Should I meet him after only exchanging 2 emails?

LegacyUser

I know you are all probably sick of threads about online dating but I need a bit of advice on this.

I am in the same situation as most who try this, you know sick of not meeting anyone ....bla.....bla.....bla. So I thought I would give it a go. I registered on one of the sites on Friday and got an email from a guy. He seemed ok, well as much as you can tell from an email. He wasnt shy about giving info about himself, it was quite a long first email. I replied obviously not telling him half as much about myself as he told me.

I then get an email back from him yesterday(which i only got to read today) saying how he doesnt like to waste weeks and weeks emailing a lady to then meet and find there is no chemistry. He then gives me his mobile number and asks can we meet for a date last night!!!!! And said that I have nothing to worry about as he is a nice guy......but he would say that wouldnt he! I have yet to reply as I dont know what to do or say.

I agree to an extent what he said about emailing for weeks but I would like to get to know him a bit better before I decide to meet him. I know that if I had met him out in a pub or where ever I probably wouldnt even think twice about going on a date. If I had met him that way I would have seen him face to face and probably chatted for a while and would have gotten a vibe as to what he is like. But I havent seen him and we have only exchanged 2 emails!!

Is this all a bit much and quick or am I being overly cautious??????

All advice welcome

Thanks!

tantipie

why dont ye swap msn for a bit frst,,i would be very wary of meetin this guy so soon,,

Fol20

i suppose you could always get a friend to tag a long to kinda watch over ye and if you dont like him,,get her to give you a call as an excuse to leave.

girl_friday

Having done the whole internet dating thing I would say go ahead and meet him but do it safely. at least then you can see if there is something there. Maybe arrange something for later in the week or next weekend and use the time in between to get to know him a bit better...

No matter what you decide, good luck!!

steod

tantipie wrote: »

why dont ye swap msn for a bit frst,,i would be very wary of meetin this guy so soon,,

Good advice about msn you can try get to know him a bit better on this and its a little quicker than email tennis. I would be wary of any one giving their mobile out in a second email though. If he wont agree to this then its obvious he is only after one thing.

MagicMarker

There's no problem meeting him, just have a lunch date in a public place and leave it at that, but to be quite honest, he sounds like a bit of a weirdo.

If you meet someone in a pub you'd generally be chatting to them for a while and believe it or not, you can learn a lot about them in such a short time, but more importantly you get to see how they interact which is also important.

He sounds like a pro, sending a long first email to get all his info out so he can swoop in and get you on a date. How many women do you think he sends this email to on a daily basis? Probably a lot, play the numbers game and you're bound to get a few replies.

I would be wary. But the ball's in your court, you don't have to do anything you don't want! If i were you, i'd say you want to learn more about him first, if he's not willing to put in the time then really, that's no loss to you.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone you are all saying what I have been thinking.

MagicMarker its like you read my mind:

MagicMarker wrote: »

If you meet someone in a pub you'd generally be chatting to them for a while and believe it or not, you can learn a lot about them in such a short time, but more importantly you get to see how they interact which is also important.

Thats exactly how I feel, I'm an ok judge of character and can weed out the weirdo's by chatting to them. But this is all a bit strange for my liking.

MagicMarker wrote: »

He sounds like a pro, sending a long first email to get all his info out so he can swoop in and get you on a date. How many women do you think he sends this email to on a daily basis? Probably a lot, play the numbers game and you're bound to get a few replies.

As soon as I read it I thought that too! It was like a generic email that you send out to everyone. It was as if he just copied and pasted it in. So I asked him in my one and only relpy "how long have you been doing this?" He said a year. I told him that I was new to this. He is def a pro and thats what worries me, he will know all the right things to say and do and I wont know if he is playing me or not.

MagicMarker wrote: »

I would be wary. But the ball's in your court, you don't have to do anything you don't want! If i were you, i'd say you want to learn more about him first, if he's not willing to put in the time then really, that's no loss to you

I was thinking of telling him that I would like to get to know him a bit better first. I dont know I just have alarm bells going off in my head. His second email was a bit strange as said he was sending it from his car as he had travelled up the country go on a date that night and it had fallen through????? Again am I being overly cautious???? i could be completely wrong?????

Time out

Maybe somewhere in the middle is the answer - Dont meet after two emails but dont wait "weeks and weeks" as he puts it. Email for maybe one week or 10 days and then meet him.
To be honest the wasting weeks and weeks excuse does not really stack up for me - a bit too business like or something.

St Bill

Email him back and tell him you'd like to get to know him a bit more. Listen to your intuition.....you don't have to go along with his timeline of doing things. I think it's very pushy to be talking about meeting when he's only sent you two emails (and the second one doesn't count 'cos he asked you out in that one!).
A great relationship is well worth waiting for, his excuse that he doesn't want to waste time is bizarre to say the least

Victor

What are you looking for?

Sounds like he's after one thing - that said, strangers are friends we haven't me yet.

Do you have a webcam? Set up a web chat. For a first date, try coffee or lunch - nothing too committed.

LegacyUser

Thanks again for all the advice.

Think I will email him back like ye said and tell him I would like to get to know him a bit better before deciding if we are going to meet. If hes not happy with that then.....ah well!

Dont really know if this whole internet dating thing is really me. Just checked my account and a guy has sent me one of those virtual roses with a message asking would I like to go for dinner this week!!! Whats that about????? At least the other guy told me a bit about himself first even if it was only one email!!!! Is it me or am i just attracting pushy guys!!!????