Long Distance Relationships.....Do they work?

LegacyUser

Hey guys....gonna go unreg'd for this

Here's my prob-basically I've met a girl who I really like....we're both 17 and she lives quite
a bit away but still close enough for us to be able to meet. This girl is totally different to any other girl I've ever met, she is what I'd consider my ideal girl....we like the same things...music....movies......and we chat for hours online about everything.....sometimes for 7-8 hours....were both kinda shy around boys/girls but with each other we're great.....we just really click....from what she's said I know she'd like us to maybe be something more than friends...which I'd like too..but the only thing is the distance between us....I'd love for us to give it a shot...but I don't want the distance to ruin it for us because she is really special to me and I'd hate for us to try and fail and then feel so awkward I'd lose her as a friend too.

So tell me guys....have you got any experience with this type of relationship and do ya

think we should give it a go anyway?

Thanks for reading

towel401

how often will you go see her? if its very infrequent then they will give up and one day they will have found some sunshine boy next door even if you think she is far too shy or whatever they all do it.

don't be afraid to lose her as a friend. there is nothing worse than talking to someone you're in love with but you cant have them because they found someone else. there is an inspirational saying to go along with this but i forgot what it was

Faith

Of course they can work, it just depends on your level of commitment. How far is far? If you're going to be able to see each other regularly enough then it can work just fine. Or if there's a clear end in sight (in your case, maybe if you were both headed to the same college or something), then it's easier. Can either of you drive yet?

Long distance is hard, without a doubt, and can be frustrating and lonely, but if you feel she's worth it, then by all means give it a shot! One upside is it's so much more special when you see each other.

LegacyUser

Faith wrote: »

Of course they can work, it just depends on your level of commitment. How far is far? If you're going to be able to see each other regularly enough then it can work just fine. Or if there's a clear end in sight (in your case, maybe if you were both headed to the same college or something), then it's easier. Can either of you drive yet?

Long distance is hard, without a doubt, and can be frustrating and lonely, but if you feel she's worth it, then by all means give it a shot! One upside is it's so much more special when you see each other.

Well she's from Louth and I'm from Wicklow...but I'd be willing to travel to see her once a
week......and nope neither of us can drive yet...I know it'll be hard but I think we'd both like to give it a shot...if we didn't i think we'd always wonder if it could've worked out

Redpunto

It can work, and as long as youre both happy the way things are and not being able to see each other as often as youd both like.

Go for it, make her feel special, youll regret not going for it more than giving it a shot. Take her on a date and maybe a little smooch at the end of the night.

At 17 I assume youre about to do your leaving cert and your life changes after that, going to college, etc. But at your age you cant look too far into the future as you dont know what'll hold. Enjoy what you have for the moment and enjoy each other's company.

cute_cow

Redpunto wrote: »

It can work, and as long as youre both happy the way things are and not being able to see each other as often as youd both like.

I agree 100%. If you are both happy with the arrangements then go for it. My current BF and I have a long distance for the first 6-8 months of our relationship. Seen each other about 1 weekend out of 4.

It was hard, but worth it. Still together almost 6 years later.

askU

cute_cow wrote: »

. Seen each other about 1 weekend out of 4.

It was hard, but worth it. Still together almost 6 years later.

That not a relationship - 1 week out of 4?!

Reesy

If you're going to make a long-distance relationship, make sure you work REALLY hard at it, and encourage her too, also.

Good luck.

Ainekav

im in one at the moment. its hard at times. see each other most weekends (not this one ) and holidays. it can be lonely and challenging but it can also work. very well actually! go for it youll never know unless you gve it a shot. youll soon be goin to college i assume anyway...

stovelid

I was in one, and we're married now. You do have to work at it though, and try and see and see each other as much as you can manage/afford.

allandanyways

Yuppp... He's from Donegal and I'm from Kildare... He goes to college down here which makes it bit easier but the summers horrible and I'm going to Spain next year which is gonna be awful but as many OPs have said, if you're committed to it and it really is love, ye will make it work.

Pyr0

In a long distance relationship myself, she's down in Cork and I'm here in Dublin, see her once a week or whenever I have the money to go down, yeah its hard but if you really care about each other you can get over it easily enough.