Stupid Kiss

LegacyUser

Briefly - just joined a company with a few others and planning to be there a while. Went out for drinks, had a bit much and snogged one of the new workmates. Problem being I'm in my thirties and shes only gone 18. I didnt go in today but really worried about monday. Feel like a sleazebag. Obviously she's attractive but I have to work in a team with her. What I did was wrong I'm pretty sure of that, seeing as she's only a child. I am looking for advice on what to do. Should I clear the air with her and explain it was just a bit of drunk fun, or just leave it and say nothing?

FionaC

Just pretend it never happened unless she brings it up. It was only a snog feck it shes 18 she is an adult so stop worrying about it. Honestly it will be forgotten about before long.

MagicMarker

silly_girl18 wrote: »

Briefly - just joined a company with a few others and planning to be there a while. Went out for drinks, had a bit much and snogged one of the new workmates. Problem being I'm in my thirties and shes only gone 18. I didnt go in today but really worried about monday. Feel like a sleazebag. Obviously she's attractive but I have to work in a team with her. What I did was wrong I'm pretty sure of that, seeing as she's only a child. I am looking for advice on what to do. Should I clear the air with her and explain it was just a bit of drunk fun, or just leave it and say nothing?

Your choice of username is perplexing to say the least.

My advice, learn to drink responsibly and don't shít on your own door step.

kmick

You better pray the nerdy one with glasses from accounts did'nt have her camera! Imagine the pictures?

shellyboo

The biggest mistake you made so far was not going in today. You should have went in and faced the music, acted cool as if it was no big deal. Now it'll be a big scandal.

However, the only thing you can do is go in on Monday, be cool about it, laugh off the stick you're going to get. Take the girl aside, apologise profusely and say you had too much to drink and you shouldn't have made a move on her - whether this is the case or not.

BAM!

Just go in on Monday and act like nothing happened. She is an adult and ye were both consenting so who cares? Yes, people will talk but let them. There'll soon be another drama for them to go on about. Act like it never happened and only mention it if she brings it up.

Homer

silly_girl18 wrote: »

Briefly - just joined a company .... I didnt go in today

Don't go out drinking with the boys if you can't get up with the men!

syklops

No dont take her aside and apologise. Why would you apologisze? Assuming she kissed you back you have nothing to be sorry about.

It happens. It happens more than people let on. Laugh it off and leave it be.

tinabyrne5

Did she kiss you back? If so I wouldn't worry about it. We all do stupid things when we are drunk but in this case, it's not as big of a deal as you think. She probably feels the same way!

Colonel_McCoy

Pretend it didnt happen its only a kiss unless she got a photo of it and put it on her bebo!

Loopy

I agree you should of gone in today.

She's an adult, your an adult, it was a kiss!!

It will be forgotten in a week. Go in Monday and face the music.. Bit of slagging and banter and that's it over!!

LegacyUser

I'm sure most have us have had similar experiences of stupid things we've done while drunk.....

Remember, everyone else was drunk as well and have hazy recollections.

Yes she was 18 and she was up for snogging you - you snogged, that was it. I've slept with a girl I sit opposite and turned up the next day for work and just gotten on with things.

They're never as bad as they seem and by tomorrow you'll be feeling physically better and mentally stronger so it won't seem as bad.

Your work mates might give you a ribbing and you'd probably do the same to them.

Yes, there may be a bit of gossip about it but hey, at least you didn't stand up inthe middle of the MD's Christmas party speech and tell him to sit down while pointing at your watch telling him that he had gone over time........
or told an older colleague what you'd like do to them consistently throughout an evening out with work..........
or turned up for work late 3 mornings in a row during your first week of work in the same shirt, suit and tie as there were parties on............

We live and we learn

Zzippy

If you're worried about what colleagues/management will think of you - I'd be more worried about what they'd think of you not going in today cos you had a few drinks last night. TBH if I was the boss I'd be more concerned about you calling in sick or whatever than whatever you get up to outside of work. You're no use to the company when you're not there...

Sinall

These things happen. I know it feels really horrible at the moment, but you are panicking and you always see things more negatively the day after you have a few drinks!

These things happen frequently when drink is involved. A lot of people seemingly kiss colleagues when their inhibitions are down. Yes, it will be embarrassing for a few days but it will be much better when you face the music and go in to work! Remember that you are more focused on yourself - other people are more concerned about themselves, what you do is probably not of huge importance to them. It's a big deal to you but not the same for other people - because of doesn't directly involve them!

Shapes

MagicMarker wrote: »

Your choice of username is perplexing to say the least.

My advice, learn to drink responsibly and don't shít on your own door step.

Amen.

Chinafoot

silly_girl18 wrote: »

she's only a child.

With all due respect, the child in this situtation seems to be you. You didn't go into work because of a drunken snog with a work mate? Grow up for gods sake. It happens, it's not the end of the world and chances are it wont be mentioned and things will go on as normal. Unless, of course, you continue acting ridiculously and make this into a much bigger deal than it is.


She's 18, not 15. The only reason you should apologise is if you kissed her and she pushed you away. If she kissed you back then its fine. Stop looking at her like she's a child, she is an adult. If you're uncomfortable with the age difference then make sure it doesn't happen again.

Don't be weird towards this girl otherwise you'll make both your working lives very uncomfortable.

the_syco

Did ye enjoy it? Cos I doubt she would have kissed ye if she didn't. Point is: you're both adults, so: game on.

wasper

silly_girl18 wrote: »

Briefly - just joined a company with a few others and planning to be there a while. Went out for drinks, had a bit much and snogged one of the new workmates. Problem being I'm in my thirties and shes only gone 18. I didnt go in today but really worried about monday. Feel like a sleazebag. Obviously she's attractive but I have to work in a team with her. What I did was wrong I'm pretty sure of that, seeing as she's only a child. I am looking for advice on what to do. Should I clear the air with her and explain it was just a bit of drunk fun, or just leave it and say nothing?

I don't see any problem with what happened because of the following:
1- You are a free agent with no wife or a GF.
2- You are not her boss at work.
3- She is a free agent.
Office gossip will die down eventually & the people will move to a new topic.

Big Knox

silly_girl18 wrote: »

Briefly - just joined a company with a few others and planning to be there a while. Went out for drinks, had a bit much and snogged one of the new workmates. Problem being I'm in my thirties and shes only gone 18. I didnt go in today but really worried about monday. Feel like a sleazebag. Obviously she's attractive but I have to work in a team with her. What I did was wrong I'm pretty sure of that, seeing as she's only a child. I am looking for advice on what to do. Should I clear the air with her and explain it was just a bit of drunk fun, or just leave it and say nothing?

Wait, what exactly is the problem here??

Apart from the fact you didn't go into work it sounds like a pretty good night out!! :pac: