Boyfriend Issue

LegacyUser

Ok guys,

I've been reading some other relationship threads here and compared to some of them this is almost a non issue. But I can't help but feel annoyed and upset at my boyfriend lately.

I love him dearly, but it bothers me how flirty he is. I've talked to him about it and told him it makes me feel less special to him, but he says it is harmless and it is just how he is.

Am I completely over-reacting by feeling disrespected after him saying he can't/won't change that? In fairness to him he is open and honest about it, and I don't think he would cheat.

It could just be a "Hi beautiful", to a friend (in a friendly way) but I still feel disrespected.
It's really starting to bother me more and more.
Any opinions?

Lollipops23

hmm,it really depends on his behavior,like just greeting a friend like that wouldn't bother me tbh.unless the tone is all pervy like!!is he touchy feely with them?

pretty-in-pink

Has he always been flirty? Some people are just flirts, without intending to be. Its just their nature.

If its a new development, then I'd worry, otherwise, there is not a lot he can do tbh.

l3LoWnA

My ex told me (after meeting, and flirting with, one of my many beautiful friends, on front of my face) that if she was his "friend" he would put her on his mantlepiece. He did a sort of curvy body signal with his hands while saying it as if to say she had the perfect body! He was also almost drooling and I must admit she was being extremely flirty with him that night aswell, she was a single girl and is always pretty flirty with all men so I don't blame her as much as him. He, on the other hand, was meeting his girlfriends friends for the first time and should have had a little more cop-on and respect for me.

It was my birthday and I was feeling a bit low at the time too! He certainly didn't cheer me up with his comments!

Needless to say he became my "ex" soon after that. His disrespect continued and he got the ould heave-ho from myself, much to his dismay

Sorry OP - a bit off topic! As the others say, it totally depends on if he's just that type of guy. If he's always been like that, well then, it's your problem and not his. If he's became like this over time, then I'd worry a bit. Although, maybe it's your influence on him that's changed him, so it's hard to judge from here. Sorry to have been of no help :rolleyes:

Karen_*

Tell him his behaviour bothers you. Maybe he doesn't know? Even if this is a habit he has then habits can be broken and hopefully he'll be totally willing to break a habit that bothers you so much.

von Neumann

I hate to say it but from the sounds of things your both right.

If it makes you uncomfortable then he should be wise enough to give it a break.

But if he's (like me) painfully independent it will drive him bizzerk if you start telling him what to do.

Q battle of wills and lots of arguments!

My only suggestion is try and let him see how upset it's making you.
That way he'll be changing his ways to make you happy rather than being told what to do.

experiMental

I'm sorry to be "destroying" this thread, but I'm really outraged at the number of "boyfriend issues"-like threads in this sub forum. It looks as if almost every second guy or so is a dipsh*t. I'm a guy and all my mates are sound.

Maybe you girls have unrealistic expectations and can't get a grip on reality.

Or maybe I'm wrong. I'm 22, had no relationship before and fell out with almost every young lady who I worked/studied with. Who is right? You be the judge, but please don't ban me.

gaybitch

Have you been jealous in your other relationships? Someone who is overly protective and jealous can end up driving their loved ones away - unless his flirty banter really upsets you and gets you down, can't you just overlook it?

Is your boyfriend being warm, friendly and gregarious with other women a deal-breaker for you? If it is, then it is.

If you've asked him to do something about it in a reasonable manner, and he's explained that it's just the way his personality is, then it may be something you'll have to learn to deal with and get over.

Once you trust him and are secure in the knowledge that he would never cheat, then why does it matter if he says "hey beautiful" to a completely platonic friend?