Crazy about friend but seeing his friend

LegacyUser

I have a male friend who i adore, hes funny, trusting, witty, and i love being around him, i even sit in the car while he is working travelling around, all the girls think he is great.

So what happend was, we went for drinks one night and he called 2 of his friend to the pub for drinks with us, i never met them before and the truned of to to really nice, i got drunk and kiss one of them and before i know it me and his friend were going to the cinema on saturday, and having dinner on sunday and hanging out all week.

we both say we are not going out, but we are like BF & GF and its ony 2 weeks in,

the problem is i spend alot of my time with this friend of his, but i miss my friend , i jump when i see his name on my phone, and am so happy if i get to see him once a week, when i leave him i'm depressed, he is such a nice guy. not the most attractive but he is all round great. i think i may have feelings for him, but i like his friend too.what do I do?

Should i just finish with his friend and try and start something with him or what, i am so confused

craichoe

Unregistered wrote: »

I have a male friend who i adore, hes funny, trusting, witty, and i love being around him, i even sit in the car while he is working travelling around, all the girls think he is great.

So what happend was, we went for drinks one night and he called 2 of his friend to the pub for drinks with us, i never met them before and the truned of to to really nice, i got drunk and kiss one of them and before i know it me and his friend were going to the cinema on saturday, and having dinner on sunday and hanging out all week.

we both say we are not going out, but we are like BF & GF and its ony 2 weeks in,

the problem is i spend alot of my time with this friend of his, but i miss my friend , i jump when i see his name on my phone, and am so happy if i get to see him once a week, when i leave him i'm depressed, he is such a nice guy. not the most attractive but he is all round great. i think i may have feelings for him, but i like his friend too.what do I do?

Should i just finish with his friend and try and start something with him or what, i am so confused

Sounds like its just a phase, how about you see neither and get your head straightened out.

LegacyUser

i cant, i have to see my friend, but will he hate me if i break it off with his friend.


I donlt know how he feels, we have a great time together, laughing and talking bout all kinds of subjects personal and normal.

if i could have his friend looks and my friends personality life would be great,??!!??

Oryx

Unregistered wrote: »

if i could have his friend looks and my friends personality life would be great,??!!??

oooh. I felt for you till you said that. Sounds like wanting to have your cake and eat it.

If youre only seeing bloke B for his looks, end it. Why didnt you hook up with bloke A before now? Again if it was his looks putting you off, for gods sake leave the guy be. You cannot have it all. Sounds like you goofed by kissing and going out with Mr B, and now you want to undo it and go back where you were. You cant, and youll have to deal with the problems its bringing.

Mr. Incognito

if i could have his friend looks and my friends personality life would be great,??!!??

Aha!

We've all been there.

Go with the personality love- you'll thank me later.

Redpunto

DO you think this friend would be interested in more than just friendship? You really need to get your own head straight as messing around could mess up the two friends relationship as well.

LegacyUser

Redpunto wrote: »

DO you think this friend would be interested in more than just friendship? You really need to get your own head straight as messing around could mess up the two friends relationship as well.

I really think he is, all my grils think he is great and we spend so much time together that , that he has been refered to as my BF,
but its weird, he is a lads lad, but has numerous friends who are girls from all over the city and they all love him, i get jelous when we are out, when he walks into the bar or club or what ever girls swoon all over him that know him, some girls i know and others i dont, and they are all very pretty , and same with the lads, his friends are like his brothers they love him too.

the friend of his i'm seeing is one of his closest, if he did like me, I know he wouldn't say anything to him, hide his feelings and continue on. he has the such a good heart.

the reason i think he doesn't have a girlfriend is ( and i'm going to be mean for a bit , and hate myself for it ) he is not the most attractive guy in the world, refuses to be stylish and will wear anything, dont get me wrong he dresses well but not like he should, also another reason is that he, WORKS, that guy is like a machine, thats why he is unfit, he starts st 7 goes to work, runs his own business on the side and is invloved in a few others and does it every evening anf weekend. his excuse is he has no time for girlfriends, he prefers to have money and save for the next few years and set him self up for the future. i feel he is missing out on life but he wont listen he has huge goals and nothing is going to stop him.

I really dont know what to do, its true i want my cake and eat it too. and i hate myself for it he is such a good genuine guy

LegacyUser

Sounds like you don't deserve him tbh...

LegacyUser

please people i need some help on this, im cracking up !!!!