories of the one who has left still lingering.
Maybe one nighters are not for you? Maybe your getting to the stage where you want more than that from someone.
Either way dont beat yourself up you had a fun night and hopefully some good naughty memories to savour.

MagicMarker

sundayblues wrote: »

So I just had a one night stand, sex was good but I can't help but feel like crap watching the guy leave. I more or less shoved him out the door this morning too. I knew what I was getting into so why do I feel like this? Not particularly pushed about the guy either? I haven't had too many one nighters and would like to overcome this feeling.. Anyone else go through this?

If you keep having this feeling then why do you keep having one night stands?

There's no shame in wanting a little more from sex than a one night stand!

Overheal

Theres no rule that would prevent a one night stand from developing into a relationship either.

estar

dont overcome it, accept it. one night stands are not morally wrong - but they are kind of bad for the self on a frequent basis. everyone needs closeness every so often and if you aren t in a physical relationship they sometimes happen. they should be very infrequent.

just because it has become ok in this generation, and not a big deal, or something to boast about doesnt make it good for you.

its such an intimate act, why make it casual.

i talk to a lot of people who when they let their guard down, talk about how empty one night stands make them feel, and yet because everyone pretends they are a right laugh, they feel weird for this.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies everyone

Feeling a lot better about myself tonight. I guess the reason I am experimenting with one night stands is because I am not very much experienced and was always rather reserved when it came to getting physical early on.
Now mid-20s I have needs and waiting for a realtionship to occur could take forever.. So I am just trying to gain experience I guess.. I wouldn't go through with it unless I was sure and I get caught up in the moment and only afterwards start to feel a little empty. This is natural I imagine. But all in all it was a pleasurable experience and one which I don't really have anything to feel guilty or ashamed of..

Karen_*

I had a few one night stands but I felt crap after them. So the solution is to not have anymore of them. And thats one less thing to feel crap about.

Firetrap

Sounds to me like you've had your fill of them. They seem like a good idea at the time but once the deed is done, you're left with the problem of sharing a bed with someone you don't know. Worse still, either you have to get rid of them in the morning or get out of teir place yourself.

You can't turn off human emotions. Sounds like you're not the sort of person who's suited to one night stands.

nice_guy80

had a few one nighters. sex was often good, but i wouldn't go with a very drunken girl - way too messy.

i often regretted having the one night stand as the girl involved would never want to hear from you again.

maybe if i'd just taken her number then something better would have developed rather than just some sex. oh well

you're not alone

kittensoft1984

it seems to be like you have had enough 1 night stands.......

can i ask why you have them?

Do you not want to be in a relationship?