First kiss

LegacyUser

hi everyon. Going unregged for this one as it's a bit embarassing. Anyway I'm a 19 year old girl and have never kissed anyone. There's a guy i really like and i know he likes me. We went out during the week but didn't kiss. We're going out again this week. The main thing that's worrying me is whether he will know that I have never kissed anyone before or not? I'm afraid that he will think that I'm a really cr*p kisser and that he will realise that I have never kissed anyone before

Varkov

Believe me, its not a mojor concern for most guys, don't worry.

coffey-16

Varkov wrote: »

Believe me, its not a mojor concern for most guys, don't worry.

yeah as long as hes into you it wont really bother him

challengemaster

Who cares? Just go with it if it happens

MizzLolly

Don't think about it and just enjoy it.

~nop~

First kisses with new people are often akward anyway. I doubt he will notice anything and if he does he'll think it's him, don't worry yourself at all!

uberwolf

kissing is like dancing, you're reacting to the other person all the time. So if in doubt, just try to mimic his moves.

Don't let yourself go home without having kissed him, even if that means you've to make the first move.

JonathanAnon

Would agree with the above. You have lost nothing by not engaging in the usual drunken 14-17 year party sex, though you may feel like you are a prude right now.


The guy will probably be a bit chuffed that you are his first kiss. Just go with it like they say. And best of luck, I hope it works out for you.

In$omniac

You will be fine just take it nice and slow

i'd think it was cool to be honest.. and it takes a bit of an effort to be a bad kisser and there arn't that many so chances are you'll be grand.

Chucky the tree

If it's bothering you why not tell him? If your sitting there on the date nervous about the kiss at the end it will ruin the enjoyment and he might pick up on your nervousness and think he's doing/done something wrong.

Weidii

The most nerve wrecking part of any first kiss is the leadup to it. Once it happens you'll be fine, it'll take its own natural course.

Basically, relax, let it happen and enjoy.

Het-Field

I remember thinking "this is what a c**k must feel like when its being slipped into a condom.

No Joke

tbh

the thing is op, if this is a big deal for you, he's going to know that something's up, and if he really likes you, he'll probably worry that it's something to do with him. So if you tell him, you not only make him feel very relieved, but also you're giving him a gesture of trust - you're telling him something he'll know you probably feel embarrassed about, and if he's a decent guy, he'll probably be touched by that.

btw - make sure he's worth it. You never forget your first

codeblack

Hi OP! I completely understand your worry, i felt the exact same when i had yet to kiss someone. But seriously dont worry about it, theres no special technique that only us kissers know is right or wrong. Theres really nothing to worry about, just relax (easier said than done i know) and enjoy yourself, take it slow at first and you will definitely find your feet.

That Girl..

~nop~ wrote: »

First kisses with new people are often akward anyway. I doubt he will notice anything and if he does he'll think it's him, don't worry yourself at all!

Exactly, you'll always be nervous kissin someone new for the first time.

Just follow his lead and you'll be fine..
Seriously don't let it worry you.:)

Curvy Vixen

floatingsmartie wrote: »

But seriously dont worry about it, theres no special technique that only us kissers know is right or wrong. Theres really nothing to worry about, just relax (easier said than done i know) and enjoy yourself, take it slow at first and you will definitely find your feet.

And what's right for one person will be wrong for another. Mimicking what they do until you get some confidence yourself to take the lead is a good idea.

Don't go in with tongue hanging out and mouth wide open, just kiss on the lips like you would kiss someone on the cheek for the first couple of 'pecks' and let them lead you.

First kisses are magical....both your very first one, but also each of your first kisses with new people. It's great finding out how someone kisses...and I still get butterflies before my first kiss with someone new even at my age

TouchingVirus

Curvy Vixen wrote: »

Don't go in with tongue hanging out and mouth wide open, just kiss on the lips like you would kiss someone on the cheek for the first couple of 'pecks' and let them lead you.

Just for emphasis

Mouth wide open, tongue going wild is all well and good but I'm not a fan of it myself.

Follow his lead is a great suggestion, it's what I did for my first one and while it wasn't as fairytale magical as Curvy Vixen's it was still pretty damn enjoyable

Marksie

I remmeber back to when i was younger than you OP and had the same worries to an extent.

I ended up kissing mirrors to see if it woudl work.

Years on a smile at that, and the fact that my first kiss was in the end for all the mirror kissing wonderful.

Techniques wise not the nest, but it just happened slowly..and thats the key don't rush it.

Newbie to kissing or old hat, it is an artr that can be acquired, with or without a mirror .

While the mirror trick did sorta help in that i kne how far my lips parted. It was somethnig esle.

Its about awarness, focus, not rushing and letting the kiss develop from a first touching to deepening.


Awareness: look at your fella, just pause to take a look and be aware of him.
Focus on his lips and slsowly move to them without opening too wide.. dont rush with mouth agape, just allow it to be moved into, gentle touching then going deepr...put all your awareness and focus in the senstations of the kiss. The texture and taste of the lips, let it depen and fall into it,. respond to their movements with what feels natural.
From just working the lips to parting them..all slowly.

If you are still nervous initially, just lightly peck around the cheek and move in to brush and touch the surface of the skin. Keep it simple but aware. if your kissing the skin but moving towards the lips, then you can part your lips and flick lightly with your tongue on the cheek.

But if you do this slowly and let it just grow, then you will be fine

Frogdog

I wouldn't tell him he's your first, some guys can be turned off by that or made more nervous so that they have to "perform" or that the kiss "be everything you imagined a first kiss would be".

Let him take the lead, us lads usually do!