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LegacyUser

Hi...

Please could somebody please help me, or give me some advice.

I am a young woman in my early-mid twenties and I am having a very difficult time lately.
I am in councelling and my councellor said I am suffering from a serious case of depression. I have been seriously considering suicide for a couple of weeks now and on 1 occassion actually nearly carried through with it.

This terrifies me as I am at the point that Im so scared that I may actually go through with it.

Everything in my life is going well - great family, boyfriend, friends, career. There have been some very difficult times also though and I am carrying this huge pain and despair which i cant seem to shake.

Im also so angry now and I used to be so happy go lucky, I hate waking up in the mornings and wish I could just dissappear.

My question is how do I just let go of the pain which I am carrying inside me and just move on and be happy? I desperately want to be happy and at the moment I just see the world in black and white Please somebody help

P.s. I would rather not specify exactly the situations that have caused me to feel this way but there are quite a few

Also, I am seriously considering anti-depressants but I am scared has anyone experience of taking these?

Nevyn

Please go to your dr and talk to them about talking to someone to help you deal with
what ever situations has done this to you.

MooseJam

I read somewhere recently that anti-depressants don't work, google it

Dizzyblonde

I have no doubt that with the right type of treatment you can beat depression and live a full, happy life. Only your doctor and counsellor can give you the help you need though, and can advise you about medication. You really do need to work through your issues with a trained professional and I wish you the best of luck.

rebel girl 15

talk it out with your councillor, or anyone here. Just don't go down the suicide road, talk to someone, anyone. As regards the anti-depressants, go talk to your doctor, they may or may not help.

I know it is easy for me to say, but you have to face up to the pain and dispair, you said that everything in life seems to be going well, hang on to that fact, take each hour as it comes, and let someone close to you know how you are feeling.

LegacyUser

Please continue to work through it. If you feel you are not making progress with your counsellor, perhaps try to attend a different counsellor.

I have experienced depression myself, and spent some time working through it and addressing the root causes. My own depressive phase was about 10 years ago, and related to an eating disorder. I came through it fully, and can honestly say that in 10 years I haven't slipped or looked back.

Please believe in your own ability to get through this really tough time and come out stronger.

LegacyUser

You can get through this. Antidepressants worked very well for my sister when she went through a difficult stage in her life and just needed some extra help tmeporarily, to get through each day. Do not give up hope. My sister is now so happy - married and expecting her first baby and a completely different person. If you do decide to try antidepressants make sure you also try counselling to work through your issues so that you can leave them behind and enjoy your life. I'm sure you are valuable to so many people, maybe without even realising it - you can do this. The best of luck to you. x

estar

i know you are scared, but many people learn how to manage their emotions, so don't despair. some people are more complicated than others, emotionally, with the right doctor and the right treatment you will learn how to accept yourself and deal with the downtimes.

you must see your GP. anti-depressants are a good way to take the dangerous edge off depression so that you are not walking around suicidal. then when the anti-d's kick in you can seek out a registered councillor - try and get one that is registered with the psychological society, and one that you get along with - if you dont get along with the first one, keep looking.

feeling suicidal is a sign that you are ill. you must seek out help, just like you would if you were having physical pain. emotional pain can be treated and overcome.

anti-depressants will definitely provide a safety net for you in the short term, and really have no appreciable effect if they are the right ones for you. some can have side effects - but if they do you just keep going until you are prescribed the right ones. you would be amazed at the people i have met over the years that have had emotional crises just like you. dont blame yourself and say - i shouldnt be feeling like this. accept it, and get help.

IvySlayer

You're asking for help but you have family, boyfriend, great friends, a counsellor?

Forgive me but I'm confused. Seems to me that help is available at your fingertips. I know what you're going through. I won't post publicly, no problems doing in private, to anyone. If you need to talk someone note my email address.

You obviously want to live, or else you wouldn't have posted here. Now I was on anti-depressants, and I didn't like them. They mess with your head. They increase your happiness drug (forget name) forcing you to be happier. I find it's best to get to the root cause and solve it.

You want help/advice but you're not giving any details. Don't give up. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Your parents raised you, you at least owe them living your life as long as you possibly can. It doesn't make sense to quit. Life is a struggle. You need your friends and family around you, I'm getting the impression you are pushing them away. Have they noticed something wrong with you?

I could go on, but I think everyone in this topic would appreciate a responce just so you at least acknowledge what we said. Hope this helps.

