10 years

unhappycamper

I met this girl in college in 99-01 and we were great pals. The chemistry was always one of great affection and laughter. We kissed rarely but on occasion. When she decided to travel in 02 it broke my heart because I had a deep crush on her. I wrote my first song for her and gave it to her along with a nice guitar my da had bought me. I haven't seen her in 7 years and I kept her number stored away. I called the number just for the crack to see if she was still around and low and behold she was still using the same number. We have been texting and phoning each-other allot just to catch up on old times and we have agreed to get together and party very soon. This morning I sent her a photo of myself posing with sun glasses, I wanted her to see what I looked like for the crack, its been so long. Anyway, she texted me back a pic of herself and I didn't recognize her! On my life. She looked absolutely stunning. I told her so and she said I wasn't looking too bad myself which was nice of her. The thing is I was always attracted to her based on her personality and cute looks but now she looks amazing. I am afraid if we meet up again that my feeling for her will come back with the added hassle of her looking the part to!

Please help!!!!

biko

What the issue here? That you still have a crush on her?
Meet up, compliment her, be a gentleman but let her know that you find her attractive. Good luck.

homerun_homer

Feic it, you've only one life to live so don't go down the road of regret. Meet her and see what pans out.

John Mason

er....what? so girl you fancy has agreed to go on a date with you but you are afraid to go..........

just go and meet the girl

DeiseChick87

oh my god...thats sooo cute!

what are u waiting for??!!!!! text her, arrange a nite out asap

i want an invite to the wedding k?!!
gud luck (doesnt sound as if u need it doh!!!!)

niceirishfella

Mate, relax, and enjoy it.

Oryx

Do you get the feeling from her that she just sees you as a friend? And that youll get hurt? Thats always a possibility, but if youve carried thoughts of her for 7 years, its about time you did something (anything!) about them. Far better to meet her and try to see if you can build something with her, than wonder for the next 7 years if you should have.

Faint heart never won fair maiden and all that.

vodkadub

give her one for me

unhappycamper

vodkadub wrote: »

give her one for me

She wouldn't go near ya mate!

dudara

vodkadub and unhappycamper Please don't post if you haven't anything helpful to add. Please read the charter with regard to posting in this forum.

dudara

unhappycamper

Oryx wrote: »

Do you get the feeling from her that she just sees you as a friend? And that youll get hurt? Thats always a possibility, but if youve carried thoughts of her for 7 years, its about time you did something (anything!) about them. Far better to meet her and try to see if you can build something with her, than wonder for the next 7 years if you should have.

Faint heart never won fair maiden and all that.

Well she did go off on her travels and that broke me up quite a bit at the time, I have always been her pal and all that and I suppose I don't want to go through the bull**** of developing feelings all over again. I'll meet up with her but eh keep my distance and be cool. Thanks.

unhappycamper

dudara wrote: »

vodkadub and unhappycamper Please don't post if you haven't anything helpful to add. Please read the charter with regard to posting in this forum.

dudara

I posted the thread so eh please bear that in mind!

dudara

unhappycamper wrote: »

I posted the thread so eh please bear that in mind!

You did, but the same rules regarding flippancy also apply.

BTW, as another poster said, let her know what you feel, pay her a complement. What's the worst that can happen?

Karen_*

Help us to help you! How can we stop you having feelings for the girl? And why do you not want to fall for her? Is it that you're still stuck on the girl you posted about a few weeks ago? What's the issue?

unhappycamper

Karen_* wrote: »

Help us to help you! How can we stop you having feelings for the girl? And why do you not want to fall for her? Is it that you're still stuck on the girl you posted about a few weeks ago? What's the issue?

Yes you are 100% Karen +1

I don't want to move on from my last relationship even though my x called it a day ! On the other hand I do want to get on with things and make a clean start! My head is a mess!

Karen_*

Well go for it with the new girl. The other one has finished with you and sometimes the best way to get over someone is to meet someone else. enjoy the feeling of getting back in the game again and just because one relationship didn't work doesn't mean the next one won't. Although we do tend to feel that if something good happens then there has to be a catch.

