orgasm problem with girlfriend

LegacyUser

hi all... hopefully someone can help me with this,

my gf and i have been together for a while but so far no orgasm for her during sex... plenty form oral etc but anyway.

recently weve been getting close and shes been gettin the urge to pee which i now is supposed to be normal. shes having a hard time getting past that though and the 1 time she did she swears she actually did go... she also got a wave of emotion like she wanted to cry.

the other day we got close again but she said again she felt like she was going to cry.

ive not seen this mentioned anywhere and am wondering if theres something weird going on.. anyon experience this?

when it comes to the 'need to pee' thing once the girl lets go and stops holding back what is supposed to happen? is it normal that the orgasm comes strate away after and how can i convince her any liquid that comes out isnt pee?!!

while we dont exactly sit down and say today were going to make you cum - tbh that often makes us both feel underpressure and we tend to get closest when were just playing without a goal, we do try to make sure shes peed before we start but sometimes after she gets the urge and goes to the toilet she pees loads more! the one time she did let go shes convinced she just peed too.

sorry for being a bit crude in this but its probably best i speak plainly than dance around the issue lol!

tnks for any tips!!

GuanYin

There are books and videos you can get on the subject which are quite fun to watch with a partner. They're not like porn and if you make a night of it, it can really help deal with inhibitions that most girls have about their bodies with a partner.

I forget the one that I bought, but I'll check tomorrow to see if I can find it.

On the matter of female ejaculation, yeah, it can feel like the need to pee and again alot of it is psychological (it took me so long to get over it), try it in the shower, or standing up over towels, above all, reassure that you're ok with it, no matter what happens.

It really depends on the girl, I find the ejaculation comes just at the peak but that it tends to last far longer when that happens. It can be emotional, mainly due to the intensity of the feeling.

Couple of things to look at, does she orgasm solo? It may be worth getting her to show you what she does and teach you to copy that. If you're going for the G-spot, some girls like a little bit of external pressure over the G-spot when the moment is approaching, it intensifies the need to ejaculate because again, there is pressure there.
Some girls really can't handle it at all.

The bottom line is, we're all different and most of it is feeling comfortable, trusting your partner and knowing what works.

Oh, and talking plainly isn't crude, communication is important in sex. If you can communicate with her like that, good start.
Good luck.

LegacyUser

I wouldn't worry about it OP. When my bf and I first got together we went through the same thing. He worried about it, I didn't. We just kept trying different things and son found a way that workied for us. These days (still with him) I have an orgasm almost every time we have sex, and often more than one.

So my advice is to keep practising and try some different positions.

LegacyUser

thanks for dat everyone... the feeling upset thing really threw me as id not seen it mentioned before and wasnt sure what it was about.

i guess next time were doing stuff we can just put a few towels down and see wat happens... i just hope the upset thing isnt a feelin of guilt as a reaction to her tinking shes peed.

is dere an easy way to tell the difference between her cumming and peeing, or shud it just be obvious from the feelings she gets at the same time? thats kind of why im wondering if she wud normally cum straight after her stopping holding back - wot shud we expect once she feels like shes going to pee and lets it go? shud she just be relaxing or actually pushing anyway?!!

SheRa

Also it is very normal for women to need clitoral stimulation as well as penetration. Maybe you should try that too.

tSubh Dearg

There has been a couple of times, especially when myself and my partner are having a particularly intimate session, that when I orgasm, I am overwhelmed with emotions and either end up bursting into tears or bursting out laughing.

Alice1

How to tell the difference between pee and not-pee? If you are using a white towel it will be obviouse cos pee is yellow while vaginal secretion would be whitish.

jdivision

ask her to relax and go with it when she feels like that, some girls ejaculate and there is a huge emotional thing that goes with that as others said. Their bodies rack and their emotions are all over the place as others said.