First date.....

LegacyUser

went on first date with girl last night, night went good, few drinks, got on well, had a laugh. she said to me near the end of the evening that we should go out again. only thing that is bothering me now is that there was no kiss at the end of the night. as i walked her to the taxi she linked arms with me but never actually kissed. it was nearly like it was two friends going for a drink rather than a date.

so im looking for opinions on this. if a guy asked you out for a drink, would you ever go along thinking of it as just friends and nothing more? personally i think it would be a bit harsh to go out for a one-on-one drink unless you wanted something more to happen.

i was thinking of it as more of a date last night but when im thinking about it now, im wondering did she just think of it as a few drinks with a friend.

~nop~

Did you try to kiss her? Sounds like she wanted you to make a move

J.S. Pill

notsure wrote: »

as i walked her to the taxi she linked arms with me but never actually kissed. it was nearly like it was two friends going for a drink rather than a date.

You're in there my son! (Sorry to sound like a cockney football coach there)

Personally I never go for a kiss on a first date, peck on the check is sufficient. Unless there were other vibes that pointed to 'two friends going for a drink' I would not worry one bit.

Overheal

My friends ended up going on a good few outings before kissing. Last I checked they were still together.

LegacyUser

in fairness i never tried to kiss her, i was probably waiting for her to give me a sign that she wanted a kiss but it never came. can't help feeling a bit disappointed though that nothing happened. she wants to meet again though, so im thinking thats a good sign....just hopefully it is a second date rather than getting a new friend!!!

cantdecide

I know how you feel. It's the old women's signals thing again.

I was in a similar postion recently. I was out with a friend and we bumped into a friend of my friend, who was also out with a friend (confused? me too!).

My friend got into a big chat with her friend, leaving us two strangers together. We got chatting really hit it off and found each other good company. The night wore on and we would soon have our respective ways to go. All of a sudden, she just went cold. I couldn't tell if it was because she realised that if I were going to kiss her, it would be soon hence a big row back in diplomacies. Alternatively, I could have left it too late and blown it.

That's it. I'm off to the basement to invent a women's signal transponder.

OP, it sounds like it could go either way at the moment. I'd stick my neck out if I were you...

Nevyn

No kisses = not a date imho.

Why didn't you ?
or if you don't want to lunge at her try asking if you can kiss her or saying
that you would like to and and ask may you and when she nods or says yes just kiss the girl.

or really why didn't she....

Sometimes it better of to get the first kiss over and done with at the start of the date rather then letting it build up too much, hate having a great evening to find at the end of it they can't kiss and your getting slobbered on by a puppy dog.

Piste

If it was the first date you're still getting to know each other, so why would you be at kissing stages? Like I wouldn't be comfortable kissing someone I didn't know too well, though I know there are girls who would. If she wants to see you again then it seems as though she's into you. If she seems a little cooler on the next date and you seem to be heading the platonic route then take it up with her if it's bothering you. I'd definitely go on the second date though.

Baggly

Im always hesitant to make the first move myself. But getting a second date is such a better thing than gettin a kiss imo.

First kisses rock, but there is no rush. No point in finding the best kisser ever if she doesnt want to be around you.

Dont worry about it and organise that second date...

And make a move this time

She Devil

Next time you are with her at the end of the evening ask her does she mind if you kiss her, that gentlemanly charm does it every time.
She likes you, its obvious/, go arrange that second date now.

Nevyn

Piste wrote: »

If it was the first date you're still getting to know each other, so why would you be at kissing stages? Like I wouldn't be comfortable kissing someone I didn't know too well, though I know there are girls who would. If she wants to see you again then it seems as though she's into you. If she seems a little cooler on the next date and you seem to be heading the platonic route then take it up with her if it's bothering you. I'd definitely go on the second date though.

Why would you go out on a 'date' with someone what you are not physically attracted enough to want to at least kiss them ?

Baggly

the 'wait and see' approach to dating.

'oh, maybe he will grow on me'

the 'free drink' approach to dating

'oh, maybe ill at least get a free drink'

Just two examples i know of

daisybelle2008

Being asked for a kiss is a big turnoff for me....if the chemistry is there is will happen naturally. It is not essential it happens on the first date. Go for a second and make a move if it feels right.

