Terrified of getting pregnant

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

Just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. I am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant and not being in a meaningful relationship. Although I take all the necessary precautions I am so paranoid I will get pregnant...Does anyone else feel like this? I try and avoid sex so I wont be worried..........

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey guys,

Just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. I am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant and not being in a meaningful relationship. Although I take all the necessary precautions I am so paranoid I will get pregnant...Does anyone else feel like this? I try and avoid sex so I wont be worried..........

I hear you - Even if i am careful i still sh!t it for the month until i get my period!!its nervewrecking. i used to not have sex because i was so scared but you know what - if you enjoy it why not have it but always use protection, therefore your mind is at least put to some rest!!!

MagicMarker

The more (protected) sex you have the more you'll get used to it and the less paranoid you'll be.

Ignoring sex will only have the opposite effect.

Lollipops23

everyone who isn't ready for a baby is scared of getting pregnant!but if it's really causing a problem even when you're being uber-careful that may be something you need to address. what is it about pregnancy that you're really scared of?if it's just the fact that you're not ready or is it something more?

LegacyUser

Thanks for your replies, I guess I have been like this for so long now, I dont know what it is, I envy girls who can relax and have sex whenever......... I do take the necessary precautions but always have it in the back of my mind what if I get pregnant........sorry I sound ridiculous but it is getting me down........

pretty-in-pink

Unregistered wrote: »

Thanks for your replies, I guess I have been like this for so long now, I dont know what it is, I envy girls who can relax and have sex whenever......... I do take the necessary precautions but always have it in the back of my mind what if I get pregnant........sorry I sound ridiculous but it is getting me down........

No you don't, I used to feel that way. Now I don't, Maybe its something you grow out of.

dudara

Of course you're scared of getting pregnant. But as many posters here will testify, getting pregnant is not the worst thing that happened to them.

In a similar vein, you could say that you're terrified of driving because you could crash when driving. In reality, all of us try to drive safely in order to mitigate the risk of crashing.

Likewise, with sex, follow proper birth control procedures, and you will be mitigating the risk of pregnancy.

You have to decide whether you are going to let a fear take control of you, or whether you are going to live your life on your terms.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Hey guys,

Just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. I am absolutely terrified of getting pregnant and not being in a meaningful relationship. Although I take all the necessary precautions I am so paranoid I will get pregnant...Does anyone else feel like this? I try and avoid sex so I wont be worried..........

I used to feel like this, the thought of sex made me feel physically sick. It was about the act of sex itself but when I started actually having sex it became about the worry of getting pregnant. I went on the pill about a month before I had sex and even then we used condoms for a few months. For a good few months I'd make my boyfriend get out before he came. A friend of mine still uses this technique even though she's been having sex for about a year. If this would make you worry less it could be an option but don't do it for too long, the guy probably won't like it and its more intimate if he stays in.
I used to feel nervous the next day and relieved when I got my period and I still do feel relieved but I'm not terrified. I thought about calmly, I'm 23, in a long term relationship and I probably would have enough money to support a child if I got pregnant which is very very unlikely as I always take my pill at the same time everyday and take extra precautions if I get sick or have a tummy upset etc. It wouldn't be ideal if I got pregnant but it wouldn't be the end of the world. I think thinking about it seriously might calm your fears a little. On the other hand if you are very young it might mean that you are not ready to have sex at all.