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When to have 'the talk'

  • 03-11-2008 1:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I have been seeing a girl whom i really like and enjoy her company, we have been on a number of dates about 4, and things are going great. My question is when should we have the boyfriend- girlfriend chat, i am absolutely terriifed about how to go about this, i am pretty sure that she would be quite happy for us to commit to such a relationship so i dont know where this fear is coming from. After our dates i would give her a kiss on the cheek and ask that we meet up again, which she is always happy to do. Any help would be apreciated


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  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Is it only ever a kiss on the cheek? Unless you're dating a character from a Charlotte Bronte novel, then I would have expected an escalation beyond a kiss on the cheek. OK people differ and it may simply be that's how she rolls, but working the averages I would suspect not. If that's all that has happened, then it does sound more like a platonic relationship than a romantic one.

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  • #3
    McGinty
    Closed Accounts Posts: 829 ✭✭✭McGinty


    As a woman I would concur with Wibbs post, as odd as this may sound but I would suggest you give her a kiss on the lips as she may begin to think you don't fancy her and view her more as a friend. The other question you have to ask is do you actually want to kiss her, you are running the risk of being too 'gentlemanly'. As for the chat, just ask, usually I find my instincts are pretty spot on and if she wasn't in to you she wouldn't agree to each date. Good luck


  • #4
    Varkov
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,263 ✭✭✭Varkov


    Well I doubt she sees it as a plutonic thing, but I agree with the posters above. I'd go for a bit of a lip lock before talking about GF/BF stuff, just to be sure where you stand.


  • #5
    Colonel_McCoy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    OP you need to up your game or else you will end up being just a friend. Next night drop the head and go for it! She is waiting for you to do it.

    As for the bf gf chat, I think its a bit early for that........


  • #6
    Curvy Vixen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Curvy Vixen


    Can I ask how old you both are OP?

    And is this the first 'relationship' you have had that has gotten to the 4th date?


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