New girl bit taller then me

janullrich

I am a guy in my 30's and recently met a beautiful girl of a similar age. I'm a bit unsure though as she is taller then me by a few cm's. Does it matter or will people look at me or is it me just being a bit paranoid in this day and age? Would like guys and girls opinions on this pls. Cheers.

c - 13

Seriously if you like her why would you give a rats ass if people look at you or not ?

This is more like a 16 year olds issue than a 30 year olds in truth.

If you like her, deal with it.
If you feel its an issue for you, dont waste your/her time.

Life is too short to give a flying **** what other people think.

Curvy Vixen

janullrich wrote: »

I am a guy in my 30's and recently met a beautiful girl of a similar age. I'm a bit unsure though as she is taller then me by a few cm's. Does it matter or will people look at me or is it me just being a bit paranoid in this day and age? Would like guys and girls opinions on this pls. Cheers.

Does it matter or will people look at me

I want to say why does it matter if 'people' look at you, it has nothing to do with them, but if it bothers you then it bothers you.

All I can say is that every couple looks differently ~ some are shorter/taller/fatter/thinner/lighter/darker/whatever ~ that's the beauty of humans!

I have a friends who are a couple and have been insanely in love with each other for about 15 years now. She is about 4/5 inches taller than him and she loves her heels and platforms too. People do look at them ~ who cares?

I think that a lot of younger people want the 'ideal' looking partner on their arm but when you get a bit older the whole package is more important. You're in your 30's...move on to the 'package' stage...

Madame Razz

janullrich wrote: »

I am a guy in my 30's and recently met a beautiful girl of a similar age. I'm a bit unsure though as she is taller then me by a few cm's. Does it matter or will people look at me or is it me just being a bit paranoid in this day and age? Would like guys and girls opinions on this pls. Cheers.

How many cms OP?? Yes, I do think you are being a bit paranoid.

I am taller than my boyf by almost two inches. But I'm 5ft 11". It doesn't bother either of us. He finds my height quite the turn on, as he loves long legs, and his height doesn't bother me either, as I'm the same height as most Irish men usually, so I'm well used to it.

This girl prob has a heck of a lot of more experience than you with this 'problem' except I'll bet she doesn't see it as a problem. Its not like shes going to spend all of her time literally looking down on you and thinking, oooh, im taller than you.... more likely she will look at you becuase she cares, because shes happy you are with her, etc etc.

YOu say shes beautiful and you like her? Then don't throw it away for the sake of a few cms. Just enjoy her physical form for what it is.... its all the one when you're lying down afterall;)

ziedth

I can imgaine it prob is something you would be self-aware of,

Like for example I used to weigh over 300LB and my OH is a size 8. I can only imagine the kind of looks people where giving us but TBH I didn't notice or care.

Be happy that you are with someone that you like and who likes you back.

There are enough threads on here from lonely people to put a bit of perspective on your issue.

Best of luck

aye

c - 13 wrote: »

Life is too short to give a flying **** what other people think.

+1!

biko

I've gone out with girls inches taller than me, particularly in high heels.
You have what's know as a "luxury problem", there's plenty of people with real problems that'd kill to be you.
Besides, all girls are the same height, lying down

Wagon

Seems to be this stigma that guys need to be taller than their other halves. Bollocks, I'm a leg man myself. I like tall women and wouldn't give a crap if she was a few cms taller than me. Anyone men looking over at you would be impressed (I would) and any scangers that pass comment are nothign to worry about cos they'll all be dead of the bad aids in about a year.

homerun_homer

I wouldn't worry about it. My sister is going out with a guy much shorter than her and people don't care or take much notice.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'm smallish, think around 5'7 but anything under 2 inches taller wouldn't bother me.

buckieburd

I'm a little taller than my fella, and it doesnt bother me or him in the slightest, I still wear heels when we go out, noone has ever said anything and if they did I would p!ss myself laughing!

MagicMarker

I've love to meet a taller girl than me, that would be so hot, but i'm 6'4 so it's unlikely to happen.

OP, I wouldn't worry about it man, no one cares!

Kintarō Hattori

Do you like the girl, does she like you? If the answer to either of these questions is yes then it really shouldn't bother you that she's taller.

If she was considerably taller than you then it might make things a little akward but really as it's only a few cm it won't cause any problems. No-one is going to look at you and laugh, most likely they'll be envious.

