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girlfriend of 3yrs cheats

  • 23-10-2008 12:45pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    so iv been with my gf for 3 yrs.

    she cheated on me last night... she was drunk, but still.

    I dunno, im very confused... should i get back with her?


Comments

  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    I dunno, im very confused... should i get back with her?

    Is that what you want to do?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,095 ✭✭✭✭omb0wyn5ehpij9


    If you can forgive her for what she did, and can trust her again, along with wanting to get back with her, then yeah get back with her. But if you answer no to any of those 3 things, then dont get back with her.

    Personally i wouldnt be able to


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,200 ✭✭✭muppetkiller


    Did she sleep with him or just kiss him. Did she come straight out and tell you ?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 310 ✭✭rvd156


    Dude you need to think long and hard about it....

    I know exactly how you feel...I left for a year and then she never gave up trying to get me back so I knew then she was sorry and so we have been going strong since....

    It either ruins a relationship or makes it strong....

    Just take ur time and think...

    If she slept with him then say "goodbye"...My incident was just a snog....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 132 ✭✭Tommy the Cat


    Was it a kiss or full on action? If it was just a kiss I'd let it slide with a good stern talking to. If it was action dump the b*tch, as you'll never be able to trust her.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,131 ✭✭✭Curvy Vixen


    I don't think that you should decide to do anything right now.

    You do need to talk to her though...find out as much detail as you want to which might be nothing and might be everything.

    Then give yourself some space and decide yourself what you want to do.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    rvd156 wrote: »


    Just take ur time and think...

    that seems to be the best plan.... thanks lads/lasses?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,861 ✭✭✭Irishcrx


    Well, it depends can you give some more details, did she know the bloke, was in a random thing, did she have sex with him?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 149 ✭✭napapa


    sorry to hear that bro..if she slept with him...pack your bags and hit the road


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    If she slept with him, then it would be the end of it for me.

    If she kissed him, after 3 years in a relationship i would have to think long and hard on it.

    What i would say though, rather than jump back into the relationship (if that is what you want), take a break, don't see her for a few weeks while you get your head sorted out.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    P45 - I'm afraid !


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    Basically, you need to decide if you can trust her again.........if you cant then there is no future. Why did she cheat? She is going out with you 3 yrs she cant put it down to being drunk..............


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,171 ✭✭✭af_thefragile


    well, there's the "rule" kinda like if he/she cheats once, forgive him/her if they're really sorry for what they did. If he/she cheats again, just dump em.

    But then it all really depends on the situation. Is she really sorry for what she did and does she wanna get back too??


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,024 ✭✭✭Redpunto


    Meself I dont think i'd ever be able to forget it, but if you truely love her and she is truely sorry then things can work out.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 438 ✭✭podge79


    dont act rashly either way.... take time to think bout how you feel and if you think you can forgive her and trust her.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 73 ✭✭PretentiousApe


    Could you trust her again? I think that'd be the most important thing to take into consideration, here. If it was just a stupid, drunken thing, then it was probably accidental. That's not an excuse, but hey... Better than nothing.


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