Hope?

LegacyUser

I just can't give up hope that my ex will take me back. I'm not too sure what I did wrong in the first place. I love him so much. We were together for 2 years and have a 1yr old son. He dumped me nearly 4 mths ago, but I can't let go.

I've stopped talking to my friends about it, I fell like i'm whinging at this stage and I should be over that stage.

I do my best not to hound him, but I have my weak moments and send him stupid txts like "I miss you" or something equally as slushy. I think I may be coming across desperate, which I am, but I know it's the worst thing I can do.

He's a good dad and does what he can for our son, but I want to be a proper family. I thought long and hard if this was clouding my judgement and emotions and if that was the real reason I wanted him back, but it's not, it's because I love him and can't imagine my life without him, even if we didn't have the tie of our son.

I've been with another guy since we split up, nothing major, just a kind of one night thing, and even though I fancied the guy, I felt like I was cheating on my ex, cheating on my own emotions, being with someone when I knew I was in love with somebody else.

I know people say it takes time, but I honestly don't want to stop loving him, I don't want a future without him by my side, I just want him back.

chickenhawk

Hopless? wrote: »

I know people say it takes time, but I honestly don't want to stop loving him, I don't want a future without him by my side, I just want him back.

From the sounds of it he has moved on. You have text him that you miss him and he hasn't told you he misses you (from the sound of it). This is not what you want to hear and is probably of no use to you but, what you said above was that you don't want to stop loving him. If you try and stop maybe in a few weeks you will see where the relationship went wrong and you will find it easier to move on.

Ann22

What reason did he give for finishing it?

LegacyUser

He a lot younger than me, he said he wasn't ready, that he didn't feel the same way about me any more and that our life was too much pressure on him.

He says he adores me and doesn't want to hurt me, he says that there are lots of things he misses, but also lots that he doesn't miss.

I want to give him space, time to find himself. I want to know that if he comes back it's for me, for the right reasons.
But I just feel so lonely without him, I want to talk to him, I want to be a family again.

seahorse

Would you mind telling us your exact ages OP? It might clarify things a bit.

Curvy Vixen

OP I think you actually need time and space to find yourself, not for him to find himself. He seems pretty much together tbh and you are the one who seems lost.

If it's over, it's over. You say you want to be a family but you are a family. You and your child are a family 24/7 with your partner as a father when he is there.

Please don't be like my sister who had a child with a guy nearly 18 years ago, split up with him (for very good reasons!) and has had some sort of crazy on/off affair for that whole time with him. As recently as last night they spent time together and it makes me so mad! He's married now, still stringing her along, and she is now 40 and no further on with her life than she was 20 years ago..what a waste of a life :mad:

It's understandable that you feel lost and lonely being on your own with a small child but do whatever it takes to get your life back on track...do it for you and your child