Hurtful Comments

LegacyUser

Recently i have been going through a bad time. I havent talked to anyone about it and have ALWAYS bottled things up and instead always smiled and put on a show for every one. However lately i have been making hurtful remarks to people, stirring things up, holding grudges, sometime being really ignorant and hateful.I am now starting to fall out with respectable people. This has happened since people have tried to help me. I am starting to wonder if that is the real me annd i really am a nasty person? Or this just a phrase?

Delirium

It could be as a result of bottling things up. Your frustration and anger at not having a release for the things you bottle up is probably manifesting itself in your hurtful behaviour. Do you have anyone to talk to about the things that you are bottling up?

LegacyUser

I have always had problems telling personal stuff. i feel people are judging me

coillcam

If you have been through a bad patch and are under stress obviously your going to be strained somewhat and as a result your behavior possibly may deviate from what you consider your normal self.

I would think of it as a phase myself. I recommend you confide in someone about some of your issues and a problem shared really is a problem halved. I used to always keep everything to myself when I was younger. There are way too many things in life you can't handle or comprehend on your own. I learned this the hard way.

We are biologically conditioned and built the same way as humans. A lot of what we think, feel and experience as an individual is a parallel to friend's, family's or a stranger's own circumstances. I only found this out and understood after talking about whatever issues were bugging me. Women, money, family, deaths etc. Having a friend there to talk to and even just listen is really a gift. Your mates are not going to judge or make you feel bad. They only will try to help.

If you do not feel comfortable with discussing things with your mates then maybe you should consider trying a counselor. It might be easier to talk to a stranger. Good luck OP and I hope things pick up for you.

trishw78

Exactly what coillcam said...

I'm sure you can talk to someone in your family your mother or your father or are you closest to a sibling they aren't going to judge you they're your family they'll love and respect you regardless they mightn't have the answers but sometimes talking out loud to another person helps, it helps more than you realise atm.

I'm sure your friends, family and collegues realise something is wrong if you're acting out of character and I'm sure they'll understand if you tell them you're going through a difficult patch, you don't have to tell them what it is if you don't want to. They won't think anyless of you either.

G&T

SNAP

Just come out of a period where i felt exactly the same.

Looking back I think I was feeling let down and taken for granted.

I am the type of person who help's others and never ask's for help,
an ear for others problems,
I had a busy 12 months and the tiredness made me feel very
cross and bitter that no-one way going to do for me what I had done for them.
I know you shouldn't give to recieve but I must admit I
did think when my turn came to be in need the door would be broken down with offers,but alas no.

I stayed awake at night questioning my friends/family
and of what benefit they are to me,I saw no value in
staying close,thought they were just another drain in
my already busy life.

I spoke to my G.P and asked if he thought I was depressed,im not,
he said that my relationships with people were in a rut,
nothing had changed and wouldn't unless I changed them.

So im doing what I can to improve thing's,
dating my friend's and family again.:D

Redpunto

You need to take responsibility for who you are, and how you relate to people. If you feel you're acting like this becuase you need to talk to someone then take that step. Its your life and only you can change the way you behave.

LegacyUser

I have a similar problem. I can come accross as arogant and cocky but I know I am NOT that type of person. And I only am like that with people that I am close to. I cannot get rid of my stress, I seem to reinvent a new stressful situation just as the last one goes such as my looks etc. etc.. This has become a trait of my personality at this stage. I have confidede with my better half and I am starting to think I will end up on relaxers, which I really dont want.