Bit lonely

janullrich · 23-10-2008 8:45pm #1

Ok, to be honest I have a lot I've got my own house, and have sex with various people I know but there is one thing i am missing, a girlfriend since I broke up with my last one last December. I'm 35 and am consious with age that I need someone by my side. I am determined to go for it this weekend and see what it is out there even if it means not being with friends etc. Perhaps I am trying too hard. I don't know. Can anyone advise????:(:confused:

Curvy Vixen · 23-10-2008 9:12pm

It's not shopping, you can't just go out there and see what's about!

If you really want to make a go of it with someone find someone that you have something in common with and get to know them before you hit the bed..

ron_darrell · 23-10-2008 9:49pm

Easier said than done these days vixen. Girls are pretty predatory in the modern S&TC age

. In the same boat as the OP and know what he's going through. In a way though I'd agree with vixen. Take your time and you'll find the one you're supposed to be with. Rushing it will only frighten them away. Stick in there mate and good luck.

Curvy Vixen · 23-10-2008 9:59pm

ron_darrell wrote: »

Easier said than done these days vixen. Girls are pretty predatory in the modern S&TC age .

As they said in Grange Hill....Just Say No!

I actually don't know the answer to this tbh. It seems sad that so many people are in the same boat. If you don't meet people through your job, pubs and clubs are pretty rubbish places to do it.

But I do know that the more you think that you can just 'go and get one' the less likely it is to happen. It's like girls smell the desperation or something.

housefrau · 24-10-2008 3:48pm

Girls smell the desperation. Boys smell it also.

There is no easy way to meet people. how i met my ex (alas) was a night out, work related, but all I did was smile. I made a conscious effort to look open and friendly. Anyone looked at me I smiled back. Some people responded to me, some didn't. I don't think its that complicated.
Don't go out looking to meet your 'soul-mate', that's quite a pressure for any girl to take on and she will sense it. Go out and be open to meeting new friends, having fun and enjoying yourself. Don't put any greater pressure on yourself and the lucky girls you will be talking to.

Teacherman · 24-10-2008 8:27pm

janullrich wrote: »

Ok, to be honest I have a lot I've got my own house, and have sex with various people I know but there is one thing i am missing, a girlfriend since I broke up with my last one last December. I'm 35 and am consious with age that I need someone by my side. I am determined to go for it this weekend and see what it is out there even if it means not being with friends etc. Perhaps I am trying too hard. I don't know. Can anyone advise????:(:confused:

Have sex with various people you know-yeah right!

How Strange · 24-10-2008 8:35pm

I have to agree with others who say don't try too hard and there really is nothing as unattractive as a desperate person.

IMO, you should just live your life, enjoy your friends, enjoy socialising. It sounds like a cliche but you are more likely to meet someone if you're happy in your skin, content with your own company and not going out with the idea of meeting 'the one'.

MugMugs · 24-10-2008 8:36pm

Stop using condoms. The one you get preggers is the one for you !

A bit like a lottery !

Dont mention it by the way....

Wibbs · 24-10-2008 8:48pm

Teacherman and MugMugs, stay on topic and give over on the funny stuff. Read the charter. Only warning.

janullrich · 26-10-2008 7:33pm

Thanks for your advice folks. Appreciate it.

Bit lonely

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