How do you break the ice with someone you know you have chemistry with?

decdec456

cos i spend the majority of the time hoping it will happen through Alcohol but then it doesn't cos she's classier than that , and it's not like i'm worried about things being awkward cos chatter is something easily done it's just like do I tell all my friends then everyone knows or just let it happen....

Why do american sitcoms make this look so easy?? lol

Kevster

Please don't resort to alcohol to feel comfortable in such situations - You want the person to know the real you, and not the intoxicated you. If you can manage to treat this person as a friend and learn to have simple friendly conversations with her, then you will be well on your way to creating a strong connection with her.

Don't just dive-in trying to be her partner. Instead, show her that you can be her friend too; while at the same time remembering to act slightly more than a friend would. For example, go out of your way - on certain occasions - to lend her support and help on issues that she is struggling with. Essentially, show her that you are willing to be there for her in times of need.

Kevin

[Jackass]

Why would you need to "break the ice" if there's already chemistry?

Just get along with her the way you normally would but step it up a notch. Some very casual, subtle flirting to begin with, compliment her on something she's wearing or her perfume, or if it's really good, you'll notice something about her (new perfume, got her hair done whatever - although I can't imagine why this is a good thing to women as it's blatantly obvious when a woman has her hair done, so we get wayyy to many brownie points for noticing and complimenting on that, but I'm not complaining ), anyway, do that and you can judge by her reaction.

If she's very pleased by the compliment, she's obviously delighted, maybe because she likes you - if she's a bit iffy about it or if it's in any way awkward or not entirely well received, I'd say back off.

Anyway, edge it up a bit each time, something a bit more forward, keep pushing the boundries, bring up conversation topics where you know you can direct it in your own sneaky way I mean there are very easy ways of casualy telling her in a light harted way that she's the best looking in a group / office / class as long as you build up to it and you think she's comfortable enough with you for you to say something like that.

Once you've tested the water a few times and gradually been more forward with her, and it's always been well received, you just gotta jump in and ask her out. You could come up with something origional (does she like to cook? does she think she's great? around the time you want to ask her out, bring up food / cooking, if she loves it and fancies herself as a great cook, tell her you're terrible and ask her what's her best dish - then say you'd love to know how to make that, why doesn't she come over for some night and teach you over a glass of wine or something - remember, never in a weird way, you've got to be pretty pally, but keep it as flirty as you can without going too far for how comfortable she is with you.)

Or you could go for the classics - Have you seen that new Ben Stiller movie? Haha, nah me neither, it's supposed to be gas!! Hey what ya reckon Friday we go and check it out, my treat?

Or even - Fancy going for a drink tomorrow night?

Just do yourself, and her, a favour, and don't use alcohol!! You could have the BEST intentions and know exactly what you want to say and how you want to say it, but trust me, it wont work and best case scenario she'll laugh it off, worst case scenario you'll make a fool of yourself and ruin everything.

John Mason

if there is ACTUAL chemistry you shouldnt have to do anything to break the ice, it will just happen

decdec456

Thanks all for reply but bear in mind i am 17! and in 6th year lol! but most of that makes sense!! Yeah hopefully things will develop and i have taken advice on board!

AckwelFoley

Snyper has many the "Ice Breakers"

None of which are suitable for PI.

Im a little out of touch with what 17 year olds do now, but i supose muster up the courage and ask her out to the cinema, make it a double date thing where you get a friend on board to come with you, and ask her to bring somone too..

Overheal

decdec456 wrote: »

Thanks all for reply but bear in mind i am 17! and in 6th year lol! but most of that makes sense!! Yeah hopefully things will develop and i have taken advice on board!

dont take too long! I remember when I was 12 I had a mad crush - hesitated all ****ing year then thats about the time I learned I was heading to your wet rock you never know quite what will happen 6 months down the road so dont take too much time.