I am Lonely and depressed.. I have no idea why..!!

Armadillo Sho

Hiya All,

Well this is all weird for me to speak of and specially in this way, no offense now, its just that I am usually on to my mates for anything. but this time its different.
I have been feeling very down these days and I have no idea why.. none..!!! so I am hoping that maybe you can give me an idea as to why I am soo bloody down.. so here is a bit of backgroand to what have happend in my life recently ...

Ok, I just finished a 3 year college degree in Law and when i say finished its not really, i failed one exam and have to do it again in Jan, so I wont be graduating this year but next year. Now I don't know how i feel about that, but over those years I kind of lost interests so, really i don't mind that much.

I am sure i hated it when i was staying up late to finish an assignment or craming for an exam.. but looking back it was something that i did and it was something to do with me and nobody else.

Like for example, I have started taking driving lessons and that makes me soo happy... evey lesson is just soo much fun..I am learning and getting better, like slef progress or something..

I work and have been working all through my time in college so its not like i am not doing anything right now.
I have a lovely fiance and we are planning for our wedding now and all that, so its not boy issues.

But somehow these days i am just soo down and feel all alone. I cry for no reason and no its not that time of the month..hihi.
But really I feel a bit lost and I cannot even identify it either... If i know what was making me this down I would try to analyze it and move on.. but I am just down and at this stage i really dont know what to do about this.

So seeing I cannot figure it out.. any ideas why i am soo down.. ?

Thanks for any attempts..

LegacyUser

That sounds like a problem I had a couple of years ago.No reason to be down, but I was constantly in tears for no real reason and I just didn't know why.Life was just grey and pointless and I was very alone.
Looking back now it was a combination of severe tiredness, being way too hard on myself and running and racing around all the time.I don't know what you might have been up to lately.In my case I was very sick twice in the space of 2 months nothing life threatening, just flu and a stomach bug, but it was enough to have me out of work for a week each time.Then I changed areas in work and didn't deal with it very well.For some weird reason I just woke up one day with serious panic in my stomach and spent the next few months crying a lot for no reason at all. I honestly thought I'd never get through it.It just came to a head,when a close family member died; I cried for about a week then suddenly realised I was exhausted by everything and I needed to relax.
Again I don't know what you've been up to but maybe you need to sit back and just take a while to yourself.And I mean as much as possible, just sit down relax and enjoy some quiet time.The studying mightn't have seemed stressful but this might just be your body's way of saying it needs a break.Along with planning a wedding, it's a lot for your brain to deal with. I know it sounds simple and stupid, but based on my own experience, sometimes simple is the best answer.I know I didn't think I was at all stressed at the time, but now I can see that I was up to ninety. Obviously if there's more to it than that, maybe you should look into counselling or something.

RossFixxxed

Hi there,

I know this happens a lot of people for different reasons, and different strengths.

It could be the fact that you're finishing college and looking towards marriage. Now both are very positive things, but I found with college (not engaged myself) that it did feel like that was the end of learning and growing and the start of slog.

You also lose being surrounded by loads of like minded students etc.

Now that's not to say things get bad after college or for marriage but any period of readjstment will bring it's own anxieties etc... Also don't forget you can still keep learning, growing etc. The driving lessons show you that. Take up guitar or painting or something you may have a passion for!

Keep the chin up OP you'll be ok.

Edit: have a read of http://danmillman.com/blog/?p=14


(obviously if it persists or becomes life affecting the GP is your (wo)man!)

Ross

Kanga1

Hi there,

I've never been on forums/message boards before & I was actually "googling" for something else when I came across your post & felt I had to respond.

Firstly let me say you are not the first to go through this, so please remember you are not alone.

I'm not a medic or anything like that so this is only my opinion, but I do have a little experience in that some of my close friends & loved ones have had difficult times such as you seem to be having now.

As you say you can normally talk to friends about everything but not this, but can I just say that I really think you need to talk to you Fiancee about it - as I'm sure he'd want to help you.
It is normal to feel isolated & unfortunately that somtimes means we can then isolate ourselves further from Friends & family - so please just try to talk even if its hard.

Also I know that sometimes its easier to talk to someone you don't know & believe it or not, the health system in Ireland isn't too bad at all & I'd urge you to talk to your GP & ask for a referral to the local HSE Pychological service, where you can meet with a councellor & they will be able to help you "pin point" why you feel this way.
My Fiancee went through something similar a couple of years ago & please believe me it wasn't all rosy in the garden but by being brave & doing what I've said above she has come out the other side all the better for it.

So again please remember you are not alone, there are loads of people who care about you & loads of people who can help you - all you have to do is "be brave" & reach out & ask for a little help - we all need some from time to time.

Good luck & God bless

Armadillo Sho

Hiya guys...

Thanks a million for all your good feedback.. I really appreciate it.

xx

LegacyUser

I'd love to visit a counsellor but I don't want my GP to know. It's too close to home. How can I get referred to a counsellor without going to my GP, and how much do they charge roughly?

LegacyUser

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I'd love to visit a counsellor but I don't want my GP to know. It's too close to home. How can I get referred to a counsellor without going to my GP, and how much do they charge roughly?

If you get referred to your local HSE psychology service, there is no charge. The Community service of your local health board should have a number of psychologists and their services are free. I was in therapy for a full year after a GP referral and the entire service was free.
I was on a waiting list for 6 months leading up to it. Private counsellors could charge anything around 80-90Euro per session.
I don't think you can go on the public scheme without a referral, however you can always go to another GP, or company doctor.