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easily jealous, have to be the best

  • 05-12-2008 4:29pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi, im not talking about with women when I talk about jealousy, Im talking about in a hobby or in work. Im a guy in my mid 20s and if I have an interest in something it sickens me when im not doing better than everyone else.
    Just to clarify Im not a sore loser( to an extent), i.e. I don't mind losing in a game and I genuinely don't care if its something i don't have too much an interest in. Its just when I have an interest in something I am constantly trying to prove to myself and everyone that I am the best. Other people don't know this as I tend not express my annoyance. I even complement them and let on im not bothered but it kills me.
    In my job we have been doing assessments and recently a few lads did better than me, and in my own head it really really p1ssed me off.
    Then 2 days ago I got the best result and it was just a relief which is ridiculous.

    The worst was when I used to have a really strong passion for writing music and was quite talented (kinda still am) if I do say so myself. It used kill me to see local people that werent famous or successful that were better than me. It would make me lose all heart. Just pure jealousy.
    I since lost interest anyway, but that was for other reasons, just the passion got lost which doesnt bother me.

    Ive been recently getting into another hobby and Im actually worried about getting too into it incase im not able to be completely successful in it and ruining it for myself.

    Does anyone else have this problem, is it something I can get rid of. Im not talking about under achieving and not caring, i just mean taking it easy and enjoying things for the sake of enjoying things rather than trying to be the best.

    I know you could argue its a good thing, striving to improve and all that,but its not, especially if your clearly not as good at something as someone else. It just becomes annoying and drives you to over envy and jealousy, you cant be good at everything.

    Sorry for the rant, maybe just writing this will help things. It kind of worked for me before on here


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