fancy a girl!

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right, i like his girl at school, she is hot!!
iv never had a gf or even snogged, im nearly 18,
im kinda chubby, i always seem to get the "signals" from girls but wen i text them they never reply.
so it seems that this girl is always lookin at me, but i dont know what i should do!
wat could i say to her in my first text message if i did text her?
or should i save myself the embarrasment?

Jimmy Bottlehead

First of all, understand that if a girl shoots ya down, its her loss, not yours. if you're a good guy, thats true.
Just text her with some question about school, or something else you have in common. Any sort of opening. Then ask her how she is, and go from there. Ask questions that she'll enjoy replying to - make her see you as sound, funny and attentive.

If you feel chubby, why not hit the gym?? Does wonders for your confidence and also it makes it easier for the girls to pay attention...

Try hitting the fitness forum and getting advice there.

Good luck with it!

application

sound thanks alot!!!!!

dioltas

application wrote: »

or should i save myself the embarrasment?

Chance it man, nothing to lose. The embarrassment is only in your head.

application

cheers!

randylonghorn

application wrote: »

so it seems that this girl is always lookin at me, but i dont know what i should do!
wat could i say to her in my first text message if i did text her?
or should i save myself the embarrasment?

Em ... I may be a bit old-fashioned, but have you tried talking to her rather than bloody texting?!

"Hello!" is often a good way to start, or "How are you to-day?"

Annie Bananie

application wrote: »

right, i like his girl at school, she is hot!!
iv never had a gf or even snogged, im nearly 18,
im kinda chubby, i always seem to get the "signals" from girls but wen i text them they never reply.
so it seems that this girl is always lookin at me, but i dont know what i should do!
wat could i say to her in my first text message if i did text her?
or should i save myself the embarrasment?

If you like this girl, staying away from hookers as you posted in your other thread might be a good start tbh. Take your chances with this girl, is my advise. If she is always looking at you, go talk to her instead of texting her. GL

Overheal

randylonghorn wrote: »

Em ... I may be a bit old-fashioned, but have you tried talking to her rather than bloody texting?!

"Hello!" is often a good way to start, or "How are you to-day?"

And whatever you do, do not ask her "How Much?"

Danimalito

application wrote: »

right, i like his girl at school, she is hot!!
iv never had a gf or even snogged, im nearly 18,
im kinda chubby, i always seem to get the "signals" from girls but wen i text them they never reply.
so it seems that this girl is always lookin at me, but i dont know what i should do!
wat could i say to her in my first text message if i did text her?
or should i save myself the embarrasment?

Ok, whenever you're studying or working with a girl, what you need to do is to make it absolutely clear to her that you want to shag her, yet give her an easy way out, in case she's not interested.

Basically just ask her out, in non-pervy way. Oh, and no texting... although it may seem intimidating at first, you'd be better off in the long run learning how to ask women out in person

dioltas

Ya Danimalito is right. Make conversation. Just make samll talk, and then pluck up the courage and ask her if she'd like to go to the cineam / go for a drink sometime with you. You've nothing to lose like. If you don't ask you'll never know.

JohnGalt

application wrote: »

right, i like his girl at school, she is hot!!
iv never had a gf or even snogged, im nearly 18,
im kinda chubby, i always seem to get the "signals" from girls but wen i text them they never reply.
so it seems that this girl is always lookin at me, but i dont know what i should do!
wat could i say to her in my first text message if i did text her?
or should i save myself the embarrasment?

If you lose some weight girls will like you more, girls don't really like fat overweight guys. Don't be shy when you do approach her after losing weight though, confidence is attractive and being self conscious is not. Best of luck with the weight loss mate

CianRyan

Just thought i'd point out, being chuby should deter you at all, in my experience, what most girls are looking for is a nice guy and not a male model.
And tbh, being in shape wont make it any easier... trust me. :rolleyes:
But if you think it will help, then you might aswell do that too, its healtier too.

Key things to remember, if you get rejected thats the worst thing thats gonna happen, and so what if you do? Their loss.

Be confident, but not cocky, act natural like, girls are just people liek you and me.

And if all fails, at least you'll have a new friend at the end of the day right?


Go for it man, nothing to lose but an experience if you dont try.

Good lucky.
(ps. i get complements on my looks all the time, but it doesnt make a difference to my confidence, i stick suck when it comes to girls >.<)

LegacyUser

Hi OP! Just wanted to say, I feel your pain! I'm a girl but was also [and still am] quite chubby. I didn't snog a guy until I was 18 & always felt very self conscious about it. People seem to think that weight is something that bothers girls only but that's not true. Sometimes we have this warped perception of ourselves and that's dangerous. If you exercise you're probably not that overweight at all. Some girls like skinny fellas, some don't. I don't.

Same with fellas - some like skinny girls, some don't. God knows it's been debated on here enough! I will urge you NOT to become hung up on how you look. I've been unhappy for years and am in my early 20's now and totally regret wasting time worrying about how I look, whether anyone would ever find me attractive etc etc. I now have a lovely boyfriend and even if things don't work out with him I know that he finds me attractive now and so someone else will in the future.

I know I'm dwelling on the weight thing but because you mentioned it you obviously this as a reason for not pulling girls, and I don't want you falling into the same sorta trap I did and become obsessed and upset about my weight, which wasn't really the issue, my confidence was.

Anyway, it is true, girls do like the nice guy. If you have lots of friends and you're popular, girls will like you, they might be just too shy. Growing up and teenage years are tough - it's hard to find someone who likes you, who you like also. Often you'll find one doesn't like the other! I know you must have been joking about the hooker thing in another forum as a boy who hasn't had a gf definitely doesn't want to go down that route.

Honestly, be yourself. Treat them as normal people [girls that is, not hookers!] If you want to find the nice girl, then be the nice guy. Don't go getting warped off your face on drink just because it's seen as the cool thing to do. The worthy girls will appreciate that you stand your ground & girls love guys who make them laugh! Don't be worried about your weight. That's not the issue. Pretend to be confident if you're not. Talk to them. Listen. And have a laugh.