HELP

LegacyUser

Right back drop:
I've known this girl over a year now. we went out for about a month. I fellfor her big time. We broke upbut are best friends. We do everythingtogether. I never stopped having feelings for her. Still do to this day.

Fast forward to present:
She started seeing this guy. She ran it by me but I bottled it when sheasked me where we where. I knew by the line of questions she was asking methat she had met someone. The look on her face when she was telling me. Herlovely smile and bright eyes. I couldn't tell her how I feel.He did something really f**kin stupid and broke it off with ther. Shewanted to never see him again. But after we were out one night having greatcraic I found out he dropped in after I had left. Spoke to her thefollowing day and she told me they spoke and decided to work things out.


We were supposed to be going away this weekend and I had planned to tellher how I felt. But now that this a**hole is back in the picture I don'tthink she coming. Should I tell her how I feel regardless of her gettingback with him or hope that she realises she wants to be with me IF theybreak-up again.

Wibbs

You keep bottling it and she will never go out with you. Say something. Say it now and let her make up her mind. Personally I think you've maybe waited too long. What are you waiting for? Her to magically read your mind? I mean she's already run it by you once(probably more). I know I'll get slated by some for this next statement and maybe I'm not sensitive enough or whatever, but for gods sake man, grow a pair or lose out. Simple as that.

Lollipops23

why oh why didn't you tell her on one of the several chances she gave you??you should tell her,but don't expect her to run into your arms. She's probably already all confused with the situation with the other guy and you telling her won't help.
But like i said,she needs to know. Just don't bloody bottle ie again.

Me to you

Tell her regardless of her getting back with the other fella, just go for it.... !! What do you have to lose? I mean the relief of getting it off your chest alone will be worth it...! Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Wibbs wrote: »

You keep bottling it and she will never go out with you. Say something. Say it now and let her make up her mind. Personally I think you've maybe waited too long. What are you waiting for? Her to magically read your mind? I mean she's already run it by you once(probably more). I know I'll get slated by some for this next statement and maybe I'm not sensitive enough or whatever, but for gods sake man, grow a pair or lose out. Simple as that.

lollipops23 wrote: »

why oh why didn't you tell her on one of the several chances she gave you??you should tell her,but don't expect her to run into your arms. She's probably already all confused with the situation with the other guy and you telling her won't help. But like i said,she needs to know. Just don't bloody bottle ie again.

OP HERE: I don't want to lose her completely. Is there a certain way I should say it or should I just tell her I need to talk, bring her to a calm neutral place and bear all.
I'm usually a pretty open, never think before I talk kinda guy but with her I just can't

Overheal

Yeah, we never mean to lose them but in the end its better for your health, and I mean that. You might not be able to fathom not having her around as a friend but at least in my own situation, as soon as that happened for me I realised the kind of trap I had let myself fall into. Later on you're glad to have your head cleared again.

So its really a win-win-win situation. Either you start being a couple, remain being friends, or you're free of the emotional burden. It all starts with coming clean about your feelings though.

coco06

ye just go for it and tell her everything..

Wagon

Overheal wrote: »

Yeah, we never mean to lose them but in the end its better for your health, and I mean that. You might not be able to fathom not having her around as a friend but at least in my own situation, as soon as that happened for me I realised the kind of trap I had let myself fall into. Later on you're glad to have your head cleared again.

So its really a win-win-win situation. Either you start being a couple, remain being friends, or you're free of the emotional burden. It all starts with coming clean about your feelings though.

This man talks sense.

Just bleedin' tell her

Gannicus

sounds you might be in love there mate. Just say it. go up to her and say it. By the sounds of it she did the same thing but gave up waiting for you. Now she's moved on.. say it before its too late and you lose her