just want some advice

LegacyUser

Hi all. Just need a bit of advice.

I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I have been terribly lonely the last few weeks, but i have a great family and a great circle of friends who have been helping me through this. Especially one friend in particular.... he was my previous boyfriend. He's a great guy, and of my friends, he's the one dearest to me, and the only reason we split was because he left for the US and i was off to college. He's home now (since May) for good, and he's been very supportive of me the last few weeks. I am falling for him again. I missed him terribly when he was away and I can be almost certain that he still has feelings for me, i can just tell - - dont ask me how - - i just know. Maybe its because there's always been something between us.

What I'm asking is should i tell him how i feel? should i hold off for another few weeks just in case its a 'rebound' reaction??

Wibbs

If he's an ex it's less likely that it would be a rebound in some ways. Rebounds usually come about because people seek out novelty and traits they thought they needed in a previous ex. Novelty is hardly a factor here. I would be careful taht you're rushing into filling the emotional void. An important ex would be a shoe in for that. Also with exes we tend over time to only rememebr the good and not the bad, so I would take it slow. See what he is as a person now, more than the boyfriend you remember. If that test gets passed then play ball.

You're still raw from the previous and you don't want to ruin the new thing with your ex. And it will be a new thing. Treat it as such.

I'll say this though, in my experience, people who have gone back to exes after a long time and other people in between seem to do very well by comparison to completely new people, especially if it was circumstance that drove them apart.