What do i do now? Advice pleace

LegacyUser

I'll have to go unregged for this one.. i duno what im looking for, suppose advice really.

Basically, i called it a day with the ex just over 2 months ago as much as it killed me, it just got too much...

For the year and a half we we're together i was madly in love with this girl. We talked for hours everyday and usually seen each other 3/4 days a week during college or almost everyday otherwise.. I thought life was great in that i was gifted by meeting what id have considered "the one"...

Anyway, i threated her like my princess. I was always there 100% for anything and everything. I always supported her and her dicesions no matter what, even if i didnt agree with them. Id helped her in anyway possible i could for anything and everything, big or small. Id do whatever itd take to make her happy when things werent good for her. Id try to just do it in general anyway, cause Id do anything to put a smile on her face basically.

There actually wasnt a thing i wouldnt have done for that girl. You name it i done it or atleast would have...

Just to stress that point for example id leave college early, drop work and miss study to walk 3miles to walk her home from school or work only to see her for 15mins, thats how much she meant.. even in the lashings of rain, sleight and snow..

Anywho back to the point. Even tho i remained being a good BF, doing all the above she never done anything other than hurt and upset me through out the relationship. i.e was never there when id need her, broke up with me a few days before my bday, told me on my bday we could never speak again, said shed take me back if i changed which i stupidly agreed too, never put any tought into presents for bdays, xmas, valentines etc..

Basically the total opposite as what i was to her... but i didnt see any of it because i loved her and i thought she loved me. I was blind until i copped on and saw these things a few weeks after the break... I guess i felt bad because she had a really bad life and all i wanted to do was be the guy to change it all..

BTW the reasons she broke up with me the first time was because she claimed i was a **** bf? In that i didnt bring her out enough and threat her like a proper bf would?

Now tbh, we didn go out that much because of money. I didnt work but i was stil spending every penny i got on the 2 of us. She expected me to pay for everything and that was the prob. I couldn. But stupidly did. I obv couldnt afford to be doin it every weekend so wed be restricted to goin out once maybe twice a month with the exception of ocasions like xmas and valentines and what not when we'd go for dinner. Anyway i didn care. i loved her and guessed it was all worth it for her and to make her happy. But no.. wasnt enought.. also wasnt enough i didnt buy her random pressies enough?

Anyway, after all that we got back together because i was an ejit. Same thing happened again mid summer and enough was enough for me... I had to leave her, she done nothing for me and wasnt even willing to try to fix things as they got too much for her... basically didnt wanna..

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Thing is, she had semi-apologised for all the things said and wanted to be friends. I was kool with that. This was 2 months after we broke and everything was fine. We were grand for those 2 months, getting over each other and just talking occasionaly until one day the hurt began again bringing up old rows and ****ting on about new fellas.

I cut all contact and that was just over a month now. I feel iv finally gotten over her but stil find myself hurt. Nothing i can do bout that..

Anywho, shes stil contined to text me constantly apologising of how shes realised how badly threated i was and just wants me to talk to her...

Im stil not interested, i know whats good for me.

But todays the anniversary of a very close relative of hers that only i really know and understand what they had between em and how much she misses her. I was there the past years for her during this time to comfort her. Obv not this time round..

This is finally the prob and apologys for giving the long background..

Shes texted me today again apologising for everything and was just saying how upset she is and how great i was being there for her the past 2 years and that she'd like to just talk to me..

i havent replied as of yet but i really feel i should..

What do you's think? I dont even know what to say if i was to.. What would i say?

Any advice would be great and thanx a mill for reading

Wibbs

Colour me heartless, but I figure it's over and you don't owe her anything at this point. She's angling to get you to be her "friend". Maybe you could be down the line, but not now IMHO. The other thing is of course why have someone that dozy as a friend? I personally wouldn't.

TelePaul

Turn your phone off then go have a few beers with your mates. You don't need someone playing games with you.

IRISH RAIL

Agree with the other two posters

shes telling you about her other fellas and now realises what a good boyfriend you were shes probably angling to get you back.

she was never there for you now shes looking for you to be there for her id text her telling her this then switch the phone off and go to the pub.

Oryx

You sound kind, considerate and thoughtful. Unfortunately you got together with someone who, given the chance, takes advantage of that. Now that you are gone, of course shes going to want to get back that unfailing worship you gave her. She misses being adored and having you at her beck and call. And god love ya, youre so kindhearted, even though youre no longer so foolish as to have her walk on you, you dont want to be rude by ignoring her.

But you need to. If you let her back into your life, chances are she will pour on the charm till she has her little pet doormat back. You dont need it. If you cant blank her completely, send one text to say you sympathise with how shes feeling, but you dont want to be in touch. And then PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY so you cant reply again, and go do something else for the evening.