Moving in woes

LegacyUser

This isn't a big problem, in fact I'm not sure if it's a problem all, more a state of mind...
Have been with my OH now for two years and we're both very happy together. He's recently asked me to move in with him, which I'm thrilled about, although.... The thought terrifies me! He is a lover of his alone time, as am I! But as he has a hectic work schedule he doesn't get to spend much time on his own, I'm working part time so for me this isn't a problem. My fear is that once we shack up he'll get completely and utterly sick of the sight of me! I realise there will be teething problems, but I'm afraid if this doesn't work out that's it! There's no going back, I can't just shift out and go back happily to the way we were. It's an all or nothing situation and that's scary!! Also, I'm afriad of getting into a rut, this is my first time in this situation, so I'm just looking for advice and tips from any of you who've been there...

BroomBurner

Hiya,
Moving out with a stranger (as in, they're not direct family so you're in their life voluntarily) is always really nervewracking. However, the fact that he has asked you to move in with him is a good sign. He obviously wants to spend more of his "alone" time with you.

If you're worried about him wanting some space the odd time, then maybe arrange a night out every so often with your own friends, so he would have the place to himself. You could encourage him to do likewise if you ever start feeling like you just want some alone time.

One thing I would suggest though is invest in two televisions!

neuro-praxis

My husband is an introvert (gets energy from being alone, is drained by being with people) and although I love time alone, I am more extroverted than introverted (I get energy from other people) and have more appetite for partying etc. than he does.

We live together terrifically well by making sure that he gets the time alone that he needs. When he's taken a day to himself he always returns in a super mood, and I make sure to get time with my favourite friends while he recharges on his own.

You guys will be fine: just figure out what you need individually and as a couple to be happy, and go with that.

Owen

Time apart is key. I'm dating my other half for 3 years now, and we're living together for 5 months. I thought we'd kill each other in the first 3 months, but we both learned that people have different ways of doing things, I like sitting on my ass after dinner and cleaning later, she likes cleaning the dishes immediately and then relaxing, so there will always be examples of this to create friction.

The other posters have it nailed though, alone time is key. My other half has a night with her mates, and I get a different night to play my games/guitar/go out with my mates for coffee. Alone time is a must to keep the sanity, but definitely go for it, you won't regret it

LegacyUser

Thanks so much for your replies, nice to have a bit of feedback and advice!! Particularly on the TV's.. Still a little bit nervous, but I hope and think we'll be fine... I suppose communication is key, and if we can talk about stuff and vent the frustrations which are bound to arise, then we're half way there.!