Quick Question....

LegacyUser · 28-10-2008 11:53am #1

gonna ask a girl out in work for a few drinks this weekend, she'll probably say no, but sure what the heck, if you don't ask ye'll never know. what im wondering is, whats anyone's opinion on the right time to ask? i email her a bit so it will probably be through email that i ask her. but do you think its better to leave it to closer to the weekend, ie thursday evening or friday, when she might have already made plans, or ask her straight away, which maybe seems a bit needy and like i have been thinking about it (which i have, haha)

LegacyUser · 28-10-2008 12:38pm

I'd ask her now...casually drop it into the mail if ye are mailing back & forth...make sure its at the end though. Just ask if she fancies going for a drink at the weekend

Good Luck!!

Karen_* · 28-10-2008 12:38pm

Ask her now as she's less likely to have made plans for the weekend than on Thursday or Friday.

Hogzy · 28-10-2008 12:41pm

or if youy ask closer to the weekend she might say "oh i have plans but do you want to do something the following weekend" or something like that.
If she then asks to do something at a latter date you may well be in there!!!!

Drift · 28-10-2008 3:43pm

Emails can be misread quite easily though so make sure that it's quite clear you are asking her on a date and not for a few drinks with other colleagues.

Good luck with it. Let us know how it goes.

star-pants · 28-10-2008 4:11pm

Aye OP - I'd ask her now - you can phrase it 'was wondering if you're free at the weekend if you might like to meet up for a drink' (not my phrasing but along those lines) because if you wait til thurs/fri she may already have plans.
Good luck

spiderman1885 · 28-10-2008 4:18pm

This is exciting!!!

She Devil · 28-10-2008 4:22pm

Let us know how it goes, say it in an email .. a new email with a special subject : making the subject title funny and humourous, like "Its your lucky day, or could be?" and ask her.
Hope it works out. Good luck

LegacyUser · 28-10-2008 8:25pm

Unregistered wrote: »

gonna ask a girl out in work for a few drinks this weekend, she'll probably say no, but sure what the heck, if you don't ask ye'll never know. what im wondering is, whats anyone's opinion on the right time to ask? i email her a bit so it will probably be through email that i ask her. but do you think its better to leave it to closer to the weekend, ie thursday evening or friday, when she might have already made plans, or ask her straight away, which maybe seems a bit needy and like i have been thinking about it (which i have, haha)

Right, OP, this is the best advise you're ever gonna get, so listen up-
next time you see her pretend you're really busy and have to run, and make sure to tell her this. And that's when you ask her out for a few drinks... smooth, heh?
tbh emailing a collegue you see everyday is a bit silly.

fearandloathing · 28-10-2008 8:49pm

IMO, you shouldnt ask her out through an email cos as someone said already email/txt can be easily misread.. if you want to ask her out on a proper date then do it face to face so you both know where you stand.. its a little bit more awkward than the easy option of an email but its a lot less awkward than when you go to kiss her and she pulls away and says she thought you were just friends... good luck anyway!

SarahSassy · 28-10-2008 8:53pm

Do it as soon as you can. She may very likely have plans otherwise. Women (rampant generalisation) tend to be good at planning ahead and its as 'they' say 'the early bird catches the worm'. Good luck.

SASR · 29-10-2008 1:05am

She Devil wrote: »

Let us know how it goes, say it in an email .. a new email with a special subject : making the subject title funny and humourous, like "Its your lucky day, or could be?" and ask her.
Hope it works out. Good luck

Ew, I wouldn't recommend that. Incredibly cornball.

metrovelvet · 29-10-2008 1:38am

Given the amount of people who complain about getting dumped by email or text I would say, start as you mean to go on. Do it in person.

ShawnRaven · 29-10-2008 3:49am

She Devil wrote: »

Let us know how it goes, say it in an email .. a new email with a special subject : making the subject title funny and humourous, like "Its your lucky day, or could be?" and ask her.
Hope it works out. Good luck

As SASR said, bad idea. And i'll give you another one.
Work emails are heavily secure, and that in the subject line would probably be detected as spam and automatically deleted. Which means she wouldn't get it, making the poor guy look like she blanked him.

cooperguy · 29-10-2008 5:28am

My vote would be for casually mentioning it in person now if you can. And alsp reporting back here with the results!

