Clitoris too sensitive right at the crucial moment!!

LegacyUser

Going unregged for this (for obvious reasons).

My girlfriend has this problem. And I want to see if it's common or curable or if it's something that we will have to work around in other ways.

So we have a very normal sex life - except for one part. During sex (oral or otherwise), my girlfriend gets right to the point of orgasm - and just at the crucial moment, her clitoris gets extremely sensitive, and can't handle any more stimulation. It's always the same, regardless of whether it's hands or mouth down there. We've tried a few things, but nothing has seemed to work. Last week, I bought a silver bullet, in the hope that might help her cum, but sadly, that didn't work either.

I'm wondering if anyone else has had this problem? If anyone has any thoughts on what to do about it? I am half thinking of buying a vibrator and seeing if she can have a vaginal orgasm, but she's kinda uncomfortable with the idea of anything other than a penis going inside her.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

shellyboo

Unregistered wrote: »

My girlfriend has this problem. And I want to see if it's common or curable or if it's something that we will have to work around in other ways.

Very very common, but not curable... and neither is it necessary to cure!

Unregistered wrote: »

So we have a very normal sex life - except for one part. During sex (oral or otherwise), my girlfriend gets right to the point of orgasm - and just at the crucial moment, her clitoris gets extremely sensitive, and can't handle any more stimulation. It's always the same, regardless of whether it's hands or mouth down there. We've tried a few things, but nothing has seemed to work. Last week, I bought a silver bullet, in the hope that might help her cum, but sadly, that didn't work either.

Points for enthusiasm and openmindedness! But that was never going to be a great solution for an oversensitive clit. It's a much more intense feeling than fingers or tongue.

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm wondering if anyone else has had this problem? If anyone has any thoughts on what to do about it? I am half thinking of buying a vibrator and seeing if she can have a vaginal orgasm, but she's kinda uncomfortable with the idea of anything other than a penis going inside her.

Ok, question - if you can't make her come clitorally because of the sensitivity, and she hasn't - from what I infer from the highlighted text above - ever had a penetrative orgasm with you, does she orgasm when having sex with you? And more importantly, can she orgasm alone?

If she can, then you need to get her to show you how she does it. It may well be that she would never use direct clitoral stimulation to get herself off, as many women find that feeling too intense. A lot of women start out masturbating by simply squeezing their legs together or by rubbing off a pillow or the mattress... from what you say, she may be one of these women.

She might be too shy to tell you this, though, or to show you... so perhaps, using the bullet, see how she responds to indirect clitoral stimulation. Use it outside her underwear to see how she responds, and only go in for more direct stimulation if she asks you to.

But the crucial thing is to find out if she can orgasm by herself - once you break that barrier, it's merely a question of you learning her technique.

John Mason

very simple to cure.

move your finger away from the clit and rub the side areas instead - where the root is (i am sure some one has the correct term for that part)

but there you go solved

Marksie

Good point shellyboo .

Another aspect..how is your approach?
In other words how do you stroke... in my exprience the use of light butterly (or humming bird) strokes allows for more prolonged stimulation as it doesnt over stimulate a sensitive clitoris.
also slow gentle strokes and not concentrating on the pearl, but arounmd the hood.
Where someone does get sensitive, how about movnig away to the opening of the vagina itself it can be very arousing and induce orgasm juts circling there. the groove between the clitrois and the vagina is pleasurable. You can move back and increase the pleateau
There is also the G-spot or gentle internal stroking before returning.
Soi there are more than one erogenous zone.
But great on actually knowing where it is .

One thing, she may be very very aroused and wet, use that natural lubrication (a quick dip into her will coat the finger..or use a small blob of lubricant before starting. The excess friction fo being dry will increase the oversensitisation

Same with tongue, while lapping strokes will get to the point too much will hurt. Very gentle swirling and circling will help, even berathing with the lips, perhaps very very light sucking and with the use of the tip of the tongue (very very light though)

So: go slow, go genlte, use lube there even if she is wet.
If she is getting close..go slow, and go light.

If it an "in the head issue" then one thing may be to continue stroking but get her to lock eyes with you and guide her through it..get her out of her head and relexed to move on past the barrier

You WILL get there..i have no doubt

bH i find vibrators too inanimate for want of a better word. The fingers and tongue can feel and respond in a much better fashion as you are directly in contact

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Going unregged for this (for obvious reasons).

My girlfriend has this problem. And I want to see if it's common or curable or if it's something that we will have to work around in other ways.

So we have a very normal sex life - except for one part. During sex (oral or otherwise), my girlfriend gets right to the point of orgasm - and just at the crucial moment, her clitoris gets extremely sensitive, and can't handle any more stimulation. It's always the same, regardless of whether it's hands or mouth down there. We've tried a few things, but nothing has seemed to work. Last week, I bought a silver bullet, in the hope that might help her cum, but sadly, that didn't work either.

I'm wondering if anyone else has had this problem? If anyone has any thoughts on what to do about it? I am half thinking of buying a vibrator and seeing if she can have a vaginal orgasm, but she's kinda uncomfortable with the idea of anything other than a penis going inside her.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

I get that every time I try to orgasm orally!

dudara

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dudara