Down and Out

toddy29

Hey all
Feel a bit weird writing something as I've never done something like this before, but I've spent the last while looking ove posts and I guess what stands out is that even if no-one replies to your message, it's good to get things out of your system. Although people would percieve me as someone who has a lot going for them, in my head I don't feel that way. I have a great partner and we're about to move into our new house and I have very supportive family and friends. The problem is I can only seem to see myself in a negative light. I went to doc and he said I had generalized anxiety disorder as I seemed to be constantly worrying. As soon as I close a chapter on worrying about one thing, I open the next one, in fact I often seek out things to worry about. It often leads to obsessional thinking and an inability to seperate perception from reality. I end up being super sensitive and over emotional. I often get mad at myself and wish I had something concrete or tangible to worry about as then I wouldn't feel so bad. Also it's started to affect me socially where I get a bit panicky or end up blushing a lot for no reason which then gets me down. I know none of this stuff, even as I write it seems that serious but it just feels good to get it out of my system

bondgirl

Moving house is very stressful, so naturally you are going to feel like this. Could you not talk to your partner about things? Maybe if you had someone to confide in you would feel a bit better having talked about how you are feeling?

LegacyUser

Found this quote, it's one of many: Worry is interest paid on trouble before it is due.

Bad things happen sometimes to all of us. Getting into a knot over what *might* happen is not going to prevent that.

I'm not a doctor and I do think you could do with some professional help.

But I do know that you have to train yourself to think positively.
When you feel a negative thought coming, consciously stop in your tracks. Acknowledge the worry feeling, and move on to thinking of something positive. It can be anything from the fact that that there's footie on the box later to what to have for dinner to thinking about how great your new house will be.

unhappycamper

toddy29 wrote: »

Hey all
Feel a bit weird writing something as I've never done something like this before, but I've spent the last while looking ove posts and I guess what stands out is that even if no-one replies to your message, it's good to get things out of your system. Although people would percieve me as someone who has a lot going for them, in my head I don't feel that way. I have a great partner and we're about to move into our new house and I have very supportive family and friends. The problem is I can only seem to see myself in a negative light. I went to doc and he said I had generalized anxiety disorder as I seemed to be constantly worrying. As soon as I close a chapter on worrying about one thing, I open the next one, in fact I often seek out things to worry about. It often leads to obsessional thinking and an inability to seperate perception from reality. I end up being super sensitive and over emotional. I often get mad at myself and wish I had something concrete or tangible to worry about as then I wouldn't feel so bad. Also it's started to affect me socially where I get a bit panicky or end up blushing a lot for no reason which then gets me down. I know none of this stuff, even as I write it seems that serious but it just feels good to get it out of my system

Man you sound like my long lost brother! My doctor diagnosed me with GAD and I have never read a post that has such an exact mirror image of how I feel. Well done +1

toddy29

It's good to know that other people know how I feel as sometimes I do't feel like talking to partner/ family. Although they're very understanding I don't want to burden people. I've even felt a bit better after writing it all down. It's funny cos I always give out to other people for not thinking positively yet I can't follow my own advice! Thanks for the replies

LegacyUser

i have to say you too are very very similiar to how i operate. i just wish i could have described myself to a doctor like you did here,

however im waiting on this person thingy that trains me how to have good thoughts to get back to me.

remember that its alot to do with the doctor you see aswell, iv finally found my doctor in dublin city and she really really has given me so much understanding. and also - your right about burdening your partner and freinds and family. some people might get tired of your carry on, unfortunatly

unhappycamper

I project positivity but my internals see negativity all too often. I am through the worst of it now. It took a year of hard work.

toddy29

I definitely find it easier to express how I feel when I write it all down and try to keep a diary of how I feel but often I only write in it when I'm feeling down so when I read back over it I don't feel like I see any progress. Everybody always says that I'm too hard on myself and I suppose that's part of thinking negatively, you end up being your own worse critic. I've read a lot of books and articles on the subject and read a book about CBT but my problem is implementing all the actions into my daliy life. I could probably do with some extra help wiht CBT but the problem I guess is paying for everything! Nice to chat to people and not to feel like the biggest moaner !

jobucks

toddy29 wrote: »

Hey all
Feel a bit weird writing something as I've never done something like this before, but I've spent the last while looking ove posts and I guess what stands out is that even if no-one replies to your message, it's good to get things out of your system. Although people would percieve me as someone who has a lot going for them, in my head I don't feel that way. I have a great partner and we're about to move into our new house and I have very supportive family and friends. The problem is I can only seem to see myself in a negative light. I went to doc and he said I had generalized anxiety disorder as I seemed to be constantly worrying. As soon as I close a chapter on worrying about one thing, I open the next one, in fact I often seek out things to worry about. It often leads to obsessional thinking and an inability to seperate perception from reality. I end up being super sensitive and over emotional. I often get mad at myself and wish I had something concrete or tangible to worry about as then I wouldn't feel so bad. Also it's started to affect me socially where I get a bit panicky or end up blushing a lot for no reason which then gets me down. I know none of this stuff, even as I write it seems that serious but it just feels good to get it out of my system

Hi there, I'm a bit of a worrier myself and sometimes like you, I seem to seek out things to worry about. I recently read a book by Allen Carr.... the same guy who did the stop smoking book, called the "easy way to no more worry" and I was surprised at how much I took from it. The same night I read it, I slept like a baby, all worries went from my head and I found myself able to look at things from a different perspective. I still look over it now and again and find it helps with everyday things. This may not be the answer to your problems but it may help you on the way.
Best of luck.;)

LegacyUser

Hi to all

As a born worrier myself with a tendency to the negative, I just think it's great that you are trying somehow, in any small way to unburden yourself. Not lots to add than what other people have advised, as I still constantly have to remind myself to try calm down sometimes too. When I get tendencies toward it strongly though, I try avoid caffeine, alcohol, and get a bit of exercise, and rink loads fo water it's amazing the difference that can make. And, oh, watching something inspiring, like documentaries about people who overcame physical and mental obstacles in their lives, and were able to be happy for the most part contrary to their circumstances. I hope you get through it, and I just think, well, fair play to you for venting. Lots of people bottle it all in and then bad things can happen, keep going! Best of luck.

Time out

Hey, may seem stupid but I presume at some level you dont "enjoy" worrying - some people need to have something to worry about