should i just forget it

LegacyUser

Met this girl at a club 6 weeks ago, i live in the west of ireland and she live in dublin, she was down for the weekend. we got on well, exchanged numbers etc. so i was up in Dublin a couple of weeks ago we me up went out for a few drinks and had a good night. then last week met her in the midlands went to the pics. all going well, then i was meant to be working this weekend but got it off and suggested i go up, she said that she's plans not only for this weekend but for the next 3? should i just forget it? do really like her.

galaxyminstrels

Just say to her if your busy i'll leave it up to you to arrange to meet up when it suits you. Seems like the best option to me anyway. If she doesn't arrange it then obviously she's not that interested. If she does then good for you and obviously you have a good thing going.

JMCD

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Met this girl at a club 6 weeks ago, i live in the west of ireland and she live in dublin, she was down for the weekend. we got on well, exchanged numbers etc. so i was up in Dublin a couple of weeks ago we me up went out for a few drinks and had a good night. then last week met her in the midlands went to the pics. all going well, then i was meant to be working this weekend but got it off and suggested i go up, she said that she's plans not only for this weekend but for the next 3? should i just forget it? do really like her.

No dont throw the towel in just yet man. If she asked ya to travel all that way up she DOES like ya and the fact that she travelled down to the midlands is also a very positive sign. She could be genuine and have something on.

If you like you as much as you say keep in there. And just casually ask here when could use meet up again.

But also mate she could be seeing other people aswell, that could be the reason she is busy. Dont mean to put a dampner on things but she could be just out enjoying herself and having fun, she also could of met someone else who she really likes.

Even if use did get together it would be pretty hard pal what with you guys living different parts of the country.

Marksie

In the end its your choice..are you in contact and talking otherwise?.

Its worth remembering that it is the run up to christmas and many people are very busy.

At this stage it really is nothing serious, so its up to you to let it go or run with it. But just because she is busy doesnt mean of course that you have to stay in does it?

In the end you have to ask yourself do you want to get involved with a long term, or even short term long distance relationship.

MagicMarker

Just tell her to text you when she's free.

In the mean time go about your business as normal.

omb0wyn5ehpij9

It's coming up to Christmas. People have a lot on at Christmas.....work/college/sports club Christmas parties etc, so she probably isn't lying. Just go about your own business and see if she suggests meeting up

Tim06

mmm yeah but if she wanted to see you surely she could make some time over the next few weeks. suppose if you ask her to suggest when she is free is the only chance you have

star-pants

Agreed - she could genuinely be very busy over the next few weekends and she's just letting you know. Like others I would suggest asking her to let you know if/when she's free and see if ye can work around that. In the mean time go about things as normal, don't invest too much emotion in this yet.

Kirnsy

Don't give up....

there could be plenty shes doing over the three weekends....just make sure she knows you're not hanging on waiting for her. I dont mean you find another girl....just play it cool.

as another poster said.....she came to the midlands to see you you cant be that bad!

Anti

She may just be busy, no problem there. Just keep in contact with the odd text/email/phonecall just dont over do it.

Gyalist

Kirnsy wrote: »

I dont mean you find another girl....

Finding another girl is probably the best advice though.

A bird in your bed is better than ten in your head.

helimachoptor

In fairness its getting busy for the party season, I have something on every weekend between no and Xmas so its quite possible she's telling the truth OP.

Maggie Simpson

JMCD wrote: »

No dont throw the towel in just yet man. If she asked ya to travel all that way up she DOES like ya and the fact that she travelled down to the midlands is also a very positive sign. She could be genuine and have something on.

Yes, but similarly they have met up 3 times and she may have decided that she doesn't want to see him again. Just cause she made effort to go to Midlands doesn't necessarily mean she is still into it.......

Great advice from others OP - leave ball in her court.