One-way relationship?

LegacyUser

Ive been seeing this guy for a couple of months now. We can't see each other much because we both work, are in college and live quite far away from each other. When we do see each other though it's great.. we get along really really well, have such a laugh, and the sex side of things, when possible, is great too. The thing is, I feel like its always me who has to get in touch with him and arrange things. Even at the beginning, when we had just kissed on nights out with mutual friends a few times and texted a bit, all his friends were saying he was crazy about me but wasnt going to make the first move in bringing it any further, so I just rang him and basically said how i felt, and he said he felt the same but had been too shy to say anything.
So it's kinda always been me who has to get things going. He's always eager to go along with plans, or suggest alternatives to what I say if he can't make it, but I just wish he'd be the one to text me first sometimes. At times I wonder if I didn't text him for days, (or weeks...) how long before he'd get in touch. I probably should try that, but to be honest it'd drive me mad sitting waiting for a text from him!
Im absolutely crazy about the guy but I just think he needs a bit of a kick. Would it sound really insecure or petty of me to bring this up in conversation with him??

LegacyUser

I feel the same way with my boyfriend of 9 months, and we see each other pretty regularly. Same thing, it was me who pretty much ended up asking him out cos he was too shy and wouldnt make the 1st move. Still always feel like its me who sends the texts or makes the calls to ask are we seeing each other tomorrow or can we do something at the weekends.. Gets pretty annoying cos you start to feel like theyre not that interested. Know how you feel!! Ive mentioned it to him and he tries but then it goes back to the same routine again.

Ainekav

try the not textin him thing. see what happens. he should get the message. but maybe not! or.... next time you see him face to face, lay down the law! say your sick of bein the one to keep up contact and if he doesnt start makin an effort then your gone! theres no way he wont get the message there..two great options there ladies id prob go with option 2 saves a lot more time..

Overheal

Ainekav wrote: »

try the not textin him thing.

Mind-game, to be honest. Not advised.

What ever happened to just sitting someone down and saying Hey, why do you be the one to call me every once in a while?

click4444

I’m sorry to be mean but are you in a relationship. Did you have the relationship talk. You need to make a decision you’re not happy tell him/text him.

Redpunto

You need to tell him how you feel, that you need him to make the effort. In all fairness I would assume if a guy is interested in you that he would make the effort but maybe hes just very shy. Once you tell him things should change on his part, if they dont then thats a problem.