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  • 26-10-2008 9:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Im a 24 year old guy whos works in waterford during the week but originally from galway. I finished up college two years ago and since then i have realised i dont have any close friends really and also i have no girlfriend for the last year either which may be part of the problem. My friends from college all live in differant parts of the country and dont see them at all really and my friends back home seem to be all gone there separate ways and settled down too and i dont contact them much at all and they dont contact me. I live with a few people in waterford who seem to be fairly happy with there situations also as they have BF and GF and i dont seem to get out at all during the week as i never have anyone to go out with because of this. I usually head back to home the weekends to see the family but apart from that i dont really have any friends now that i could even go out with back home. I am very outgoing and love going out but won't head out on my own into town as i would feel kind of stupid- rightly. I cant really see how this situation is gonna change anytime soon either as i cant see anything changing. Does anyone have any advice. I know people will say join clubs etc but i dont want to come across as being without friends but thats clearly the case. My main problem is that i moved for college and lost contact wit a lot of my friends back home, now in waterford i only have a handful of people i can call friends.


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  • #2
    Kevster
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    Hi,

    I wasn't actually going to suggest joining any clubs because I know that that is what every short-sighted person suggests in a situation like this. My suggestion to you is to be more perceptable to opportunities involving friendships and relationships. This is kind of hard to explain but, basically, keep the determination to socialise with you 24/7. As you continue through your day, you should notice opportunities here and there that you could seize. I am unsocial and have been for my entire life, yet I have still managed to have 3 girlfriends (two long term).

    Kevin


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    thanks kevin,
    i do try to be as outgoing as possible as i have recognised i have lost a lot of friends for differing reasons which is particular to my situation. i dont get out much during the week because of work and the fact that no one i know goes out during the week is part of the problem yet waterford during the week is a lively place and i would love to even get out for a few drinks. It just seems that everyone else has there own friends and that i am kind of stuck in the middle with no one. In relation to going home at the weekends this does not help me either as like i said i dont really have any friends just family at this stage. I wouldnt say im depressed in anyway but just realise i need more friends to socialsie but it aint easy.


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