Take it easy with the girl and enjoy it for what it is and hopefully it works out. You don't know till you try.:)

unhappycamper

Karen_* wrote: »

Well go for it with the new girl. The other one has finished with you and sometimes the best way to get over someone is to meet someone else. enjoy the feeling of getting back in the game again and just because one relationship didn't work doesn't mean the next one won't. Although we do tend to feel that if something good happens then there has to be a catch.

Take it easy with the girl and enjoy it for what it is and hopefully it works out. You don't know till you try.:)

Yeah I mean I can do what I want to do and weigh up my options right? I am not in a relationship so I am free which means moving on is okay either way? doors swing both ways right?

Karen_*

Why would it not be ok for you to move on?

unhappycamper

Karen_* wrote: »

Why would it not be ok for you to move on?

Because I still do think about my x every day!

Karen_*

Well what better way to take her off your mind than to to move on?

And you're lucky. Plenty of people have their relationship end and have to go the long route of pain because they don't meet someone else quickly.

Just use your common sense with this and you won't go wrong.

unhappycamper

Karen_* wrote: »

Well what better way to take her off your mind than to to move on?

And you're lucky. Plenty of people have their relationship end and have to go the long route of pain because they don't meet someone else quickly.

Just use your common sense with this and you won't go wrong.

Will do, thanks Karen:)

vandermeyde

unhappycamper wrote: »

I'll meet up with her but eh keep my distance and be cool

Why would you do this? you haven't seen the girl in 7 years so it'll be like starting over. you never came clean to her about your feelings all those years ago prior to her heading off and now when you've gotten a second bite at the cherry you're still prevaricating?

Life is short and we only get one bite at it, meet up, flirt, make it obvious that you fancy her and take it from there. Learn from the mistakes you made first time round.

homerun_homer

unhappycamper wrote: »

Because I still do think about my x every day!

Man, I know how you feel as I was/still am a little bit in the same boat but if I had a blast from the past who I was crazy about re-enter my life and could distract me, as opposed to someone new who you have to make the effort to get to know (& have guilty feelings doing it cause it's hard to move on) then I would grab it with both hands.

Get on your phone and get arranging that date/meet up!!

unhappycamper

The general vibe I am getting is to move forward with my life sure I have nothing to lose.

homerun_homer

People told me the same and I knew it all along. Everyone goes through it and it can hold you back so when opportunity knocks don't let it slide.

Kirnsy

no regrets and all of that....

the only thing that could possibly go wrong is that the pic you sent was fuzzy and once she sees you again she might high tail it off for another 7 years;)

go for it

Heyes

So have you sent her a text arranging to meet up yet ?

unhappycamper

Heyes wrote: »

So have you sent her a text arranging to meet up yet ?

Yes we are going to meet up next weekend, she said to me a few weeks ago that we gotta catch up and see each-other in the physical as opposed to 'over the mobile phone'.

rover84

unhappycamper wrote: »

I met this girl in college in 99-01 and we were great pals. The chemistry was always one of great affection and laughter. We kissed rarely but on occasion. When she decided to travel in 02 it broke my heart because I had a deep crush on her.

Loike OMG, that is loike the cutest thing I have ever heard!

unhappycamper wrote: »

I wrote my first song for her and gave it to her along with a nice guitar my da had bought me.

I bet if your da found out that you were gonna write some crappy love song with it he would have never bought it for you in the first place

unhappycamper wrote: »

I haven't seen her in 7 years and I kept her number stored away.

Thats pretty sad

unhappycamper wrote: »

I called the number just for the crack to see if she was still around and low and behold she was still using the same number.

Same as above

unhappycamper wrote: »

We have been texting and phoning each-other allot just to catch up on old times and we have agreed to get together and party very soon.

Please let me know when that is Don Juan cos you sound like such a party animal

unhappycamper wrote: »

This morning I sent her a photo of myself posing with sun glasses, I wanted her to see what I looked like for the crack, its been so long.

What a neat idea, she must think your such a swell guy

unhappycamper wrote: »

Anyway, she texted me back a pic of herself and I didn't recognize her! On my life. She looked absolutely stunning.

You lie. She was about 10 stone heavier and an absolute swamp donkey, itd be better for everyone if you were just honest about it

unhappycamper wrote: »

I am afraid if we meet up again that my feeling for her will come back with the added hassle of her looking the part to!
Please help!!!!

