What would you do?

LegacyUser

I am quite a shy girl but I finally went back to a guys house at the weekend after we had been on a few dates. We were getting close to having sex but when I wouldnt let him take my top off due to being self concious about my breasts he told me in no uncertain terms that I could either expose them or get out.
What would other people do in this situation

shellyboo

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I am quite a shy girl but I finally went back to a guys house at the weekend after we had been on a few dates. We were getting close to having sex but when I wouldnt let him take my top off due to being self concious about my breasts he told me in no uncertain terms that I could either expose them or get out.
What would other people do in this situation

I'd have happily gotten out... what a cheeky prick! You're far better off out of there than with a guy who has so little respect for you.

BKtje

Umm get out? Bit of a no brainer imo.

You feel uncomfortable doing something then don't do it, simple. I'd never let anyone force me into doing something that i didn't want to do, especially some random stranger.

star-pants

Seems a little harsh of him, I would be shy ish regarding that sort of stuff too and I won't do anything I'm not comfortable with. If a guy gave me an ultimatum regarding something like that, I'd go. Don't let it make you feel bad btw - I could understand him being 'um why not?' etc but he should have maybe tried to reassure you rather than say 'show em or get out'...

Curvy Vixen

Unregistered wrote: »

I am quite a shy girl but I finally went back to a guys house at the weekend after we had been on a few dates. We were getting close to having sex but when I wouldnt let him take my top off due to being self concious about my breasts he told me in no uncertain terms that I could either expose them or get out.
What would other people do in this situation

If you are uncomfortable about anyone asking you to do anything you don't want to do, you need to tell them no. If they then give you an ultimatum you need to get out of the situation.

If he was saying 'take these drugs or else' you would run like hell. Slightly more elaborate scenario maybe but same result.

Oryx

What would I do? Get out and thank my lucky stars I hadnt slept with him. His attitude is really horrible, showing a total lack of empathy or consideration.

But I am concerned here as to what you did do. Not asking you to tell as such, but you dont mention. If you did leave I would see that as a good decision, as the man was being exceptionally rude and unfeeling. But if you stayed, well I can understand you would feel worse if everyone here says you should have left. Either way, dont dwell on it. Whats done is done, and regardless of how nice the guy had been to you early on, now you know his true colours, which is better at this stage than further down the line.

LegacyUser

I would have left.
Not because he wanted to see my breasts, but because he was so rude and aggresive about it. He sounds horrible and most guys aren't that shallow. I hope this hasn't knocked your confidence. He sounds like a dick.

I hope you can build up your confidence and will feel comfortable enough to let someone special see you in your naked glory. I'd imagine you will when you meet someone a little more sensitive than this guy.

lorcanthrope

I think they key thing here is that regardless of what your decision was in this case, it's left you feeling worse than you were beforehand. If you capitulated, well - that's unpleasant for your self-esteem which as you already said is low enough as it is. But I'm sure it also can't be a pleasant option to walk away from someone's house after mustering up the courage to go back with them WHEN you're a shy person on top of it all...

Personally I think any guy who's that fussy about sex is probably making up for something... First time I've heard something that ridiculous. My only equivalent would be that I don't like it when a girl wears socks in bed... I wouldn't throw anyone out over that though!

ShawnRaven

You dodged a bullet. Be thankful. Had that gotten any further, that would have lead to a whole world of mindf*ck, which quite frankly, nobody needs.

SarahJ

What a complete tool he was. I hope to God you left!! Everyone has their hang-ups, and any decent person would accept this.

towel401

the guy is clearly a douche...

ohnoigotsick

you should have offered to give him head then chomp it off.

seriously though what an arse hole good advice from other posters here - you ain't comfortable with it , don't do it.

plenty of good guys out there for you

Bijoux

+1 on what everyone else said so far.....he's obviously a total asshole who didnt care about your side of the situation or your needs, and just wants things his way.

OP, please tell me you left when it came to that?

Either way, dont let it go any further, seeing this guy long term would ruin your confidence.