I don't know what to do

Orla K

I've been on the dole for over a year, first of all I hate it. I left college with the intention of going back in 2-3 years, moved back home, moved out because my father had to rent out the house, he's a semi retired builder, in the 'good' times he was just getting odd jobs, mainly fixing the things the full time builders left behind. Anyway, I moved out, got a place of my own, with very reluctant help from the community welfare officer.

Going back abit now, I've always been depressed, while in college it got worse, I had a chat with the head of the department and he was fine with me going off for afew years before I did the add on year. I went home after the summer and my friend (and the only one I'd talk to about stuff bothering me) was sick, in and out of hospital for the year but mostly in, he eventually died. That only made me worse. Since I've left college I haven't progressed in the slightest, I can't go back to college, I can't find a job, I can't even seem to go to the kitchen today or even out of bed. I want a job but whenever I do look I don't even get to the stage of sending off my cv, I just end up crying. I'm paranoid that they will find out I haven't applied for any jobs and take the jobseekers allowance away. That and the rent allowance are the only sources of income I have, without them I don't know what I'll do.

I feel like I'm in over my head, I don't know what to do to get out. I don't know what I can do.

IsThatSo?

I don't think this is the right place for you to get advice right now. Go to your Doctor and get medical advice.

If you can get on top of your depression the rest will seem a lot clearer

SAVE_ME.222

Orla K wrote: »

I want a job but whenever I do look I don't even get to the stage of sending off my cv, I just end up crying. I'm paranoid that they will find out I haven't applied for any jobs and take the jobseekers allowance away.

If it's any consolation to you, the fact you are even (presumably) visiting jobs websites and looking at jobs with interest counts as "effort towards finding employment" in the eyes of the social welfare.

Also I'll probably get flamed for saying this but most social welfare offices are insanely busy at the moment and don't have time to be checking up on people. I have a few friends who were laid off in June/July, have been claiming since then and haven't once been asked for proof of job applications.

trailerparkboy

I think you need to get out more perhaps join the libary or go out for the odd few drinks, ive been o n the dole for a long time myself but i alwys occupie myself, like going for a few drinks reading cooking and going to the bookies most days.

Sephiroth_dude

go for a pint and a walk in park,go for a walk out in country,theres nothing better than nice clean country air in the morning.

LoanShark

Hi,
I've on jobseekers for three months now and I too hate it.Thankfully, I'm getting interviews but have just been a bit unforunate in getting the jobs..
As some have said, go for a walk or start reading books relevant to your profession, But unlike others I would not suggest going to the pub,I mean seriously if you're suffering with depression in some way, drinking might make it worse..
Do things that make a positive on your life..(i'm not suggesting that you are a messy person) Delcutter your flat, tidy up your wardrobe etc..
I have a neighbour who, two weeks ago was diagnosed with cancer,He was in our house on Saturday night and all he was talking about was being positive..to quote him "I am fully convinced that in this world with every negative there most definately is a positive...And if you concentrate on the positive you will get through this!!" His positives were that two men in the same hospital ward as him have both been given the all clear and that is his focus to be told that too..

As I said I too am on the jobseekers and last week was an all time low, I had two job refusals in the one day!!! After speaking to my neighbour, I am taking his words seriously and only looking forward..