big bust up

LegacyUser

opinions please. both of us had too much to drink. i wound him up so much that he pushed me. we are now not talking but both of us want to sort this out. i know my oh is not like that but im afraid that he wont be able to get past this as he is so angry with himself.

of course i want things sorted out straight away but he wants to talk on friday. said he loves me and doesnt want to lose me etc. but when i try to contact him by call or text he is being cold......

Wagon

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opinions please. both of us had too much to drink. i wound him up so much that he pushed me. we are now not talking but both of us want to sort this out. i know my oh is not like that but im afraid that he wont be able to get past this as he is so angry with himself.

of course i want things sorted out straight away but he wants to talk on friday. said he loves me and doesnt want to lose me etc. but when i try to contact him by call or text he is being cold......

What happened? Your not going to get any useful opinions until you elaborate a bit further.

diamondp

leave him to cool down, if he is angry with himself then just give him the space he has asked for and speak on friday. only advice i can give with the little info you have given.

LegacyUser

we went away for a weekend had a fantatsic thursday day and nigth and friday day and night. at the end of the friday night we were up dancing together and having a laugh and all of a sudden I saw red and sotrmed out of the venue. he ran after me to see what was wrong and i just ignored him which wound him up and he ran up behind me and pushed me to the ground.

he was in tears and got me back to the hotel we stayed in but did not stay himself and didnt come home wiht me the next day. we are trying to sort things out, everythign has been so good the last 7 months. obviously i want this sorted out asap but he wants space.

MagicMarker

Maybe give Jeremy Kyle a call?

Not the best trait of a relationship really, why not just give him space as he obviously wants it.

*edit* So, you wound him up and he pushed you to the ground, by what you're saying it sounds like you blame yourself? That's not the kind of direction you want to go, nip it in the bud, now!

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why did you see red?

LegacyUser

no idea. no reason whatsoever. i can only think that i just drank too much and became an a**hole.

dreamer_ire

Something is missing in this story... u saw red for a reason and u need to figure out why.

The other thing worth figuring out is did he push u so hard u fell or did he push u and u stumbled cos you had drunk so much?

LegacyUser

I;ve had that where a gf / date has been so wasted that they turn for no reason.....

They just go a bit mental and have no recollection the next day.

It;s scary more than anything else as it's such an irrational anger coming from leftfield although possibly with some underlying sentiment.

One date I was on the girl went nuts at the end of the evening as we couldn't get a cab - she turned on me and started verbally abusing me - I walked off. Not good after only a few dates.

I;d say he's just a bit shocked or, maybe you said something which really upset him.