Why does this bother me so much?

LegacyUser

I do know that any random strangers' comments shouldn't bother me as they don't know me but often over the Internet I get called "cranky" and disgusting terms come up regarding my period. Now, the truth is I have very bad and severe problems with my cycle and don't know if I can have kids. But why do people's comments "Well, I'm glad. I hope you can't have any kids" disturb me so much? Am I such a procieved unfit mother that I don't deserve any based on what annoymous people over the Internet say?

My husband loves me, my nieces, nephews and 7 year old sister love me, so why do random comments on the Internet hurt so much?

Flairpinnedme

its a shame no one replied to this. i guess its because you should probably know.

the reason it bothers you so much is because you're too sensitive. i know its a sensitive matter and all, but when you're on an internet message board, you need to not take anything to heart. no one here knows you, they just see your screen name and pixels of text. that's all you are to them. so anything they say about you doesn't mean a thing.

most importantly, the only persons opinion of yourself that really matters is your own. comparing yourself to other people and depending on what other people say is just vain and will get you nowhere.

Karen_*

People get very brave and say the most horrendous things in the comfort of their own homes and with the monitor to protect them. They even say things they don't mean and know nothing about and if they really hurt you then they don't have to see your tears or your pain. Usually nasty things said over the internet are coming from a person who is miserable. So just feel pity for them and don't post with them. And certainly don't take it to heart.

St Bill

Unregistered wrote: »

Now, the truth is I have very bad and severe problems with my cycle and don't know if I can have kids. But why do people's comments "Well, I'm glad. I hope you can't have any kids" disturb me so much?

If I typed a post saying that due to problems with my cycle I can't have kids and I got the above response, I'd be very upset by it and disturbed that someone could be so callous. Where did you get a response like this? Did you report the post?

Kirnsy

Unregistered wrote: »

My husband loves me, my nieces, nephews and 7 year old sister love me

they are the most important opinions to listen to.

its easy to be cynical and nasty when no one knows who you are.

pretty-in-pink

Some people are just delibrately nasty, for no valid reason, to other people on the net. Its a safe place, pretty much, to let off steam, to have a cry or a r ant or a laugh. Its all very superficial and easy to fake, but yes it can hurt or intimidate you if someone acts like a prick.

Thats breathtakingly cruel that someone would say its good that yu don't know if you can have kids. Its such a normal desire to want them, and to not know if thats even possible...you poor poor woman.

As for the cranky/period comments, well youll get them. Apparently its very clever to imply that all annoyed women or emotional women must be menstrating....

*hugs* feel better OP, and remember this:

The people who mind don't matter, the people who matter don't mind.

You are loved by your family, and that should be the number 1 thing for you to keep in mind.