Another relationship one-sorry!

LegacyUser

Ok gona make it as short as i can!
Long distance relationship[im 22 and hes 29], first kissed on the first a june been texting and talking everyday since, started properly going out come september, tell each other everything, only see each other the weekends, his ex is still texting him but he says there friends nothing more, trust him not her.
I am starting to develop strong feelings for him, i know he really likes me but thats it at the moment.
Starting to get afraid mainly of the unknown, have major college exams coming up and head is frazzelled!!
Really need some advice.

towel401

probably nothing to worry about. wait till you see more signs of him messing around before getting paranoid

Stheno

Unregistered wrote: »

Ok gona make it as short as i can!
Long distance relationship[im 22 and hes 29], first kissed on the first a june been texting and talking everyday since, started properly going out come september, tell each other everything, only see each other the weekends, his ex is still texting him but he says there friends nothing more, trust him not her.
I am starting to develop strong feelings for him, i know he really likes me but thats it at the moment.
Starting to get afraid mainly of the unknown, have major college exams coming up and head is frazzelled!!
Really need some advice.

What is it you are afraid of? Afraid that with exams coming up, you'll not have time to see him? Afraid that if you are too busy his ex will come back on the scene?

Do you trust him about the ex? With a long distance relationship that's a big ask imo.

LegacyUser

Sorry forgot to say that, usually every weekend or second weekend if something happens.

Sprouts

Texting the ex is a little worrying no? Im a bloke and I find it hard to believe that once you have been intimate with someone you can just go to being just friends. I normally cut contact. It would appear he may be keeping his options open, just be careful.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Unregistered wrote: »

his ex is still texting him but he says there friends nothing more, trust him not her.
I am starting to develop strong feelings for him, i know he really likes me but thats it at the moment.

Love that line. It takes two to tango so surely you have nothing to worry about.

On the feelings for each other. Don't make him feel trapped and don't make it obvious he's "in control". We may feel safer but ultimately find it unattractive, it might keep us around longer in the short term but will ultimately lead to further heartbreak for you.

cantdecide

You should tell him you're not comfortabole with a the texts. I think you sound far along the road enough to maybe decide some parameters for yourselves.

LegacyUser

I have told him that him texting her does bother me but he has told me that she is his ex for a reason and that he would never cheat on me, yet im like why are you still texting her so much still so!!!! he just says she needs a friend. i know im been jealous but i dont think id be only for the fact its a long distance relationship.
O i dont know its really annoying me now and the long distance thing never really bothered me before but since ive started to feel more than just really liking him it has and ive exams coming up starting next week so i wont be able to see him until nearly christmas because i really have to study as they are my finals.
Im debating whether just to run away from my troubles and just end it or stand up and face the unknown and stop been afraid of getting hurt cause i know it will happen some day!

Aurora Borealis

Carrying out a relationship in preemptive mode does not help you and leads to feeling very insecure. Trust in it and you'll enjoy it and each other so much more. Obviously don't be stupid if there are glaring warning signs but I don't think texting an ex really is and many people can have friendships after an intimate relationship. I have. In short there's no point being in a relationship with someone unless you do trust them. Relax, concentrate on your exams. At the end of the day, all done, you'll be fine.

Nehaxak

Give him the cold shoulder for a while. If he bothers to inquire as to why, tell him to stop texting his ex, get over her or go back to her but either way to stop wasting your time as you don't like being messed about with.