Need a bit of help please

LegacyUser

Ive been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now and i'm sooo bored of it to be honest. We're stuck in a rut and nothing is fun anymore we just snap at each other and i feel more like i'm living with my friend rather than my partner. we went on a break for a while my choice and my OH was devastated yet nothing has changed when i decided to get mbak together.

The problem is i cant bring myself to do the inevitable. i want to be single i know i do but i cant unexpectidly just dump my OH when nothing bad has happened latel in fact we just moived into an apartment together. i'm soo confused.

tatt chic

if you know you want to be single then you may talk to him and tell him its over!
have you known this before you moved in with him?

i had similiar experience and me and other half got back together, its been brilliant since!

LegacyUser

yea well i did kinda know this already like but its complicated like he joked about suicide before and its always stuck in my head since then

jim o doom

To be honest, the only thing you can do that makes sense; end it. The longer you leave it, the more unsuspecting he will be of you and the whole situation. That will make it even harder to end it! You could end up resenting him because you are not free to do what you want, and that can only end badly.. I can say this early on, that the consensus is going to be that you should just end it now before it goes any further - it's terribly unfortunate that it's happened, and bad for your OH because he doesn't expect it (although if you are snapping at each other all the time he must realise there is something wrong on some level).. but it really is the only way - you can't go on "living a lie" for much longer as you will be miserable!

tatt chic

jim o doom wrote: »

To be honest, the only thing you can do that makes sense; end it. The longer you leave it, the more unsuspecting he will be of you and the whole situation. That will make it even harder to end it! You could end up resenting him because you are not free to do what you want, and that can only end badly.. I can say this early on, that the consensus is going to be that you should just end it now before it goes any further - it's terribly unfortunate that it's happened, and bad for your OH because he doesn't expect it (although if you are snapping at each other all the time he must realise there is something wrong on some level).. but it really is the only way - you can't go on "living a lie" for much longer as you will be miserable!

exactly, the longer you leave it the worse it will be!
you need to think of yourself, joking about suicide is a little disturbing if i'm honest, do you think he said it to keep you?
as much as it will hurt you both, in the long run its for the best, i'm sure he will see it that way too

Irishcrx

What your doing is wanting to be single, going on a break having some fun then coming back to the security of a relationship which isn't fair on your OH. I only had to read the opening line of this to tell you don't wanna be with him, you can't change how you feel do you both a favour suck it up and break it off get on with your lifes. Sometimes these things just run their course and it's time to move on.