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LegacyUser

There's a girl I work with. She 's good looking and a really nice person. we geto n really well. She works in a different department and I'd see her around the office once in a blue moon. when we see each other stop for a chat and the flirting is flying is so obvious you could see it from space. Whenever there's a company night out we spend the hole night sitting together, laughing, drinking and gboing for smokes together.

We never make plans to hang out or anything. At the end of the night she cuddles in to me links me arm and always asks me to walk her home.

QUESTION: Girls do you reckon I have a chance here or does she just think of me as somebody that she really like hanging out with??

Curvy Vixen

ASK HER OUT!!!!

Why do men need mallets in their heads sometimes ?

Worst she can say is no and best is a big fat yes!

Do it and tell us what happened!

Red Alert

I could have done with a few mallets in cases like these... you essentially have two options here, and both of them sound like they could work: Either turn the walk home into a goodnight kiss and/or ask her to go to something with you alone during the week.

LegacyUser

OP HERE:

what do you mean mallets. just want to make sure I wasn't being the usual ego-tistical bloke thinking that I could have her because she acts that way. she's really nice girl and just wanted to know if the signals I'm getting are flirts and come ons or just friendlyness

Red Alert

They're big soft hammers - you'd still be seeing stars after it :pac:

I think they're pretty clear signs. Good luck.

Curvy Vixen

I'm with Red Alert on this one....

Give it a shot OP....the signs look good. Who knows if she is just being friendly or flirting but you need to ask to find out for sure.

Good luck!

Elessar

Does she act this way around every guy she's around or just you? If just you I'd say you have a decent chance of going out with her.

LegacyUser

Elessar wrote: »

Does she act this way around every guy she's around or just you? If just you I'd say you have a decent chance of going out with her.

Thats the thing. whenever we go to a job-doo we spend the whole night together. we don't sneak off on our own like. We sit with the gang but we're pretty much inseprable. don't see her acting like that with any of the other guys in job.

PixelTrawler

ask her to a movie, its something completely not commital, go to an early show so u have time to go for a drink after etc etc... all of sudden, you never know.. watch for clues on the night... turn it into an impromptu dinner out etc... make it seem all accidental but have it all planned.

that way if she says no about going, or makes excuses you've tested the water without really losing face.

You'll work it out on the night

FionaC

Next time you see her just say "fancy having a drink sometime?". She will simply say yes or no. It sounds like shes into you tbh. If you leave it the way it is and don't ask her out you'll end up missing the opportunity.

GOOD LUCK!

LegacyUser

Hi OP here.

I just wanted to say thanks for your words of encouragement. I plucked up the courage and asked her out on friday when I saw her out having a smoke on me way home.
Stopped for a chat and she mentioned she was not doing anythiung this weekend. So I asked her if she wanted to come out Saturday night. So we went out and had a ball. I chanced a kiss at the end of the night and risk favoured the brave.

So thanks again to those in boards world that helped me out.



P.S. Oh yeah we're going out again next weekend too

Caros

Aw that's fantastic! Good luck with it, so nice to hear a romantic ending .... or begining!

thebiggestjim

fortune favors the brave, well done.

Red Alert

Well done & have a great time

Wibbs

I was earlier gonna type in big letters "WTF!!! Ask her, you, you....." and then promptly ban myself for unhelpful and aggressive posting. Luckily it didn't come to that. fair play and I think the next time some bloke asks this question we'll refer to this thread.

Good luck with the next date.

Curvy Vixen

:D:D Yayyy....sometimes you just gotta go for it even when you feel sick at the thought of it!

Just enjoy each other now.....good luck and thanks for the update!