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Relationship advice needed

  • 26-10-2008 3:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    hey folks, met a absolutely great girl about 9 months ago just before uni finished for the summer, things were going great although i play rugby at a semi-professional level outside of uni, and i used to get lot of earache about training etc etc, nothing too severe. Anyways she is a total babe but incredibly jealous of other girls and she never went to uni so is very very wary of me heading out with the lads and i'll be honest here i never once even considered cheating on her cause i was so happy, and i hav done in the past on other girls which im not very proud of. Towards the start of september she was going through a hard time at work and i was probably being a bit useless as i had so many other commitments but long story short we broke up, the main reason was she said she wouldn't be able to cope with me being back at uni and her at home worried about me etc etc.

    I know this sounds like she is really needy but she is absolutely fine when im home and if it was the other way round i would be very paranoid.

    Anyways, this is the crux of the matter. We were broke up for about a month and during this time i went with a couple of girls and slept with one one particular night i was drunk. During which the condom came off, i didn't come and the girl got the morning after pill 34 hours later and that was that. I went and got myself tested out and everything was ok.

    So during this month long break up i have been missing her like hell, and we've been texting etc etc etc, i really do love her and she loves me and we are both thinking about giving it another go, her work seems to have settled down and she is a different person.

    The problem is i feel incredibly guilty about what i did, i know we were broke up but i still do, i am completely paranoid incase the one night stand girl ends up pregnant and five months down the line she gets in touch with me, what are the chances of her getting pregnant? And i also don't know what to say when the inevitable happens and she asks me was i with anyone else during our break up? I am going up the walls over this and any help or advice anyone could offer would be very much appreciated.


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  • #2
    Karen_*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,610 ✭✭✭Karen_*


    The girl you were with is not pregnant. Yes you are being paranoid about that. And you've done nothing wrong by being with someone when you two broke up.

    If you think its going to upset her terribly then don't tell her and put it behind you. What she doesn't know can't hurt her and there really is no point in telling her. Stop beating yourself up!!


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I know, i just feel so guilty and paranoid about that other girl, i know i shouldnt be but i cant help it. I know what your saying about not telling her and we were broke up ill just find it hard and need to put the worry outta my head about that other girl. So worried about the other girl being pregnant its ridiculous as my best mate got his fiance pregnant after a condom split, altho he did come and she didn't get the morning after pill. Ahhhhhhhhhhh.


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