My mother has a tumor

UndefinedDreams · 07-12-2008 2:41am #1

In September of 2006, my mother had stage 1 uterine cancer. She had a hysterectomy and fully recovered within a couple of months.

When my parents were at the vet yesterday putting the dog to sleep, a lady from the hospital or doctor's office called. I said, can I take a message? The lady on the phone said that she has to get a biopsy done. I said ok, I'll have her call you....yadda yadda yadda.

In the past couple of weeks, doctor offices were calling a few times, and I asked my mother last week, is anything wrong? She said no everything is ok. The doctor on the phone said that he had the results of the catscan or something. Then I saw her upset out of the blue, and I said, is anything wrong? And she said no, everything is ok.

After my parents got home from putting the dog to sleep, I asked my mother privately...."Why do you have to have a biopsy done?" She said that she has a pain in her stomach, and a catscan had shown that something is there. The doctor also gave her a pain reliever for her stomach. She said that she wishes the lady never said anything and that she didn't want me or anyone to worry. She also said don't tell anyone either. She said that it could possibly be cancer, but it also could not be cancer. She will have the biopsy done sometime next week.....she has to make the appointment on Monday.

When she was diagnosed with uterine cancer, I couldn't tell anyone for a week or so. My dad and I are the only ones that know....I am pretty sure my father knows because she was talking to him about the pain reliever. If I went with them to the vet to put the dog asleep, I would have never known. But then again....my sister could have picked up the phone, and then could have told me about it. I am not complaining, because I know....I want to prepare for these things. I don't want to be hit with it all at once. I think I mentioned the biopsy to my sister before I talked to my mom about the biopsy, but I don't think it registered in her head anything about cancer, or a tumor.

Between the dog being put to sleep and this......my family may be hit with a double whammy.

MizzLolly · 07-12-2008 2:48am

Awh, so sorry to hear that OP.

Hope things work out for you all.

Chinafoot · 07-12-2008 2:54am

Thats awful OP and it can't be easy for you. All is will say is, listen to your Mam. I know it's really hard to do but you need to stay strong and positive for her. You don't know what the story is yet and the last thing your Mam needs, or wants, is for you to worry yourself sick over this.

Be there for her and stay as up-beat as you can. I really hope it works out for you.

UndefinedDreams · 07-12-2008 2:45pm

I'm not in panic mode yet....I'm just anxious about this. I will be there for my mother.....I am not working, so I can drive her places if she needs to be driven places. I can also do a lot of things for her. I just don't want to see her go through this.

Firetrap · 07-12-2008 3:26pm

Sorry to hear about your troubles. As a dog owner, I know how you feel about that side of things

I've been through the whole parent with cancer thing too, though thankfully not at the same time as putting a family pet to sleep. It is very easy to start thinking about the worst possible outcomes.

All I can say to you is to take every bit as it comes. I suppose I'd also suggest staying positive but that phrase is only words when you're going up the walls.

My mother has a tumor

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