~nop~

Make sure and make a move next time, otherwise she'll think that you just want to be friends!

Curlypinkie

I didn't know lads expected a kiss after the first date????

Like I get infections quite easily and someone else's bacteria makes me come down with a cold or throat infection a few days later. I need to know if the person I'm kissing will be worth the hassle

Also, was it busy around you guys when you saw her off in the taxi? I wouldn't be the first one to kiss in public either, very shy with public affection before I know the person well.

Definitely give it another go. And don't ask to kiss her. Just kiss her

Wibbs

Curlypinkie wrote: »

Definitely give it another go. And don't ask to kiss her. Just kiss her

Nail on the head. Its many a womans wuss filter to see if you have the stones to give it a go.

Colonel_McCoy

Dont worry about it, been in the same situation before. Next time just make a move.....

petethebrick

Thaedydal wrote: »

No kisses = not a date imho.

Why didn't you ?
or if you don't want to lunge at her try asking if you can kiss her or saying
that you would like to and and ask may you and when she nods or says yes just kiss the girl.

or really why didn't she....

Sometimes it better of to get the first kiss over and done with at the start of the date rather then letting it build up too much, hate having a great evening to find at the end of it they can't kiss and your getting slobbered on by a puppy dog.

Agree with most but not asking a girl can you kiss her- that's gay imo!

LegacyUser

A guy asked me for a date after our first day. It was very cute. Saying that I fancied the arse off him so I have no idea if it would have been quite as cute if he wasn't...

She was waiting for you to make the first move imo... Next time do.

Nevyn

petethebrick wrote: »

Agree with most but not asking a girl can you kiss her- that's gay imo!

If you are asking a girl may you kiss her it's not gay unless you are also a girl.
Nowt wrong with asking consent before engaging in a sexual act with another person.

Curvy Vixen

Thaedydal wrote: »

If you are asking a girl may you kiss her it's not gay unless you are also a girl.
Nowt wrong with asking consent before engaging in a sexual act with another person.

+1!

And there's ways of asking that would totally get a yes! You don't need to say 'Excuse me my lady, may I show my regards for you by having the pleasure of a lip touching moment!' Something like, 'I've been dying to do this all evening, do you mind if I kiss you?' would most likely get you the required action

petethebrick

Thaedydal wrote: »

If you are asking a girl may you kiss her it's not gay unless you are also a girl.
Nowt wrong with asking consent before engaging in a sexual act with another person.

I didn't mean gay as in homosexual gay - I meant it as in wussiness gay. It's not a sexual act we're talking about here- it's just a kiss!
If a girl agrees to go out on a date with me she should take it for granted that I'm gonna be movin in some kissing at some point in the evenin is all I'm sayin!

melekalikimaka

friend zone

but seriously, emmm maybe ask? whats the worse that can happen

Frogdog

OP, don't worry about it. It's happened me before. It was my first date in a while and it was her first time dating after a break-up. We both got on great but it just didn't happen. I walked with her to get her a taxi home and then we stopped and stood on the side of the road. I was about to kiss her but a taxi pulled up at the worst moment! :mad:

I got a peck on the cheek that night and on the second date I made sure I nailed her!:D

Seraphina

im in two minds about the whole asking for a kiss thing, i don't think its wussy, and it gives me the opportunity to decline without moving away or trying to dodge a kiss that i'm just not interested in. fact is, after the first date, the girl may have decided she's not that into you. however if she agrees to a second one, nay suggests it, i think that is definitely the time to make your move.

cantdecide

You don't have to be all proper- make a joke of it.

One of the best lines I've heard is a mate turning to a girl and pointing to me. He said "see my friend there". At this point the girl is gone ashen with the horrifying memories of all those terrible teenage discos. "He was wondering if you would kiss...me".

I don't know if it was doing the rounds at the time but it was killer when he said it...

LegacyUser

deffo make a move the next time, sometimes i ask for a kiss sometimes i jus go for it, if ur asking for a kiss do it in a cheeky way

or if u's are txtn u cud say it in a joke way either