Dilemma - need advice

leahyl

Hi ok i like this guy and have done for the last, oh, 12 years or so! I've known him since i was 9 or something (he's my brothers good friend) and recently we were at the wedding of a mutual friend - we chatted at the wedding and did a little bit of (in my opinion) flirting. Anyway my brothers other friend asked me out and although he;s a nice guy and everything isnt my type - it's his other friend i'm interested in! I'm just wondering if now the guy I like thinks that something is going to happen with this other guy (which it isnt - i havent heard frm him since the wedding) and that may prevent him from saying anything (if he likes me - i don't even know if he does!) i'm so confused! It's driving me crazy! He also said at the wedding that i should 'come out with them some night' (ie. him, my brother and others) Do you think this was an attempt to meet up with me again?

I'd be grateful for any advice!

Thanks

aye

i think it was an attempt to meet up with you again.

i wouldnt worry about the friend that asked you out, the guy your interested in will prob know you havent talked since the wedding, if they are both friends.

why not just go out with them sometime and tell him?
or ring him and ask him out?

chickenhawk

Ring the guy you like. From the sounds of it (him saying you should come along some night) he likes you. Make sure you let the other guy know you are not interested first though.

Burial

I'd say go for it and ask him on a date. Though I'd be put off if a friend wanted to be with a girl. Though if he got turned down, then it's fair game imo. the fact that your a sister to his close friend, does complicates things... Just go for it I say! You'll never know how he feels unless you ask! I wouldn't say tell him you liked him for the past 12 years though....

Tarakiwa

You have to go for it!
No guts no glory and all that stuff!!

Good Luck!

Gone Drinking

Speak to your brother..

If one of my mates sisters approached me I'd be running a mile for that very reason. You're my mates sister!

I wouldn't read into the invitation out thing either, he could have just been being nice.

agent_smith

What .... a girl.... that didn't put your man in the friendzone after 9 years! must be love!
joking aside... go for it.... give yourself a chance to be happy

FIBUA

no!! hold off for another 9 years just to be sure

DeiseChick87

personnally i think he said that because he wants to see u again! but he said it casually so as that if u said no, he wouldnt look like a prat!

let the other guy know that ur not interested first though. then 'casually' say it to ur bro (in a jokey kind of way) 'so wen am i coming out wit ye then?'

its always better to regret what u did do ...rather than what u didnt do! go for it!

gud luck x

leahyl

Thanks so much everyone for your comments! Tbh i'm so shy when it comes to things like this i'd never actually tell him straight out that i liked him - i'd be terrified he'd laugh in my face! But i was thinking of doing something similar to what 'DeiseChick87' said - you know jokingly saying 'so when am i going out with ye'.....it could work........

Thanks again tho - you knw the way sometimes you need to get stuff off your chest and the best people to talk to are people you dnt knw!