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  • 28-11-2008 03:09AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I suppose my problem is i am afraid to go out on dates in case it turns into one big long awkward silence. I dont know what to talk about? With my mates I would discuss sport or hot girls but I dont know what id do if i was out alone with a girl i mean wat wud u discuss?


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Life the universe and everything.
    But on a date it's always nice to ask people about themsevles.
    So what would you want to know about her ?


  • #3
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,650 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    I feel like a hypocrite for giving advice on this because I am the same in practical terms but what I know is this.

    Ask her about herself, find common ground, build on that.


  • #4
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Unregistered66 wrote: »
    I suppose my problem is i am afraid to go out on dates in case it turns into one big long awkward silence. I dont know what to talk about? With my mates I would discuss sport or hot girls but I dont know what id do if i was out alone with a girl i mean wat wud u discuss?


    I find it extremely hard to believe that the only things you ever talk about with your mates are sport and hot girls... surely, SURELY, you talk about other things? Work? Family? The news? TV? Films?

    Anyway - don't you have any female relatives? Sisters, cousins, aunts, your mum? What do you talk to these women about, cos I'm presuming it's not hot girls.

    What I'm trying to say is, you're making a mountain out a molehill. You probably talk to loads of different people - men and women - every day on a whole range of topics without even realising it.


  • #5
    Curvy Vixen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Curvy Vixen


    And if you're going on a date go on one where you do something other than sit and drink or eat.

    Not the cinema or anything but maybe bowling or a match or even the theatre or a comedy club.

    That'll instantly give you something in common and will fill any silences.


  • #6
    AngryBadger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,251 ✭✭✭AngryBadger


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Life the universe and everything.
    But on a date it's always nice to ask people about themsevles.
    So what would you want to know about her ?

    +1 brilliant advice.

    OP have a listen of maybe 4/5 simple questions you might bring up in conversation. Just about everyday stuff, work, college, whatever. One of those will click and the conversation will be away in a hack.

    Don't worry about the "right" kind of conversations, just talk about whatever you would normally talk about, and if the lady in question is broed or not interested that's her problem :D


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  • #7
    qt9ukbg60ivjrn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 384 ✭✭qt9ukbg60ivjrn


    i went on two dates ever,

    one was a drink with a girl - disaster, awkward silences are the worst thing ever, one of the most embarressin situations i've been in

    the other one was to a cinema (not the same girl) - it was grand cause i didn't have to talk, and then when the movie finished we could talk about it, but some people think the cinema is a cop out


  • #8
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    Well, an awkward silence now and again is normal, esp. at the beginning of a relationship. As you get to know each other though you will see the number of possible chat topics multiply. If they don't, then I'd be worried about what you as a couple will do when the first head-over-toes-in-love-phase is over.


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