Concerned about emotions and sexual arousal

LegacyUser

I've recently gotten involved in a relationship with a girl and this is my first real relationship with anyone.

The thing is, whenever she sends me a heartfelt text message that's charged with some really emotional stuff, my heart does the whole flutter thing and I smile and all... but I also notice some activity "down there" and I'm a little ashamed of this somehow.

Like, I know that sexual arousal is nothing to be ashamed of but the fact that it's happening when she's telling me something sweet/heartfelt/romantic is making me feel like I'm cheapening it a bit.

Any ideas on this?

Thanks.

TheNog

I don't think you are cheapening the relationship at all. With the emotional attraction comes a physical attraction too. You are still in the early stages of the emotional stage, the physical end comes later on when both of ye are ready and comfortable with each other.

If however you felt the physical attraction without the emotions then you thoughts would be justified.

Curvy Vixen

I wouldn't worry if I were you. I would put money on the fact that she would love to think she had this effect on you.

I love it when something 'innocent' I do/say/wear gives my partner that little buzz.

Don't sweat the small stuff, honestly ~ there will be enough big stuff to worry about...just relax and enjoy each other

Wibbs

OK the simple fact at the very back of it all, romance and relationships are designed to get you both aroused, have sex and make little copies of yourselves, build a bond that lasts long enough to get those copies on their own journey. Fair enough that's a bit cold and clinical and detached, but getting aroused when your partner interacts with you is normal and nothing to be ashamed about.

Talliesin

Eh?

Are you saying you think it would be better if there was no connection between your sexual feelings for her and the rest of your feelings for her?

LegacyUser

Thanks guys and gals for the feedback. I feel A LOT better about it now

Oh, and TheNog, I definitely do feel the emotional stuff along with the physical stuff. I'm very into her. Falling in love (already in love??) sounds a bit cheesy but it's the truth.

Thanks everyone again!

LegacyUser

@Talliesin

I just thought that maybe I should feel sexually aroused as well as emotionally only at sexual stuff but only emotionally at emotional stuff (if that makes any sense?).

Think it's clarified now anyway thanks.

Talliesin

One of the most beautiful things about sexuality is how it ties into other aspects of our lives and our relationships with our lovers.