EDIT - My own lady is almost the same height as me. When she wears heels she's taller and I love it. Enjoy having a beaufitul lady on your arm my friend and worry about something worth worrying about.

MJOR

I'm the "same height" as my OH but really am an inch taller..... If she'd a bigger willy than you then i'd be worried! So don't sweat it

G86

OP you've nothing to worry about, its really not a big deal. I'm 5'10' and most guys I've dated have been around my height or a inch or 2 shorter, and it really has never been an issue. I think its more important that you don't make it an issue as it'll make her feel uncomfortable if she thinks you have a problem with it. One guy I dated actually made me take off my shoes and got his friend to measure us to prove he was taller (he wasn't), his insecurity over it then made me feel really awkward about wearing heels etc.

So what I'm saying is that if you're worried about her having a problem with it don't be, she more than likely doesn't. As for other people, sure what do they matter? Would you rather be dating a 5 foot nothing chick who could well be a brainless bimbo or this great girl you're seeing now who has legs as well as brains? (ooh better point out that I'm not generalising chicks under 5 foot as bimbos - its just an example - same could apply to us giraffes !!)

Just be confident in yourself, forget about other peope and focus on the most important opinion - your own.

togster

Your in your 30's: I'd be more worried about the fact that you still think sh!t like this matters.

Big Knox

MagicMarker wrote: »

I've love to meet a taller girl than me, that would be so hot, but i'm 6'4 so it's unlikely to happen.

OP, I wouldn't worry about it man, no one cares!

I'm sorry this is completly off topic but any girl over 6'4 would definatly not be hot!!

@ OP, as was mentioned why should this bother you?? Honestly you shouldn't give a **** what other people think, what really matters is what you think.

Put this behind you and don't give it another though. Good luck.

kaimera

janullrich wrote: »

I am a guy in my 30's and recently met a beautiful girl of a similar age. I'm a bit unsure though as she is taller then me by a few cm's. Does it matter or will people look at me or is it me just being a bit paranoid in this day and age? Would like guys and girls opinions on this pls. Cheers.

Awesome.

Something very alluring about chicks a bit taller I've found from experience.

Dont worry about it and go have fun

shellyboo

Big Knox wrote: »

I'm sorry this is completly off topic but any girl over 6'4 would definatly not be hot!!

Not a fan of supermodels then?

I'd agree with most of the posters... you really shouldn't be worrying about these kinds of things at your age. No-one else will care.

panda100

You'd be amazed at what a problem this is for guys. Im 6'1, all my boyfriends have ben taller than me as Im rarely approached by guys smaller than me. Stupid really.
Theres nothing either of you can do about your height, its what your born with and It doesnt define you as a person. Dont give up a good thing just because of stupid society 'norms'.

Mr Benevolent

My girlfriend is about 3 inches taller then me (I'm 5'6) and likes to wear high heels, making her 5 inches taller then me on occasion. The advantage of it is that she has great legs. There's only one practical disadvantage which I'm not going to go into as it's not relevant to PI!

Big Knox

shellyboo wrote: »

Not a fan of supermodels then?

Actually no not at all, I find them scarily thin most of the time and it's not my thing. Also show me a supermodel thats 6'5 or taller, I doubht you'll find one.

Dudess

janullrich wrote: »

I'm a bit unsure though as she is taller then me by a few cm's. Does it matter or will people look at me

A man in his 30s wrote that...?! :eek:

The main piece of advice I'd give you would be to grow up.

After that, if you're willing to miss out on a relationship with a seemingly great girl due to the risk of people possibly "looking at" you because she's a small bit taller... well your loss. People aren't actually that interested in you anyway. Those with nothing better to do who would make a point of looking... they forget a millisecond later.

Toto Wolfcastle

Meh why is this even an issue? What does it matter what you look like with her? Unless you plan on standing in front of the mirror with her for hours on end you wont even notice.

I was with a guy who was about my height so I was a good bit taller than him when I wore heels and no one took any notice.

If this continues to weigh on your mind then perhaps you should think about whether you actually like her or not. Really, it's not an issue.

janullrich

Thanks for the replys. I only wanted to see how people gage it and I am quite happy to hold onto her. To Togster and Dudess if you are so perfect whatever age you are feck up and don't respond to the thread.