Diddler82 · 29-10-2008 10:06am

With work being work, it could make things a right pain for you and put her in a position she does not want to be in so my recommendation to you is that you give her a call or if you never really ring her outside of office hours just drop her a text asking her is it okay to give her a call for a minute.

Then ask her...

At least then if she says no it means that there wont be that awkward moment when you see each other again.

If you go by text or email it just means there will be that bit of awkwardness that comes from texts/email conversations!

I think this is the best ploy because it gives her a little time to think and also if she says no you will not see the genuine horror on her face!!

Also I would say about 9pm when she is all cosy on the couch on her own watching Telly...not as she is racing for the Train or driving home!!

LegacyUser · 29-10-2008 10:36am

OP here, was gonna email her, didn't think it was any big deal, now this thread has put me off the idea, looks like i'll have to wait for a chance to ask her face to face now (which is tough in my office) or get her number and text her some evening....there goes this weekends plan....

Diddler82 · 29-10-2008 12:17pm

Unregistered wrote: »

OP here, was gonna email her, didn't think it was any big deal, now this thread has put me off the idea, looks like i'll have to wait for a chance to ask her face to face now (which is tough in my office) or get her number and text her some evening....there goes this weekends plan....

Best of luck with it...let us no how you get on!!

She Devil · 29-10-2008 12:30pm

Ah OP, do it your way, you know her we don't!!
Take the bull by the horns, and go for it!

jessbeth · 29-10-2008 12:46pm

I would give her a call instead of asking by email. It sounds more personal. Anyway ask a little in advance, most people have plans for the weekend by Thursday. Try asking something else rather then drinks too. Drinks is soo boring and uneventful. You'll have a better chance that she will say yes if you cook dinner or something :-) Good luck.

castle · 29-10-2008 1:57pm

The more you think about it the harder it get's,Just walk up to her casually and just say for eg hey Maria do you fancy going for a drink some time ,simple and sweet.

allybhoy · 29-10-2008 2:18pm

Dont mind the people on here OP, just casually drop it into an email you dont hav to do it face to face if you dont want to, its hard in a busy office to get a minute or two alone and the last thing you want is half your collegues hearing you get rejected. Saying it face to face is not going to increase or decrease your chances, she either likes you or she doesnt, Simple as. Think about it, would you give a crap if she asked you face to face or by email? No you'd just be happy she asked at all.

Anyhow, Good luck

LegacyUser · 29-10-2008 5:49pm

hello all,
something simlar here too. Sorry if iam butting in, but I thought it might be better than starting up a new thread.
Simlar situation too in work, I really like this guy in work, we work in the same company but differnet departments. The thing is I dont know his name! But he always makes an effort to say hello or good morning to me.
I'd love to ask him out for a date, but I dont know where to start!
Any suggestions?

LegacyUser · 29-10-2008 7:57pm

Unregistered wrote: »

OP here, was gonna email her, didn't think it was any big deal, now this thread has put me off the idea, looks like i'll have to wait for a chance to ask her face to face now (which is tough in my office) or get her number and text her some evening....there goes this weekends plan....

what are you- a child?
can't believe you changed your mind so easily just because a few people on here didn't think it was a good idea?!!

you seriously need to grow a pair, mate! if you feel emailing her is appropriate in your situation,then simply do so!

Alice1 · 30-10-2008 12:30am

OP, send the email! And let us know how you get on - we are very interested. But do it now - don't leave it til later in the week.

Unregistered, can't you just ask his name? Maybe get chatting to him first a bit before asking him out. In fact, if he is sending signals like that he might just ask you out first.

BAsTid · 30-10-2008 1:03am

Op,

What I tend to do when making plans, making them for next week. Something along the lines of
"Hey, what ya doing next thursday/friday cos I was wondering if ya wanted to go for a drink or something?".

I'm not saying to say that exactly but ya get my drift, your asking in advance so theres not any pressure for her to answer. Depending on her answer she might mention she's free prior to the day you want and sort out something for then. Also your leaving it open for her to decide if theres something else she might perfer to do other then going for a drink as personally I find asking girls for a drink in the pub is very clichè.

Hope it helps!

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