Oh no, thats the worst thing imaginable!!!!!

unhappycamper

Fact: My dad was not happy about me giving the guitar away

Fact: it was a crappy love song but the chorus was deadly

'so take your course now, your heading in the right direction
and I never knew you at all (sob, sob)
after all my patience, was simply waisted on you..
now I'm feeling the blues..'

Fact: I kept her number because I like surprising her

Fact: I am a party animal hands down but in recent times my age 27 has slowed me down to 24 hrs then I need to sleep

Fact: She really does think I am a swell guy

Fact: her hair was long and she had lost her puppy fat so she was looking great

Fact: Having feelings for someone CAN REALLY drain you!


Thrown in fact: I have the flu and its a pain in the ass bigtime!

Third_Echelon

Have you been watching 'High Fidelity' or something lately?

Seriously, what is the worst that can happen? Just meet her and see how it goes. Sometimes after a break of that length, the attraction just might not be there any more. You'll never know unless you give it a shot though...

unhappycamper

Third_Echelon wrote: »

Have you been watching 'High Fidelity' or something lately?

Seriously, what is the worst that can happen? Just meet her and see how it goes. Sometimes after a break of that length, the attraction just might not be there any more. You'll never know unless you give it a shot though...

Must watch it again, its a great flick. I suppose I am hanging on like an ejit hoping my x will have a change of heart and hit me up! I am a sap I know. My last 3 year relationship ended as fast as you can say break up.

homerun_homer

unhappycamper wrote: »

Must watch it again, its a great flick. I suppose I am hanging on like an ejit hoping my x will have a change of heart and hit me up! I am a sap I know. My last 3 year relationship ended as fast as you can say break up.

Screw it, everyone wants the Ex-gf to come to their senses after a break and realise you are the greatest possible guy they could have and no one will love them like you do, and no sex will be better. But life's not so fair & it's not going to happen so you just have to move on.

unhappycamper

homerun_homer wrote: »

Screw it, everyone wants the Ex-gf to come to their senses after a break and realise you are the greatest possible guy they could have and no one will love them like you do, and no sex will be better. But life's not so fair & it's not going to happen so you just have to move on.

So frigging true man!

rvd156

It could go 2 way's....She will either just wanna pick up your friendship and thats it or she will see you as the guy she wants in her life....

Just go in with no expections and enjoy your old friends company....

Good luck dude...

unhappycamper

rvd156 wrote: »

It could go 2 way's....She will either just wanna pick up your friendship and thats it or she will see you as the guy she wants in her life....

Just go in with no expections and enjoy your old friends company....

Good luck dude...

Thanks dude, I am going to stop thinking about life and start enjoying it, my god it's funny how people can suck the time from you when they are not even there in the physical!

rvd156

yeah it can be tough to be wholehearted in a relationship and getting nothing back...

But remember....

What doesn't kill you can only make you stonger.....

Amazotheamazing

Dude, forget about the ex, she's made her call and you can't change that.

If the this new/old girl is interested and you've been carrying a torch for 7 years, maybe it time to act on it? The fact that you wrote her a song and gave her a guitar has probably given her a slight, discrete, not at all obvious hint that you're into her. If she's not interested, well, at least you'll know and you can close that chapter too.

At the minute you got nothing, so you've nothing to lose anyhow.

MagicMarker

Have you established if she's single? Because this isn't a date yet, it's old friends catching up.

unhappycamper

Amazotheamazing wrote: »

Dude, forget about the ex, she's made her call and you can't change that.

If the this new/old girl is interested and you've been carrying a torch for 7 years, maybe it time to act on it? The fact that you wrote her a song and gave her a guitar has probably given her a slight, discrete, not at all obvious hint that you're into her. If she's not interested, well, at least you'll know and you can close that chapter too.

At the minute you got nothing, so you've nothing to lose anyhow.

thanks dude

unhappycamper

MagicMarker wrote: »

Have you established if she's single? Because this isn't a date yet, it's old friends catching up.

she used to go out with bad boys in my opinion, but recently we both have broken up with our partners and she mentioned she ain't putting up with no bad boys anymore