friend texting guy who aked me out

LegacyUser

opinions required please-won't go into too much detail but basically a guy who had been interested in me, asked me out for a drink, we were texting etc, but didn't get a chance for anything to happen yet (working times etc etc) anyway my friend started texting him as she wanted to make new friends after breaking up with her boyfriend. long story short-then she invited him over to her house and he came over LATE at night-my other friend was there so nthing happened etc but I wasn't invited as she thought i would be busy-she told me next morning in a very casual way. she is now mad with me that i am bothered by this. I said nothing before that but when i heard this i did say it bothered me.SHE IS MAD AT ME says i am being silly-she just wants to be friends with him an that i should have shown him i liked him more rather than being so casual What you think? is she right?

Stench Blossoms

You don't own him so he can do what he wants.

I'd agree with your friend but if she's anything more than friends with him shes a bi-atch.

speaktofrank

From a guy's perspective- Well you should have shown some interest then, no good crying now just because he is interested in someone else.
I hate that girl mentality of 'Oh I am not interested but everyone else please dont ever talk to him, just in case I change my mind in about six months time.'

Redpunto

Sounds like they just didnt think youd be offended by the situation, I understand where you are coming from by not being asked as well but by the sounds of it, its all innocent. If you like him, then organise somfink, shes not your cilla black!!.

fuzzywiggle

You don't start texting someone and inviting them over if you just want to be friends with them. She's obviously interested and has no one since she's single now so she literally swoops in for the first fella she meets. It's bad form.

DapperGent

I think you need to brand him at the first opportunity.

hussey

You are paranoid, your friends wants to make friends, he comes over when other people are in the house,

Jees get over yourself. He is not yours.....

marie_85

I had a friend like that once who was 'just being friendly' to my ex boyfriend. Long story short, I heard rumours that he was cheating on me with her and after me and him broke up (for other reasons) they ended up together.

There's a line there. It depends on how well she knew him beforehand but yeah, if her 'interest' in him is only recent, I'd be a bit annoyed.

LemonyFresh

Unless she has a calculated agenda and is out to snare him before you do first, it's most likely something you shouldn't fall out over.

Organise that date, missy

CathyMoran

My gut instinct is that she is after him, but I could be wrong. Unfortunatly you did not make your intentions clear so she has every right to> a similar situation happened to me a few years ago (pre mobile phones)< but i ended up marrying the guy in the end!

Burial

As a poster above said, you don't own the guy and it's your fault for not actually taking action and organising a date with him. You don't have any right to question the other girls motives.

BAM!

It's her friend so I think she has a right to question motives here, especially because it sounds as if she is making a subtle move here. Obviously you are not seeing him so he is free to do whay he wants, but the issue here is with your friend- she should not be initiating something with him if she knows you like him.

Give her the benefit of the doubt I say and see where she takes it, because at the moment she hasn't done anything theoretically and you can't be mad. But if she takes this further then she is sneaky and a bi-atch. In girl world it's just a big no no. My 2c.

Oniontops

If your friend knew you liked him and that you were texting him for a while and you were flirting with him, then she shouldn't be acting like this. If she didn't know, then she probably doesn't see what she is doing wrong.

If i were you, I'd thread carefully and probably at this stage I'd just let this guy go. And let your friend have her moment with him. She's probably enjoying the attention after her recent break up and needs a bit of confidence.

Reality is, if a guy really likes you he will walk on fire to grab your attention. He wouldn't be hanging out in a suspicious way with one of your best mates. And he'd be very conscious of how things would look to you if he really liked you. You will realise this when you meet your boyfriend in the future.

You may be experiencing a bit of the green eyed monster at the mo. Just leave it and pull back. Because really is it worth it and is he worth it? And what will you acheive by bringing it up with your friend again? Nothing but an argument. A cliche i know but there are plenty more fish in the sea!!!

Tip for future: don't place your hopes on a guy who texts all the time. If he likes you he will ring. Shyness disappears when a man is on a mission to impress! I learned from experience.

Good luck

AngryBadger

Oniontops wrote: »

Reality is, if a guy really likes you he will walk on fire to grab your attention. He wouldn't be hanging out in a suspicious way with one of your best mates. And he'd be very conscious of how things would look to you if he really liked you. You will realise this when you meet your boyfriend in the future.

+1 to all this!

OP you haven't made a move on this guy, and you have no claim to him so he/your friend can do what they want.

That said, it's generally considered bad form for friends to knowingly "poach" people they know their friends are interested in, particularly if those friends are trying to set up dates and whatnot.

I think your "friend" would have to be stupid not to realise how it must look inviting a guy that she barely knows over to her house in the wee hours, even if someone else was there. Depends on which you consider more important, your "friendship" or this new guy.