Bottle_of_Smoke

panda100 wrote: »

You'd be amazed at what a problem this is for guys. Im 6'1, all my boyfriends have ben taller than me as Im rarely approached by guys smaller than me. Stupid really.
Theres nothing either of you can do about your height, its what your born with and It doesnt define you as a person. Dont give up a good thing just because of stupid society 'norms'.

To be honest I'd be unlikely to approach a girl who's taller, not because its a problem for me, I'd just assume she wants a guy who's taller than her, most girls do in my experience/

b3t4

Op, it's sounds like you are awfully insecure. Please address this or it'll seap into your relationship and possible ruin a good thing which would be terrible for all involved.

A.

Dudess

janullrich wrote: »

Thanks for the replys. I only wanted to see how people gage it and I am quite happy to hold onto her. To Togster and Dudess if you are so perfect whatever age you are feck up and don't respond to the thread.

Oh, because it's not what you want to hear? Sorry, that's not always how good advice works...

pierrot

To be honest (and the OP asked for an honest opinion), I find it a little odd, and if I saw taller woman and a shorter guy I would think 'what's going on there'. Thats just me. However, thats my opinion, and I don't see why that should affect you in the slightest. Go for it man, good luck.

togster

janullrich wrote: »

To Togster and Dudess if you are so perfect whatever age you are feck up and don't respond to the thread.

:rolleyes:

Bottle_of_Smoke

Dudess wrote: »

Oh, because it's not what you want to hear? Sorry, that's not always how good advice works...

Ah in fairness I think you guys were a bit harsh/nasty. Vast majority of couples the guy is taller(being a short guy I've paid attention to this since quite young), I think the OP just phrased his question wrong and you jumped on him, he may never have had to deal with this so legitimate PI I say.

Dudess

Well it really wasn't intended as nasty... harsh possibly but I don't see anything wrong with that. I have a big problem with people being worried about what others think about the tiniest, most trivial things. It's quite narcissistic and self-absorbed. They really shouldn't consider themselves that important to total strangers who have a lot more on their minds.
And asking about it on an internet forum is further seeking validation from others. Can't the OP decide himself instead of being dictated to by what others' reactions will be?

And it's a few cm's, not a foot ...

Mr Benevolent

And asking about it on an internet forum is further seeking validation from others. Can't the OP decide himself instead of being dictated to by what others' reactions will be?

+1

How would someone break up go over this issue?

"Sorry, you're just too tall for me and I can't handle it. Goodbye."

Do you seriously think that a shorter girlfriend would be any better? As someone mention earlier, this is a 'luxury' problem - i.e, something utterly unimportant to whinge about. Forget about it and live your life.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Dudess wrote: »

Well it really wasn't intended as nasty... harsh possibly but I don't see anything wrong with that. I have a big problem with people being worried about what others think about the tiniest, most trivial things. It's quite narcissistic and self-absorbed. They really shouldn't consider themselves that important to total strangers who have a lot more on their minds.
And asking about it on an internet forum is further seeking validation from others. Can't the OP decide himself instead of being dictated to by what others' reactions will be?

And it's a few cm's, not a foot ...

I'd agree with the first paragraph, but I'd say this doesn't fall under the most trivial of things, not to everyone anyway. When I was younger I decided I just wouldn't be able to have a girlfriend until I got taller, partly because it would be embarrassing, and there's a bit of a pubescent teenager in all of us!

The second part, well you could really say that about a majority of PI issues. Basically I don't think this is as trivial as you're making out. A few cm would be trivial to me and you, but go on the ladies lounge and you'll see a lot of women wouldn't consider a guy the same height/shorter than her when she's wearing heels.

Star Lord

c - 13 wrote: »

Life is too short to give a flying **** what other people think.

lol tbh

OP: My girlfriend is about an inch or more taller than me. Does it bother me? Not in the slightest, I love her for who she is. Does it bother her? Not really, but she does occasionally feel self conscious if she's in heels and towering over me, but not enough to be a real issue.

No pun intended, but grow up!

Dudess

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

go on the ladies lounge and you'll see a lot of women wouldn't consider a guy the same height/shorter than her when she's wearing heels.

And that's not trivial?

That is just as trival...

Bottle_of_Smoke

Dudess wrote: »

And that's not trivial?

That is just as trival...

What? I mean if they consider that alone to be important how is it a surprise that the OP might be concerned.

As I said it's trivial to us but we can't therefore say it's a trivial issue.

Moving into a flat in college with peopel I don't know was a trivial matter for me but I know plenty who wouldn't entertain the idea.