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The relationship "talk"

  • 05-11-2008 4:16pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Okay, I've been seeing this girl for about 2 1/2 months, We talk everyday and meet about 3/4 nights a week some nights just chill lying bed watching a movie others its when we're both out on student nights out, we will meet up afterwards etc etc.

    I'm a few years older than her, now we don't see other people as we've said we wouldn't only thing is we've not had the @TALK@ so to speak yet, most if not everyone has taken it we're going out at this stage im just thinking is she waiting for me to say it, does she assume shes my g/f or is she just happy keeping it semi serious.

    Feedback appreciated.


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  • #2
    Jimmy Bottlehead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,122 ✭✭✭✭Jimmy Bottlehead


    Well what do YOU want to do??

    If you wanna take it more seriously, then just talk to her. People see 'THE TALK' as some huge scary prospect... it's not. Its a decision that will, either way, help you find the right person for you. If you both decide you shouldn't take it more seriously, you'll end up going your seperate ways... and whether now or down the road, if you decide to take it seriously, then you're gonna find out if it'll work. If not, there's always someone else!!

    Best of luck, man!


  • #3
    SpookyDoll
    Closed Accounts Posts: 533 ✭✭✭SpookyDoll


    At a guess I would imagine she is waiting for you to bring it up.

    It is hammered into most women 24/7 that they should NEVER:
    1. Introduce "the talk"
    2. Say "I love you" first
    3. Do or say anything in a simple or straighforward way concerning a relationship for the mortal fear of being labelled a "bunny boiler" "easy" and/or "desperate" !!!!
    lol just kidding on number 3 !! :p but back to the point, I reckon she is waiting for you to bring it up!!


  • #4
    Madame Razz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,252 ✭✭✭✭Madame Razz


    SpookyDoll wrote: »
    At a guess I would imagine she is waiting for you to bring it up.

    It is hammered into most women 24/7 that they should NEVER:
    1. Introduce "the talk"
    2. Say "I love you" first
    3. Do or say anything in a simple or straighforward way concerning a relationship for the mortal fear of being labelled a "bunny boiler" "easy" and/or "desperate" !!!!
    lol just kidding on number 3 !! :p but back to the point, I reckon she is waiting for you to bring it up!!


    LOL...above is so true!! To be honest OP it sounds like ye're fairly serious at this stage, semi-serious doesn't usually constitute lounging around in each others bed watching DVDs a couple of nights a week.

    Best to make it official methinks; i know its awkward, but she'll know what you mean when you bring it up and its a conversation that'll be over in no time!! Good luck with it!!

    MH


  • #5
    kizzyr
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,410 ✭✭✭kizzyr


    When I was going out with my boyfriend for about 3 or 4 weeks he asked me one night if he was asked if he had a girlfriend was it ok if he said yes, and that I was she. I said of course, and it was all great and wonderful but to be honest I had assumed that I was anyway. Now 9.5 years later we laugh about that but I have to say it was good to make it official.


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