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  • 26-11-2008 12:56am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi...I have a problem, and this seems to be the most appropriate thread to post it in. I'm a virgin, and was recently 'gifted' a vibrator. I've tried to use it, but can't as it's just far too uncomfortable....dunno if I'm doing it wrong or what but it doesn't look too good for my sex life if and when it starts!!!


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  • #2
    wasper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭wasper


    Unregistered wrote: »
    Hi...I have a problem, and this seems to be the most appropriate thread to post it in. I'm a virgin, and was recently 'gifted' a vibrator. I've tried to use it, but can't as it's just far too uncomfortable....dunno if I'm doing it wrong or what but it doesn't look too good for my sex life if and when it starts!!!
    I don't understand as to why you stayed a virgin & now you want to experience sex for the first time with a vibrator instead of a man?
    IMHO you need to go out & meet some nice guy & develop a relationship that will lead to intimacy.


  • #3
    MrVestek
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,258 ✭✭✭MrVestek


    wasper wrote: »
    I don't understand as to why you stayed a virgin & now you want to experience sex for the first time with a vibrator instead of a man?

    Who are you to tell anybody how to start their sex life?

    Op what you're experiencing is completely natural, you probably just haven't broken your hymen is all. Just try it in small steps and don't be trying to get it all in in the first time as that will hurt. Also don't try using it dry either, have you tried using some lube?


  • #4
    wasper
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭wasper


    Achilles wrote: »
    Who are you to tell anybody how to start their sex life?

    Op what you're experiencing is completely natural, you probably just haven't broken your hymen is all. Just try it in small steps and don't be trying to get it all in in the first time as that will hurt. Also don't try using it dry either, have you tried using some lube?
    She approached the forum for advice. Stop pontificating & try to understand what she wrote.


  • #5
    m5ex9oqjawdg2i
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,221 ✭✭✭✭m5ex9oqjawdg2i


    wasper wrote: »
    I don't understand as to why you stayed a virgin & now you want to experience sex for the first time with a vibrator instead of a man?
    IMHO you need to go out & meet some nice guy & develop a relationship that will lead to intimacy.

    WTF? What kind of post is that? How dare you give such advice... Jesus, the cheek of some people.

    OP, Vibrators are great fun, but they ain't for everyone. Some don't like them, some do. As every woman is differant (from my experience anyway) You have to chose what is right for you. Clitoral stimulation, intercorse or a bit of both. There are lots of vibrators for everyone.

    Ok not sure if I can post this, but why does it not feel right? Is it cold? Hard? I suggest warming it up first, in some warm water or simply using your hands. Use some lube too to make it easier.

    As a previous poster has suggested, your hymen may still be intact. Most will notice this "break away" for their first time and there may be some blood. It is not in your vagina very far.

    As for use of the vibrator, only you will know what's best for you. Impossible for me to say, and quite awkward too :P

    Have you any friends that use vibrators or are in a sexual relationship that you could get advice from?


  • #6
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    wasper wrote: »
    She approached the forum for advice

    On how to use a vibrator, not what you thought of her reasons for doing so.
    Read the charter with regards to unhelpful off topic comments.


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  • #7
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,315 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Don't obsess on 'having' to do anything in particular with the vibrator. If it has a variable setting, put it on the lowest and just move it over yourself. You may find that using it on areas of your body other than the genital region is pleasurable.

    If it's not giving you pleasure, don't do it. You might find that increasing the speed is better, or that might be too much stimulation for you. If you can, it's worth persevering as the best lovers are those who can tell you what they do and do not like and masturbation is a great way of finding out.


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