Moving abroad to work, long distance relationship (or doing work I don't like)

LegacyUser

I'll start at the beginning I guess,

Been studying for the past few years and finished my course at the beginning of the summer.
I really enjoyed college, the course, and done well over the few years, so well I had a job offered to me but that fell through as a result of this economic slowdown.

There where jobs a plenty for my line of work up until prob 6-8 months ago. I've been spending a considerable amount of time the last few months looking for work, and without success. Over the time I've had it in the back of my mind to maybe go abroad for work, possibly back to my native country, but I've not given it much taught since I've been in a relation ship for about a year and a half.

I love my girl friend lots and she me, we've been living together for about a year I guess and all is going well. I know we would miss each other lots.

My dilemma; I'm totally fed up and done with looking for work here in Ireland, it's just not there until things pick up. I've been told to just find another job until I find something I want. Thing is, I went to college to educate myself and start a career. I've worked hard in college and to go and find any job just doesn't appeal to me, I could have done this years ago. I'm not totally happy now being without a job, I feel rather useless and bored tbh, and fail to see how any job would be better. More and more I think about looking for a job abroad.

We've talked about it a little and neither of us really want to live away from each other, I guess for fear of growing apart over time.

There's also the house we live in, we are renting it with a few people and me moving out would mean she has to find a new place also as well as possible the others in the house.

I'm not sure what to do, there's no guarantee i'll find work else where either, I have to look into it in much more detail depending on where I go, Uk is prob the easiest option.

What are peoples experiences, what kind of advice have you for me?

Thanks.

LegacyUser

Hi Here or there,


First of all,

Would your girlfriend considering going with you?

Second of all - If I were you I would go without a doubt. When you first leave college is your most vital time to be working. It's very hard to get your foot in the door. If you go abroad for a while and get a bit of experience you will be in a better position to get a job when you come back, even with the economic downturn. If you work in a different job here, you will find it very hard to get bck into your chosen career. Employers like the effort if somebody moves to get experience.

I have moved for work since I finished college, as there was none in my area at that time. Alot of people have to do this. I live apart from my boyfriend and will not be seeing him for six months. It is hard but it is doable. We keep in touch all the time on the phone and we haven't grown apart at all.

My advice is you will regret it if you dont go as employers hat to see blank spaces on cvs, and they wont excuse you because there were no jobs. They will say you should have looked harder and moved away if you had to.

LegacyUser

There's talk of us maybe going to Oz late next year or the following year but until then she's going to be in college finishing up in September next year.

Having a gap is another worry, I have no reason other than I couldn't find work that I wanted and it's 4 months now

I won't be going to far from Ireland so flying over and back from time to time is do-able.

LegacyUser

Tried to talk to her a bit but, understandable, she doesn't want me to go.

She was fuming! Didn't like it at all.

Should I be prepared to help her out? Financially she's ok now, she's in college so things can get though. We share the rent for this room, which is quite dear but manageable together. She would have to move out if I where to leave Ireland which she isn't happy about either. We live in a really nice place and it would be hard to find something even half as nice, this is another thing she's worrying over and if I would pay towards her rent.

I can't see why I should. It would be my faulth if I where to move out. She's treating it like the end of the world.

And to make things hard she even said if I move it's over, I don't know if she really meant this or not since she was quite mad at me for thinking of moving.

She also thinks I should just find a job to keep me going until next year when we have definite plans for going to Oz. I don't know how to make her understand how I want to do what I've work towards over the years and unfortunately in the current economy that isn't possible here in Ireland.