Remember, if you think talking to a randomer will help, by god do it. Just be wary of who you talk to. Contact me or anyone else who responded if necessary, you posted for help and you're getting it. Please don't have our time spent wasted.

cantdecide

I was speaking with some friends over the weekend about another friend of ours who did something terrible back in 2000 and he took the wrong way out. What he did is insgnificant in hindsight. Nothing in life is so bad that you can't turn it around in time. Don't be too impatient to see what life will have in store for you and don't think you're view of the world is accurate if you're suffering from depression at the moment.

Get whatever help you need, you have many options. Depression is simply an affliction that can be overcome ar at least managed is a way that works for you.

turbot

Bill Phillips, author of body for life, says, "there is nothing for emotionally renewing than getting your heart rate going".

You might find that, if you eat really well, and exercise a lot, you'll at least process some of the physical aspects of the emotions you are feeling.

As a second suggestion, there is a rather amazing lady called Amma, known for being the "hugging saint" who does a form of Indian blessing ritual called Darshan. IT's on this week out near the airport.

More information at:

www.ammaireland.org

I know people who feel that their experience of Amma helped shake deeply held bad feelings and left them feeling uplifted and better. It's worth a try.

not yet

You really need to confront the source of what started this, You say you were happy go lucky....how long ago?

Try think of what made you happy go lucky,easier said then done I know but it's your one way out of this mess.

Counselling has it's place but can drag you into an ongoing cycle.

Friends,family etc need to be told how you feel,they're more help then you may think....

Good luck.

beth-lou

Hi,

First of all I'm glad you came in here in an effort to try to shake off the shackles of your past. What you are feeling is very dark and lonely, but it can change and it can get better. I've never been depressed, but I have had many tragic and emotionally hurtful experiences and on that level I'll share with you what helped me let go of the hurt and the anger and every other negative feeling I had.

I forgave certain people and realised that people make mistakes. I decided I wasn't going to let my past dictate my future, I discovered that the anger I felt was wasted energy and never helped me to achieve anything and I accepted that human beings make mistakes, some things happen that are out of our control and sometimes you just have to feel the pain and then let go.

I don't know the specifics of what has happened to you, and that's ok, so forgive me if I'm way off line. But at some point you are going to have to forgive and let go of whatever it is that is haunting you. I don't know how you can do that. For me, I just worked through it myself in my head. But I was never depressed, so it was probably easier. I would suggest you tell your counsellor about the thoughts you are having. Confide in a family member or a friend. Talk to your GP. But please, don't suffer this alone. You are sick and you need help to get better. It can get better. See what your doctor has to say, and if anti depressants offer you some respite from these dark feeling, then perhaps you should consider them. I am always cautious about them, but I do think they have a place and you possibly could benefit from some form of treatment.

I really, really hope that you will talk to someone close, and be honest with them. Talking is a great way to release some of the stress you are feeling. Don't try to do this alone. There are a lot of people who dearly love you. Let them help you and look after you.

I wish you all the best. x

LolaDub

Hi Op,

Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. Unfortunately everyone goes through difficult periods in their lives but if you look the help is there, you just need to bite the bullet and ask for it. Anti depressants work for some people but not for all. For many people they can be the crutch that helps them through a tough time. If you're feeling suicidal you may want to consider seeing a psychotherapist? I would suggest strongly you save the samaritans number in your phone for when you are feeling very low, they are there 24/7 on the phones and have email and call in facilities. Their details from their website are;

Phone: 1850 60 90 90
Email: jo@samaritans.org
Visit Us: 112 Marlborough Street, Dublin 1 - 10.00 am - 9.00 pm, 7 days a week.


Please do try to fight the feelings of suicide, you seem to have wonderful people around you who care for you, think of them and talk to them and keep looking towards tomorrow. Best of luck!

LegacyUser

Hi

I am the OP and I would like to thank everyone for the replies and advice.

I will take everything on board.

Thank you for listening xxx

kraggy

MooseJam wrote: »

I read somewhere recently that anti-depressants don't work, google it

What the..?

Just like that. Every make of anti-depressant actually has no effect and everyone should abandon their medication right now? Really, think more carefully before posting.

OP, whatever else, go to your doctor. Normally if it was mild bad form that someone was going through I'd say try and get through it but you obviously need some assistance to get through this. If that means taking anti-depressants then so be it. The social stigma attached to them nowadays is almost gone thankfully. I've had to take them in the past and they did work. But they should only be used as a helping hand and not something you should rely on to put you and keep you in good, functioning form.

Please go to your doctor in the knowledge that he probably sees several cases like yours every week. You've tried counselling, now it seems you need a bit more assistance.

YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS but make it happen by going to the doctor.